You remember when you where younger and you just got up your parents dressed you or they just put out the clothes that you could wear for the day? Please don’t act like your parents never dressed you because I can count the number of girls that came to school with the different colored barrettes in there hair and wore the dresses that looked like they where going to a wedding. The guys who always had to wear there shirts inside there pants and there pants being pulled halfway up to there stomach so you would see the outline of there socks. (Michael Jackson style)
I feel after those crazy moments that we decided to create our own sense of style. We get to high school and peoples values to stand out and be different or look a like changed. They started reading fashion blogs; make up blogs, and going to fashion websites just to get started on what they wanted to wear. If you look at Lil Wayne or Kanye West you can see there sense of style has changed dramatically. They want to stand out and be different but at the same time, they want people to take notice and follow the trend.
Once we hit college that is really the chance some of us get to reinvent ourselves and create this sense of style that we always wanted. Some people will get rid of there high school style and create there college style. You are surrounded by new people, new environment so why not create something new. At each stage of our life I feel that the sense of style we have is constantly changed by something we see and how mature we become. Instead of wearing a white tee and sneakers everywhere, we changed to a button up, tie and some nice shoes. If your sense of style has really changed you won’t conform or thirst on what everyone is doing, you will create your own thing and wing it from there.
Remember, your sense of style is something you create from your creative mind, if someone says they don’t like it, respect their opinion and tell them to fall in a hole. You are the artist and whatever you create is what YOU create, the more they judge the more they want to be like you.
Check out these two other websites
http://venivdvc.com/ is pretty much a Facebook for fashion, which allows you to mix and match your different styles. You can also see other people’s styles to create new things.
http://fashionthroughyoureyes.blogspot.com/ "Our main purpose is to show the power of fashion and how the little details of it can describe us as individuals. We want you to look at fashion through your own eyes and no one else's."
Saturday, December 24, 2011
Wednesday, November 23, 2011
The EX Factor
When did the EX become such a factor to some people? I feel as though if they are your EX then they are an EXample of what you don’t want the next person to be. What made them your EX? Is it that they had the qualities that you where looking for in the beginning but didn’t really stay consistent with? OR did they just fuck you over? You know how people are amazing in the first 9-12 weeks of getting to know them, they do all the right things to please you and make you happy. Then after awhile that diminishes, once they know they got you in their back pocket. You will deal with the most random bullshit that they throw at you and still stick around just because they “make you happy” or you “don’t know what to do without them.” The real reason you don’t want to leave is because you feel comfortable and they got you to that level. Once you feel comfortable you never want to leave someone no matter how bad they hurt you. You will accept anything they throw at you because you think that someone else won’t want you at all. Trust me you are 100% wrong. Know your worth before you get into anything with anybody. Do not allow them to destroy your self-esteem . . . it is called SELF-esteem for a reason. Move on with life, do you and find something better.
When did the EX become such a factor for some people?
Random situation that a couple of my friends have been through:
Have you ever been in that situation where someone you’re talking too just abruptly just leaves the “getting to know” relationship you guys had and just disappears without a trace? Come to find out they went back to their EX who they constantly BASH and had a falling out with, but there OFFICIALLY back together? The crazy thing about this is that you wasted a couple months getting to know them and spent hours with them. Then when they just up and disappear they don’t do the grown up thing, which is talk to you about it or give you an explanation. In my mind this is wrong, especially if you don’t even talk to the person and just leave. Sometimes you can’t understand why people do things; you just have to understand that life has its lessons. If you don’t completely END something with an EX then sometimes moving on is hard. People love that comfortable feeling with their EX’s that why they still consider there EX a factor in their lives.
“You have to let go of your EX to receive your next and that will be your best. You can’t embrace the future while clinging to the past.”
When did the EX become such a factor for some people?
Random situation that a couple of my friends have been through:
Have you ever been in that situation where someone you’re talking too just abruptly just leaves the “getting to know” relationship you guys had and just disappears without a trace? Come to find out they went back to their EX who they constantly BASH and had a falling out with, but there OFFICIALLY back together? The crazy thing about this is that you wasted a couple months getting to know them and spent hours with them. Then when they just up and disappear they don’t do the grown up thing, which is talk to you about it or give you an explanation. In my mind this is wrong, especially if you don’t even talk to the person and just leave. Sometimes you can’t understand why people do things; you just have to understand that life has its lessons. If you don’t completely END something with an EX then sometimes moving on is hard. People love that comfortable feeling with their EX’s that why they still consider there EX a factor in their lives.
“You have to let go of your EX to receive your next and that will be your best. You can’t embrace the future while clinging to the past.”
Monday, November 7, 2011
The Smile
What is the first thing you notice whenever you approach someone? Me personally I will notice there smile. Not everyone has a genuine smile and from that you can learn a lot about someone. I would have to say I am the BIGGEST sucker for a pretty girl with a gorgeous smile. Why? Just because I feel that is the most beautiful feature you can have besides your eyes. Your smile defines what kind of person you are. A smile tells a million stories and the one it wants to tell you can vary on the type of person smiling at you.
Smiles have their own little story depending on the person. They say that “No smile is as beautiful as the one that struggles through the tears.” As humans we tend to go through a lot of issues and if we are able to come out of those situations happy and with a smile, then we have overcome extreme hardship. To be able to put on a smile after something depressing or heartbreaking shows the strength behind your smile. That’s why each smile has its own story to tell.
If you are like me sometimes we just smile at the little things just because. I will walk somewhere and think of something just randomly stupid and start smiling. How about that text you get from that special someone and you start smiling at your phone? People then assume you’re crazy because you’re smiling at your phone. You see your crush and you give them the koolaid smile and then try to play it off like you weren’t looking. We all have our moments, and our smiles tell our stories.
“Always remember to be happy because you never know who's falling in love with your smile.”
Smiles have their own little story depending on the person. They say that “No smile is as beautiful as the one that struggles through the tears.” As humans we tend to go through a lot of issues and if we are able to come out of those situations happy and with a smile, then we have overcome extreme hardship. To be able to put on a smile after something depressing or heartbreaking shows the strength behind your smile. That’s why each smile has its own story to tell.
If you are like me sometimes we just smile at the little things just because. I will walk somewhere and think of something just randomly stupid and start smiling. How about that text you get from that special someone and you start smiling at your phone? People then assume you’re crazy because you’re smiling at your phone. You see your crush and you give them the koolaid smile and then try to play it off like you weren’t looking. We all have our moments, and our smiles tell our stories.
“Always remember to be happy because you never know who's falling in love with your smile.”
Tuesday, October 25, 2011
So Much Things To Say
You ever have so much to say but really didn’t know how to say them? (Based the title off of a Lauryn Hill song)You just wish someone would just figure out the thoughts you were thinking and just be like “okay I understand what you’re saying.” People always have regrets of not saying what’s on their minds; instead they let those moments pass them by. Life is filled with mistakes and challenges, we have to be able to just stand firm on our two feet and say what’s on our minds.
People constantly bite there tongue on what they truly want to say to others because they fear the consequences. Why fear the consequences when everything in life is all about taking risks and taking chances? Nothing you do will ever be right, but the wrong decisions could always lead you to making the right ones later. Personally I always use to bite my tongue and never say what was on my mind, which never got me anywhere. Now though, I say how I actually feel. It’s all about saying what you mean and meaning what you say. Once you get something off your chest you feel as though a weight has been lifted off your shoulder. Whether saying something idiotic or speaking your mind, it’s better to get it out then hold it in. You have to experience the random things in life, if you don’t then are you really living? You have so much things to say . . .just say them.
“Half of life is fucking up - the other half is dealing with it.”
People constantly bite there tongue on what they truly want to say to others because they fear the consequences. Why fear the consequences when everything in life is all about taking risks and taking chances? Nothing you do will ever be right, but the wrong decisions could always lead you to making the right ones later. Personally I always use to bite my tongue and never say what was on my mind, which never got me anywhere. Now though, I say how I actually feel. It’s all about saying what you mean and meaning what you say. Once you get something off your chest you feel as though a weight has been lifted off your shoulder. Whether saying something idiotic or speaking your mind, it’s better to get it out then hold it in. You have to experience the random things in life, if you don’t then are you really living? You have so much things to say . . .just say them.
“Half of life is fucking up - the other half is dealing with it.”
Wednesday, October 19, 2011
B.E.A.U.T.I.F.U.L.
Lately I’ve been confused on what is considered beautiful to a lot of people and why do people kill themselves to look better to impress others.
According to dictionary.com, beautiful is defined “having beauty; having qualities that give great pleasure or satisfaction to see, hear, think about, etc; delighting the sense or mind.”
If “having qualities that give great pleasure or satisfaction to see, hear, think about, etc” isn’t a straight forward answer I don’t know what is. To me this means you have to consider many factors instead of just one. They say beauty is in the eye of beholder but is it really? You can only look at something for so long before it is no longer beautiful and if you are basing beauty off of looks then there are a million things wrong with that. It may be 1 factor but should not be the only factor you consider. What brings out a person’s true beauty is really what’s in thier heart and how they come off. Like Kanye West said “The prettiest people do the ugliest things.”
When you start to let others determine if YOU ARE beautiful then that’s a big problem. One example of this is when one person says something about someone else. A lot of people are becoming more self-concise of their appearance and looking for people’s approval. The only approval you need is from yourself to know that you are a very beautiful person. Love yourself; stop caring what others think about you.
Beauty is how you feel inside and it reflects in your eyes. It is not something physical. ~ Sophia Loren
According to dictionary.com, beautiful is defined “having beauty; having qualities that give great pleasure or satisfaction to see, hear, think about, etc; delighting the sense or mind.”
If “having qualities that give great pleasure or satisfaction to see, hear, think about, etc” isn’t a straight forward answer I don’t know what is. To me this means you have to consider many factors instead of just one. They say beauty is in the eye of beholder but is it really? You can only look at something for so long before it is no longer beautiful and if you are basing beauty off of looks then there are a million things wrong with that. It may be 1 factor but should not be the only factor you consider. What brings out a person’s true beauty is really what’s in thier heart and how they come off. Like Kanye West said “The prettiest people do the ugliest things.”
When you start to let others determine if YOU ARE beautiful then that’s a big problem. One example of this is when one person says something about someone else. A lot of people are becoming more self-concise of their appearance and looking for people’s approval. The only approval you need is from yourself to know that you are a very beautiful person. Love yourself; stop caring what others think about you.
Beauty is how you feel inside and it reflects in your eyes. It is not something physical. ~ Sophia Loren
Monday, September 12, 2011
The Option (Part 2)
The 2nd part of this blog is basically going to touch on being the option to somebody.
Sometimes we never realize when we are the option to someone until its to late and they have used us up and thrown us to the side. Sometimes we fail to take all the signs into consideration that we are the option to somebody when we have made them our priority. We haven’t learned enough or experienced enough to know the signs when we are being used and being 2nd best to someone else.
What do you do when you find out you’re the option to somebody? You can either 1. Tell them how you feel about it 2. Consider being the option or 3. Fall back from them entirely. If you know your worth then you know that you shouldn’t be someone options, or side piece. If they want to make you their option number 2 maybe its time for you to get up and reevaluate why your still around them.
"Never make someone your priority when your only there option"
Sometimes we never realize when we are the option to someone until its to late and they have used us up and thrown us to the side. Sometimes we fail to take all the signs into consideration that we are the option to somebody when we have made them our priority. We haven’t learned enough or experienced enough to know the signs when we are being used and being 2nd best to someone else.
What do you do when you find out you’re the option to somebody? You can either 1. Tell them how you feel about it 2. Consider being the option or 3. Fall back from them entirely. If you know your worth then you know that you shouldn’t be someone options, or side piece. If they want to make you their option number 2 maybe its time for you to get up and reevaluate why your still around them.
"Never make someone your priority when your only there option"
Saturday, September 3, 2011
The Option (Part 1)
I know that everyone has experienced of either being an option or having options. This topic will just touch on having options in your life.
Sometimes when people go through certain things in their lives they always want to have a backup plan. For example, Job number 1 is not providing enough money guess I am gonna go to job number 2 and see if that offers me more. This is called having an option. When it comes to relationships and people in general some people think it’s good to have options, while others hate to be considered an option. This topic basically will touch on having options while part 2 will touch on being an option.
I feel that everyone starts to develop the tendency of having options when something bad happens to them in a relationship or someone used them as an option. Better to be safe than sorry right? Why not have a bunch of options just in case option numbers 1-3 can’t meet up or do what you want them to. At least you got option number 4 right? Some people feel as though having back up plans is great but what happens when options get attached? Or start playing the “Claim Game”? (Refer to Nov 5, 2010 topic if you don’t know what the “Claim Game” is) What is the next step for you?
Most times when options get attached, first step is usually to cut them off especially if you’re not feeling the same way. Saves you from drama and problems, but what if you start getting feelings for an option then what’s the next step? Do you see where it goes and drop your other options? Do you stop playing games and get serious? Only you will know. We actually live in a day an age where people have many options and are not tied down to one person. Everyone is trying to enjoy their lives with as many experiences as possible. Think about it though, if you get attached to an option and they get attached to you, maybe it’s time to give up the games and see what might happen.
Monday, August 22, 2011
Marvins Room Syndrome
So another day another situation . . . you ever get one of those text messages or phone calls from that one person in your past and it just blows your mind? Or have you been one of those people that sent one of those crazy text messages to someone you use to talk too just because? We all have those situations where either we drink too much and just say fuck it and get in contact with them or we just lost in thought and vent. Every time I hear Drakes Marvins Room song I’m just sitting there like “You gotta be bold to do that” but everyone in some point in their life did it and always reflect on how stupid it was of them to do it.
One of those things that if you’re truly in love with someone and it ends up not working out you experienced it . . . if you haven’t you eventually will. An example of this is if you are chilling with some friends on a bus ride to go somewhere. You guys just start drinking on the bus and you put your headphones on and all you hear is just R&B music on every radio station that makes you catch feelings. Chris Brown, Alicia Keys, Avant, Marvin Gaye, Luthor Vandross, Jill Scott. You already feel nice and buzzed. You just get in a state that just like, “I miss him/her.” Then you text them “I miss you, I want to be with you right now” and this is when you have experienced that “Marvins Room Syndrome.”
Falling into the “Marvins Room Syndrome” is like walking back into your past and trying to fix whatever went wrong. 9.9 times out of 10 YOU know it won’t go back to the way it was before especially if they already moved on. It’s better to just move on and live life, then dwell in the past and try to fix a broken mirror because it will never be the same.
“ . . . let go when you’re hurting too much, give up when love isn’t enough, and move on when things aren’t like before. “
Wednesday, August 3, 2011
Are You Happy?
Sometimes we find ourselves at particular crossroads in our lives where we feel as though nothing is going right. Sometimes we converse with friends or family members to help us through these situations. Sometimes we allow others to break us down so we are never happy again, when we are suppose to define our own happiness. Is it human nature to allow others to break us or make us feel discouraged? Do we allow ourselves to be unhappy and take it out on the people around us?
I know a couple people that have let other people define their happiness. Like if they aren’t talking to someone, have a boyfriend/girlfriend or have someone that is always around to support them they feel as though there not happy at all. It’s like they need that cushion there just to know “Hey I will be alright, I have John here for me.” When in reality, you shouldn’t be allowing people to control how happy you are or happy you should be. I understand we do get happier when we have some people around but this shouldn’t have a general affect on how you feel and what you do in life. In most cases people who realize that they are letting others define their own happiness will push the people who care for them the most away. They push them away so they can work on being happy by themselves, but is that a good thing? People who constantly make time for you, that make you happy and are constantly there for you shouldn’t really be pushed away but in most cases they are. Sometimes they get the message and literally just fall all the way back from you never returning, and things never being the same again.
Point of the story is you define your own happiness, waiting for people to make you happy or rule how you feel shouldn’t be allowed.
“No one is in control of your happiness but you; therefore, you have the power to change anything about yourself or your life that you want to change.“ - Barbara de Angeli
I know a couple people that have let other people define their happiness. Like if they aren’t talking to someone, have a boyfriend/girlfriend or have someone that is always around to support them they feel as though there not happy at all. It’s like they need that cushion there just to know “Hey I will be alright, I have John here for me.” When in reality, you shouldn’t be allowing people to control how happy you are or happy you should be. I understand we do get happier when we have some people around but this shouldn’t have a general affect on how you feel and what you do in life. In most cases people who realize that they are letting others define their own happiness will push the people who care for them the most away. They push them away so they can work on being happy by themselves, but is that a good thing? People who constantly make time for you, that make you happy and are constantly there for you shouldn’t really be pushed away but in most cases they are. Sometimes they get the message and literally just fall all the way back from you never returning, and things never being the same again.
Point of the story is you define your own happiness, waiting for people to make you happy or rule how you feel shouldn’t be allowed.
“No one is in control of your happiness but you; therefore, you have the power to change anything about yourself or your life that you want to change.“ - Barbara de Angeli
Sunday, July 31, 2011
The Selfish Thought . . .
DISCLAIMER: My random thoughts are not about anyone so please don’t come at me asking if this is about you. If you have a guilty concise maybe you should go do something about it :) that is all.
So occasionally I text a couple of my friends early morning and ask them random questions. One question that was brought up is “Are women more selfish then men when it comes to keeping people in their lives after something has changed in their relationship?” Out of the 10 people I have asked, they said that they feel that women are. Let me tell you the facts before you feel some type of way.
Say you are chilling with one of your friends, you guys have been cool forever and then out of nowhere they do something or say something that hurts/disturbs your friendship with them. Some people immediately cut you off just because they feel as though they can’t value you as a friend anymore. Its certain things that you do to people that will piss them off and they will just entirely fallback from you. Guys are more likely to literally cut you off and won’t think twice about it. Girls on the other hand will still want you around because they feel as though nothing has changed but they are 100% wrong. It’s just like leading someone on to the point of no return and then just abruptly saying,” We can’t do this anymore, let’s just be friends.”
After 6+ months of putting work in for something and hearing that (let’s just be friends), guys really will THINK “WTF?! REALLY THOUGH?!” but say “okay I understand.” We immediately back off and keep it moving, we do get hurt and the only way to get over it is to get away from you. Sometimes though, girls move in closer thinking that things will stay the same and we can still do all the things we did before. NOOO. Once you put us on the sidelines best believe all the things we did to try and impress you will stop and we will treat you like any regular person. You have to understand we hate feeling like you just want us there to make you happy because we actually aren’t now that things are different.
“You never know how great something is until it isn’t around anymore, don’t take anything for granted”
So occasionally I text a couple of my friends early morning and ask them random questions. One question that was brought up is “Are women more selfish then men when it comes to keeping people in their lives after something has changed in their relationship?” Out of the 10 people I have asked, they said that they feel that women are. Let me tell you the facts before you feel some type of way.
Say you are chilling with one of your friends, you guys have been cool forever and then out of nowhere they do something or say something that hurts/disturbs your friendship with them. Some people immediately cut you off just because they feel as though they can’t value you as a friend anymore. Its certain things that you do to people that will piss them off and they will just entirely fallback from you. Guys are more likely to literally cut you off and won’t think twice about it. Girls on the other hand will still want you around because they feel as though nothing has changed but they are 100% wrong. It’s just like leading someone on to the point of no return and then just abruptly saying,” We can’t do this anymore, let’s just be friends.”
After 6+ months of putting work in for something and hearing that (let’s just be friends), guys really will THINK “WTF?! REALLY THOUGH?!” but say “okay I understand.” We immediately back off and keep it moving, we do get hurt and the only way to get over it is to get away from you. Sometimes though, girls move in closer thinking that things will stay the same and we can still do all the things we did before. NOOO. Once you put us on the sidelines best believe all the things we did to try and impress you will stop and we will treat you like any regular person. You have to understand we hate feeling like you just want us there to make you happy because we actually aren’t now that things are different.
“You never know how great something is until it isn’t around anymore, don’t take anything for granted”
Monday, July 18, 2011
Women Are Not To Be Compared
One of the worst things a guy can do is compare a woman to another. No matter if it is his friend, sister, mom, girlfriend or wife. This is like an automatic death sentence for guys but we still do it anyway, even though we know the repercussions.
I promise you women remember EVERYTHING you say, so don’t be quick to blurt out something without thinking about it. For example, “Dam baby, your macaroni & cheese is slamming but it’s not as good as my ex-girlfriends but you up there though.” This just means you want your spine ripped out and the rest of your body buried in the backyard somewhere. Women HATE when you compare them to another girl especially an ex that they don’t EVER EVER want to hear about. Ninety-Seven percent of them will keep their composure and tell you what it is, in a nice way, but that other three percent you better hope there not a Caribbean/African female because you will not hear the end of it till your either 1. Broken up or 2. Dead. Women are very vengeful even though they act like they are not; they are VERY vengeful and will make you pay.
A lot of the conversations usually pan out the same way
Guy: You remind me of Sarodj Bertin, very beautiful and elegant
Girl: Don’t compare me to that (bitch, whore, skank, slut, tramp, etc.) you choose the word that best fits in there. Even if she don't really know the chick, it will be ON and POPPIN
9 times out of 10 a lot of females don’t care who you’re comparing them to, they rather NOT be compared no matter how beautiful the person is.
I promise you women remember EVERYTHING you say, so don’t be quick to blurt out something without thinking about it. For example, “Dam baby, your macaroni & cheese is slamming but it’s not as good as my ex-girlfriends but you up there though.” This just means you want your spine ripped out and the rest of your body buried in the backyard somewhere. Women HATE when you compare them to another girl especially an ex that they don’t EVER EVER want to hear about. Ninety-Seven percent of them will keep their composure and tell you what it is, in a nice way, but that other three percent you better hope there not a Caribbean/African female because you will not hear the end of it till your either 1. Broken up or 2. Dead. Women are very vengeful even though they act like they are not; they are VERY vengeful and will make you pay.
A lot of the conversations usually pan out the same way
Guy: You remind me of Sarodj Bertin, very beautiful and elegant
Girl: Don’t compare me to that (bitch, whore, skank, slut, tramp, etc.) you choose the word that best fits in there. Even if she don't really know the chick, it will be ON and POPPIN
9 times out of 10 a lot of females don’t care who you’re comparing them to, they rather NOT be compared no matter how beautiful the person is.
Thursday, July 7, 2011
The “Chameleon” (Topic Suggested By Teresa)
In regards to this topic let me explain my definition of the “chameleon.” When I am talking about a chameleon I am not talking about the lizard I am talking about, “a changeable, fickle, or inconstant person.”(Webster’s Dictionary) We all know those types of people in our lives where they wear a mask and let something else define them besides being a first rate version of themselves. You know those people who join a group or get a title and let that specific thing DEFINE who they are. So they change who they once were to be part of this group and obtain this title but not sticking to their beliefs that they once had in the beginning. It is like saying,” Hi I am Susan, the regular citizen that believes that everyone should be treated equally no matter if there male or female.” Then you wanting to join group XYZ that can elevate your level in society and open a whole network of possibilities but they only believe women not men should be running the world. Then you say “Hi I am Susan, part of group XYZ and I think women should be treated differently just because we bare children.” Just because you join a group you shouldn’t allow their views to change who you are.
One of those many great examples I got from one of my readers was that people who think that a group can up their status in society and make them a completely new person. Say John wanted to join this prominent group of business men, who make money, get the girls and are always in the limelight. Although John is not a ladies’ man, he doesn’t make a lot of money and is usually a loner, he thinks that being in this group he will change from John the Loner Loser into John the Business Man. NO John you will stay the same but will be known as John the Loner Loser Business Man.
“It is not worth an intelligent man’s time to be in the majority. By definition, there are already enough people to do that.”
One of those many great examples I got from one of my readers was that people who think that a group can up their status in society and make them a completely new person. Say John wanted to join this prominent group of business men, who make money, get the girls and are always in the limelight. Although John is not a ladies’ man, he doesn’t make a lot of money and is usually a loner, he thinks that being in this group he will change from John the Loner Loser into John the Business Man. NO John you will stay the same but will be known as John the Loner Loser Business Man.
“It is not worth an intelligent man’s time to be in the majority. By definition, there are already enough people to do that.”
Friday, June 24, 2011
The Open Relationship
Hey everyone sorry for the long wait but conflicting thoughts and topics that I’ve been working on just need more information and detail in them. Anyway, this topic I want to talk about is open relationships. Why would anyone want to be in an open relationship confuses me, you should just be single and call it a day but whatever floats your boat.
Being in an open relationship is really like telling the other person that you want to be just friends with benefits. Some people that I know in open relationships don’t even want the title (boyfriend/girlfriend) they just tell other people around them, that they are just friends. So it’s really confusing and I have been trying to comprehend why ANYONE would want to be in an open relationship.
One of the main reasons I came across was that people like to have that one person they could run back to if anything goes wrong. They want companionship but still want to be free to do anything. Open relationship to me is like an in-between spot, saying “I like them but I don’t like them.” So instead of calling each other “fuck buddies” the new modern age term for it is “open relationship”. I would say it does sound better but eventually something happens when it is no longer considered an “Open Relationship”.
Just be single and do what you want, you don’t have to be in an “open relationship” to have that one person you can always run back to.
Being in an open relationship is really like telling the other person that you want to be just friends with benefits. Some people that I know in open relationships don’t even want the title (boyfriend/girlfriend) they just tell other people around them, that they are just friends. So it’s really confusing and I have been trying to comprehend why ANYONE would want to be in an open relationship.
One of the main reasons I came across was that people like to have that one person they could run back to if anything goes wrong. They want companionship but still want to be free to do anything. Open relationship to me is like an in-between spot, saying “I like them but I don’t like them.” So instead of calling each other “fuck buddies” the new modern age term for it is “open relationship”. I would say it does sound better but eventually something happens when it is no longer considered an “Open Relationship”.
Just be single and do what you want, you don’t have to be in an “open relationship” to have that one person you can always run back to.
Wednesday, May 4, 2011
Being Yourself: “You Do Too Much”
Another day another topic to discuss with people and see what they think about it. You ever have those people in your life that do just “TOOOOOO” much. Instead of just taking that extra step, they go an extra mile just because. I get told I do too much sometimes in the sense of helping people and making sure they are happy. Is this bad? I don’t think so, it’s just me being myself and assisting others just because they needed help. To some people doing too much annoys them, just because literally you’re always going that extra mile to make sure everything is okay. Sometimes though you get those people who say “Yo you do too much just stop.” That’s pretty much just telling you to tone down what you do or just stop doing it all together. When someone says that what do you do?
You have to realize it isn’t an off and on switch, and that without most of these people going that extra mile you wouldn’t be able to do most of the things you do on a regular. This is an experiment I did maybe a month or so ago where I just stopped doing “too” much and worried about myself. It was about a 1-2 week experience because of 6 people telling me I do “too” much and that I needed to stop so I did. The outcome of this experiment is that I was a jerk; I didn’t care to listen to anyone’s problems, I was worried about me and me alone, I didn’t care about what anyone was going through or their feelings, I wasn’t at all supportive on peoples endeavors and communication with people was dead to me. Ten times out of ten people regret what they say especially if the changes affect them and they are not use to it.
Moral of this story is just be yourself, if people start to think that your doing “too” much is a problem stop for awhile and see how they feel about it. It’s more so how you feel about it than them. You can’t change who you are just because people say things just learn to accept who you are and BE YOURSELF!!
You have to realize it isn’t an off and on switch, and that without most of these people going that extra mile you wouldn’t be able to do most of the things you do on a regular. This is an experiment I did maybe a month or so ago where I just stopped doing “too” much and worried about myself. It was about a 1-2 week experience because of 6 people telling me I do “too” much and that I needed to stop so I did. The outcome of this experiment is that I was a jerk; I didn’t care to listen to anyone’s problems, I was worried about me and me alone, I didn’t care about what anyone was going through or their feelings, I wasn’t at all supportive on peoples endeavors and communication with people was dead to me. Ten times out of ten people regret what they say especially if the changes affect them and they are not use to it.
Moral of this story is just be yourself, if people start to think that your doing “too” much is a problem stop for awhile and see how they feel about it. It’s more so how you feel about it than them. You can’t change who you are just because people say things just learn to accept who you are and BE YOURSELF!!
Monday, April 18, 2011
Fall For Your Type
I really had to reference Jamie Foxx for this topic, because every time I hear this song my thoughts go into a random trance and just started writing. Falling for the type of person that consumes your mind and makes you happy sometimes is a bad thing. Especially if you KNOW that something bad will come out of it. The whole thing about falling for your type is that you just have to live life and go with the flow. You don’t even know what your type is until you actually meet them. You may say that you want someone 5’5, brown eyes, thick thighs, college educated but 9 times out of 10 you will find something that isn’t what you had on your list.
You always have that mindset that, whatever person is presented to you that if they have these particular qualities about them then they are not your type. The next question is what if they fit some of the stuff on your checklist but not others? Do you just keep it moving or go with the flow? The best and most wonderful people you meet in your life are those you meet on some random stuff. Sitting there searching for your type of person will lead to failure upon failure upon failure. Live life, get out of your norm, experience something with somebody who isn’t your type and see where it goes. You never know unless you give it a try.
You always have that mindset that, whatever person is presented to you that if they have these particular qualities about them then they are not your type. The next question is what if they fit some of the stuff on your checklist but not others? Do you just keep it moving or go with the flow? The best and most wonderful people you meet in your life are those you meet on some random stuff. Sitting there searching for your type of person will lead to failure upon failure upon failure. Live life, get out of your norm, experience something with somebody who isn’t your type and see where it goes. You never know unless you give it a try.
Tuesday, April 5, 2011
Would you allow your significant other go through your phone unrestricted??
This topic I let sit around for awhile because it is one of those questions you have to ask yourself when you get into a serious relationship with someone. Would you allow your significant other to go through your phone unrestricted? Well would you? I’ve received 80% of my responses through, text messages, twitter and facebook and the verdict is YES. Why yes you ask it’s because if you built up that trust then what do you have to hide since you guys are serious about each other. Of course everyone needs their privacy but at one point in the relationship you give up your privacy because of the trust that you have built up.
For those who said NO their reason was that it’s your personal business of what is going on, on their phone not their significant others. If they trust you then they should know that you’re not doing anything behind their back.
The next thing that comes in to play is trust . . . do you trust the person enough that you don’t have to go through their phone? Trust is the building block of relationships, if trust is lost then more arguments tend to erupt over nothing, stress may buildup, self esteem is lost, or the relationship just ends.
Next time you are with your significant other think to yourself “Would I let you go through my phone?” Is there a trust issue or is it just because it’s your privacy you are trying to keep?
Thursday, March 10, 2011
Would You?
Would you allow your significant other to go through your phone unrestricted?? YES OR NO??
If you have a reason why please post in the comment section you can post anonymously
Wednesday, February 16, 2011
Diary of a Woman
Good day all, it’s been awhile since I wrote something . . . just kind of been observing the world, reconnecting with friends and staying on that success grind. One of those things that always catches my eye is when a female is able to remember EVERY DAMN detail about anything and everything. Whether it is bad or good, if it has some importance, they will remember it. Think about this statement “Women keep diaries Girls keep sticky notes.” Seriously THINK about that statement and apply it to certain situations in your life and tell me if this isn’t true. This is all based on growth, maturity level and how you grew up, so don’t think otherwise. FYI Keywords here are WOMEN and GIRLS
“Women keep diaries” refers to how they seem to remember everything and how they keep track of it for future reference. I could go into more details into what that means but that is just boring. In this case, it would be better to have an example and keep it moving. A good example would be if a guy cheats on his girl, she writes in her mental diary “This bum ass nigga(excuse my French) just cheated on me with this ugly Nicki Minaj look alike who ain’t even got an ass named Mercedes on Tuesday February 15th 2011 at 9:05PM” Notice that the date and time was taken in this mental diary . . . . this is for future reference if she decides to take dude back she can use it against him later. If she decides to take him back, then she does something, like chill with one of her male friends and dude gets mad, she will say “On Tuesday February 15th 2011 at 9:05 AM you cheated on me with Mercedes so you can put your little attitude back there and cut the shit.” Even if you let her spend your black card on a shopping spree she will ALWAYS remember whatever you did to hurt her. Material things can’t replace broken hearts or hurt emotions. If you lie about something, she will most likely catch you and investigate especially if she knows the truth.
Female: What where you doing last night?
Male: Me and Rob started going to the gym, and then after we went for a drink at the bar.
*Female takes mental note Friday February 11th from 5:42pm-11:35pm he went to the gym and bar with Rob*
*Next Day*
Female: You went to the gym and bar again last night?
Male: Yeah it was a tough work out, me and Rob did an extreme workout it went well.
Female: MHMMMM
*Mental Diary Saturday February 12th from 5:30pm-11:55pm he went to the gym and bar with Rob. I talked to Rob’s wife earlier today and he planned a whole dinner date for their 1 year wedding anniversary”
DON’T BE STUPID SHE WILL FIND OUT!!! Especially if the time frames and shit you’re doing is off and very weird trust and believe she will find out.
Anything of importance she writes it in her diary and MAKES sure it’s used for reference purposes, as in anniversaries, birthdays, missed outings, painful experience, embarrassing moments, hurt feelings etc. Women remember everything especially if it’s something meaningful or hurtful. I bought one of my coolest female friends some flowers and some wine just because she was feeling down, (her boyfriend broke up with her). To this day she still remembers the time, how the weather was, what I was wearing and what kind of flowers they were. This was almost 2 years ago and I don’t remember this stuff. All I remember is that she had some extra gummy worms lying around and I ate them. Harsh, but it’s the truth, those joints where amazing. Back to the matter at hand: WOMEN REMEMBER EVERY LITTLE THING SO DON’T FUCK SHIT UP. They will bring stuff up, whether good or bad, and tell you what it is.
“Girls keep sticky notes” refers to how a girl will remember something for a short time period and it eventually gets blown away from memory either because 1. They don’t care anymore or 2. They are given something. Some of you “GIRLS” know damn well you do this shit or did it at one point in your life then grew up. I’ve seen a girl get so angry with her man that she is ready to break up with him because he keeps doing the same mess but she lets him back in because he keeps getting her things like flowers, new shoes, new hair, a dog etc. These are material chicks who don’t keep diaries because they are quick to forget because they know they are going to be given something so they forgive and forget. Sticky notes are something you use for a quick reference and post it somewhere, after awhile it loses its stickiness or gets blown away and gets forgotten. You remember what you want to remember and just keep life going. Since females mature faster than guys this is usually something that is dropped between the ages of 16-20 if it’s still with you then . . . I don’t know, grow up maybe?
Word to the wise, don’t beat around the bush, be truthful to yourself and just give the diary respect. As guys we know women remember everything so we have to respect the “Diary of a Woman.” Growth defines the difference between a Woman and a Girl.
“Women keep diaries” refers to how they seem to remember everything and how they keep track of it for future reference. I could go into more details into what that means but that is just boring. In this case, it would be better to have an example and keep it moving. A good example would be if a guy cheats on his girl, she writes in her mental diary “This bum ass nigga(excuse my French) just cheated on me with this ugly Nicki Minaj look alike who ain’t even got an ass named Mercedes on Tuesday February 15th 2011 at 9:05PM” Notice that the date and time was taken in this mental diary . . . . this is for future reference if she decides to take dude back she can use it against him later. If she decides to take him back, then she does something, like chill with one of her male friends and dude gets mad, she will say “On Tuesday February 15th 2011 at 9:05 AM you cheated on me with Mercedes so you can put your little attitude back there and cut the shit.” Even if you let her spend your black card on a shopping spree she will ALWAYS remember whatever you did to hurt her. Material things can’t replace broken hearts or hurt emotions. If you lie about something, she will most likely catch you and investigate especially if she knows the truth.
Female: What where you doing last night?
Male: Me and Rob started going to the gym, and then after we went for a drink at the bar.
*Female takes mental note Friday February 11th from 5:42pm-11:35pm he went to the gym and bar with Rob*
*Next Day*
Female: You went to the gym and bar again last night?
Male: Yeah it was a tough work out, me and Rob did an extreme workout it went well.
Female: MHMMMM
*Mental Diary Saturday February 12th from 5:30pm-11:55pm he went to the gym and bar with Rob. I talked to Rob’s wife earlier today and he planned a whole dinner date for their 1 year wedding anniversary”
DON’T BE STUPID SHE WILL FIND OUT!!! Especially if the time frames and shit you’re doing is off and very weird trust and believe she will find out.
Anything of importance she writes it in her diary and MAKES sure it’s used for reference purposes, as in anniversaries, birthdays, missed outings, painful experience, embarrassing moments, hurt feelings etc. Women remember everything especially if it’s something meaningful or hurtful. I bought one of my coolest female friends some flowers and some wine just because she was feeling down, (her boyfriend broke up with her). To this day she still remembers the time, how the weather was, what I was wearing and what kind of flowers they were. This was almost 2 years ago and I don’t remember this stuff. All I remember is that she had some extra gummy worms lying around and I ate them. Harsh, but it’s the truth, those joints where amazing. Back to the matter at hand: WOMEN REMEMBER EVERY LITTLE THING SO DON’T FUCK SHIT UP. They will bring stuff up, whether good or bad, and tell you what it is.
“Girls keep sticky notes” refers to how a girl will remember something for a short time period and it eventually gets blown away from memory either because 1. They don’t care anymore or 2. They are given something. Some of you “GIRLS” know damn well you do this shit or did it at one point in your life then grew up. I’ve seen a girl get so angry with her man that she is ready to break up with him because he keeps doing the same mess but she lets him back in because he keeps getting her things like flowers, new shoes, new hair, a dog etc. These are material chicks who don’t keep diaries because they are quick to forget because they know they are going to be given something so they forgive and forget. Sticky notes are something you use for a quick reference and post it somewhere, after awhile it loses its stickiness or gets blown away and gets forgotten. You remember what you want to remember and just keep life going. Since females mature faster than guys this is usually something that is dropped between the ages of 16-20 if it’s still with you then . . . I don’t know, grow up maybe?
Word to the wise, don’t beat around the bush, be truthful to yourself and just give the diary respect. As guys we know women remember everything so we have to respect the “Diary of a Woman.” Growth defines the difference between a Woman and a Girl.
Sunday, January 23, 2011
Letting Go
Another week another problem, as we all get older we deal with a situation where we get hurt or have problems and communication between you and someone else gets effected. In the past week I have seen at least 8-10 twitter/facebook status that says something like “ I’m trying to let go but it’s so hard I miss him/her so much” or “ I might hold on to this feeling just because I miss him/her.” Some would say it’s better to hold on because letting go hurts to much, is this true? Yes and No for many different reasons.
Yes because you can hold that perfect feeling of happiness for a good while so you don’t get depressed and get all gloomy. No because it isn’t healthy and you scare off people who would treat you 10x better then the last person. Sometimes we hold on for the wrong reasons, like they are going to come back in to our lives after they decided to leave. That happens 9.5 times out of 10, very slim chance that people realize their mistakes and lose the best thing that ever happened to them. These people always regret their decisions but all you can do is let go and move on, there is something better at the end of the yellow brick road and I’m not talking about OZ. We always find happiness when we least expect it especially if we let go of our past, move on and open our eyes.
Fact it’s harder for woman to move on and let go then it is for guys.
Women have so much more emotions and feelings then guys so they really get attached after some time of being with someone. I know of 3 females at the moment who after 1+ year are still attached to someone who they use to talk to or go out with. I tell them everyday let go, move on, do you because at the moment he doesn’t care about you don’t think he does. He has moved on and let go of his past so he could have a better future. You set yourself up for failure sometimes when you don’t let go and can’t talk to anyone else. You wonder what that person is doing, who they talking to now, where they at . . . . . . .you start to build stalker tendencies and that really isn't cool. If you need closure to let go contact the person now, send them a letter and get your closure. If you have already received closure and are still hanging on to them while they out doing their own thing then maybe you need a friend who will smack you straight? Just a suggestion, but you are missing out on a lot of things if you are not able to let go and move on, people always regret that they didn’t let go at the right time and miss the best thing that could have ever happened to them.
“When one door closes another door opens; but we so often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door, that we do not see the ones which open for us.” – Alexander Graham Bell
Yes because you can hold that perfect feeling of happiness for a good while so you don’t get depressed and get all gloomy. No because it isn’t healthy and you scare off people who would treat you 10x better then the last person. Sometimes we hold on for the wrong reasons, like they are going to come back in to our lives after they decided to leave. That happens 9.5 times out of 10, very slim chance that people realize their mistakes and lose the best thing that ever happened to them. These people always regret their decisions but all you can do is let go and move on, there is something better at the end of the yellow brick road and I’m not talking about OZ. We always find happiness when we least expect it especially if we let go of our past, move on and open our eyes.
Fact it’s harder for woman to move on and let go then it is for guys.
Women have so much more emotions and feelings then guys so they really get attached after some time of being with someone. I know of 3 females at the moment who after 1+ year are still attached to someone who they use to talk to or go out with. I tell them everyday let go, move on, do you because at the moment he doesn’t care about you don’t think he does. He has moved on and let go of his past so he could have a better future. You set yourself up for failure sometimes when you don’t let go and can’t talk to anyone else. You wonder what that person is doing, who they talking to now, where they at . . . . . . .you start to build stalker tendencies and that really isn't cool. If you need closure to let go contact the person now, send them a letter and get your closure. If you have already received closure and are still hanging on to them while they out doing their own thing then maybe you need a friend who will smack you straight? Just a suggestion, but you are missing out on a lot of things if you are not able to let go and move on, people always regret that they didn’t let go at the right time and miss the best thing that could have ever happened to them.
“When one door closes another door opens; but we so often look so long and so regretfully upon the closed door, that we do not see the ones which open for us.” – Alexander Graham Bell
Tuesday, January 11, 2011
Why are Guys Afraid to Show Their Feelings (Topic suggested by Anonymous Female)
Girl: Girls want to feel beautiful and special
Guy: I’m not nice like that to anyone
Girl: I’m not just anyone
This conversation ended with them breaking up and ending their on and off relationship of 3.5+ years. She felt as though the guy really didn’t show his feelings for her at all. There is always something in the beginning but as the relationship went on, it was inconsistent and he treated her like another person. No affection, no attention . . . nothing at all, she felt neglected. The next question she asked me was,” Why are guys afraid to show their feelings?”
It’s not that I am stumped with this question it’s just that, to be honest we are afraid of the feedback we will get from you and we aren’t comfortable showing our feelings (some of us). With females it’s always something different, its either you want more of something or you don’t get enough of something, best thing for you to do is “COMMUNICATE.” To be honest you have to tell us shit so we better understand what’s up with you and your feelings. If we could read women’s minds then this world would be great , we would know when it’s that time of the month, know if we miss an anniversary (since you guys remember all of them), know what we are suppose to say or do when you are going through things. You have to understand if you communicate to us that “I love a guy who shows me there true feelings” then you will get what you asked for. Don’t ask for something and then when you’re constantly receiving it you say “You are doing a little too much opening up.” It’s either one or the other, make up your mind.
We are afraid of the feedback that we will receive from a female if we open up to them to much about our feelings. The thing that goes through our minds is, “She will like me less” or “She thinks I’m a bitch” or “She doesn’t want a guy this opened”. For a guy to open up it takes a lot of built up trust and the way he feels about you, for him to come out his shell. When he does open up and tells you everything, you better believe that he will continue to tell you EVERYTHING cause he confides in you and see’s you as someone special in his life. From this point on you have to understand though, you have to tell him when it’s too much or not enough; we need constructive feedback to better ourselves in showing our feelings.
I confide in 5 females at the moment because they have earned my trust and I love them. It’s not that we are afraid to show our feelings we just need the green light and a GPS to guide us on our way to expressing them.
Guy: I’m not nice like that to anyone
Girl: I’m not just anyone
This conversation ended with them breaking up and ending their on and off relationship of 3.5+ years. She felt as though the guy really didn’t show his feelings for her at all. There is always something in the beginning but as the relationship went on, it was inconsistent and he treated her like another person. No affection, no attention . . . nothing at all, she felt neglected. The next question she asked me was,” Why are guys afraid to show their feelings?”
It’s not that I am stumped with this question it’s just that, to be honest we are afraid of the feedback we will get from you and we aren’t comfortable showing our feelings (some of us). With females it’s always something different, its either you want more of something or you don’t get enough of something, best thing for you to do is “COMMUNICATE.” To be honest you have to tell us shit so we better understand what’s up with you and your feelings. If we could read women’s minds then this world would be great , we would know when it’s that time of the month, know if we miss an anniversary (since you guys remember all of them), know what we are suppose to say or do when you are going through things. You have to understand if you communicate to us that “I love a guy who shows me there true feelings” then you will get what you asked for. Don’t ask for something and then when you’re constantly receiving it you say “You are doing a little too much opening up.” It’s either one or the other, make up your mind.
We are afraid of the feedback that we will receive from a female if we open up to them to much about our feelings. The thing that goes through our minds is, “She will like me less” or “She thinks I’m a bitch” or “She doesn’t want a guy this opened”. For a guy to open up it takes a lot of built up trust and the way he feels about you, for him to come out his shell. When he does open up and tells you everything, you better believe that he will continue to tell you EVERYTHING cause he confides in you and see’s you as someone special in his life. From this point on you have to understand though, you have to tell him when it’s too much or not enough; we need constructive feedback to better ourselves in showing our feelings.
I confide in 5 females at the moment because they have earned my trust and I love them. It’s not that we are afraid to show our feelings we just need the green light and a GPS to guide us on our way to expressing them.
Friday, January 7, 2011
Commitment
Commitment [kuh-mit-muht] noun. 1. The act of committing 2. The state of being committed 3. The act of committing, pledging, or engaging oneself 4. A pledge or promise
Is it me or is everyone afraid to hear this word? People are afraid to be committed to anything anymore, whether it is friends, family, projects, school, girlfriend, boyfriend etc. As I was reading one of my brothers passage’s from his book, The Love of Poem: Vol 1, it inspired me to write this part of my blog talking about it. The passage stats, "Commitment causes everyone to feel special and adored, Gives a person with no desire a reason to fight for." For those who are open minded really read that and you will understand it. It took my sister 2 hours before she really understood that but, why are people afraid of commitment?
The fear of being committed to someone or something is just that people don’t like being tied down. They feel if they are committed then they will have to be tied down under lock and key and can’t do anything that they want. This is the major concern of a lot of people. They want to be able to do THEM without restrictions or limitations. This is the most common reason people are afraid of commitment and why they think they don’t need to commit to anything.
The beautiful thing about commitment though is that you feel that you are about to start the greatest journey in the world. That nothing in the universe can stop you and that you don’t need to answer WHY you did something to a million people. It really gives you a reason to push forward and make something worth it. “I know why I committed to this and I am ecstatic I did it.” When committing to something, think about the positive aspects of it and not so much the negative. I bet you 9 times out of 10 that the positive outweighs the negative.
Live. Laugh. Love
The Love of Poem: Vol I (By Desmond Baker)
Saturday, January 1, 2011
7 Things You Need To Do For 2011 (Step Your Life UP!!)
Happy New Years to all, I hope everyone had a safe holiday and a great New Years Eve. Well my first topic of the New Year is pretty much self explanatory, “Step your life up in 2011.” For those who don’t understand let me put this into perspective for you. The things you did in 2010 you are going to have to “change up” what you do because trust me, people either hate it or you just need to build off of it and make it better. A list of things that people need to start doing as we go into 2011 is:
1. If your facebook name is Shaquana “MyShitIsGood” Smith or Tim “IWannaBeInYou” Thomas or Samantha “CumGetIt” Davids or MydickbIG Keith . . . if it is referring to any type of sexual thing please stop, you are not 12 years old anymore and this isn’t MySpace. If you want to do that shit go back to high school, recreate your MySpace and do it.
2. Appreciate the people around you; they exist for a reason. Try to reconnect with certain people who have great qualities and aren’t holding you back. Those people who haven’t been doing anything with their lives since 2006, sad to say cut them off and move on.
3. Don’t post your whole life on facebook/twitter for the world to see, and then you wonder why people are all in your business. Stop updating your status every 2 seconds with stupid shit like “I’m going to the mall to get some new panties for my sexy night with my man,” “Oh shit I just got into a car accident ima post a picture in a second,” “This chick that hit me got a fake Gucci bag, I can tell from the symbols on it #KanyeShrug”. . . STOP IT, just stop we don’t care.
4. Communication goes 2 ways if you haven’t heard from someone in awhile maybe you should hit them up and see how there life is going.
5. You can’t be nice to everyone time to set the ground rules and tell people to go fuck themselves, especially if they “need” you for something. This is how people take advantage of you tell them to go . . . . kill themselves :)
6. Stop the high school games when it comes to a relationship, its either you want the person or you don’t. Time is wasted when you play games all the time and people hate it with a passion grow up and be thankful someone is interested in you.
7. Be honest to yourself and build on you before trying to build on someone else. The person that needs the most work is you, if you can’t define who you are as a person; don’t let someone else do it. YOU have to be happy before you can make someone else happy.
That is pretty much it, the 7 things you need to do to step your life up in 2011. Please, Please, PLEASE! Call, text, bbm, IM a couple people and just say thank you for being there and I appreciate you in my life. That is all I ask this will be a stepping stone year for everyone I hope you enjoy it. HAPPY NEW YEAR!!
Live, Laugh, Love
1. If your facebook name is Shaquana “MyShitIsGood” Smith or Tim “IWannaBeInYou” Thomas or Samantha “CumGetIt” Davids or MydickbIG Keith . . . if it is referring to any type of sexual thing please stop, you are not 12 years old anymore and this isn’t MySpace. If you want to do that shit go back to high school, recreate your MySpace and do it.
2. Appreciate the people around you; they exist for a reason. Try to reconnect with certain people who have great qualities and aren’t holding you back. Those people who haven’t been doing anything with their lives since 2006, sad to say cut them off and move on.
3. Don’t post your whole life on facebook/twitter for the world to see, and then you wonder why people are all in your business. Stop updating your status every 2 seconds with stupid shit like “I’m going to the mall to get some new panties for my sexy night with my man,” “Oh shit I just got into a car accident ima post a picture in a second,” “This chick that hit me got a fake Gucci bag, I can tell from the symbols on it #KanyeShrug”. . . STOP IT, just stop we don’t care.
4. Communication goes 2 ways if you haven’t heard from someone in awhile maybe you should hit them up and see how there life is going.
5. You can’t be nice to everyone time to set the ground rules and tell people to go fuck themselves, especially if they “need” you for something. This is how people take advantage of you tell them to go . . . . kill themselves :)
6. Stop the high school games when it comes to a relationship, its either you want the person or you don’t. Time is wasted when you play games all the time and people hate it with a passion grow up and be thankful someone is interested in you.
7. Be honest to yourself and build on you before trying to build on someone else. The person that needs the most work is you, if you can’t define who you are as a person; don’t let someone else do it. YOU have to be happy before you can make someone else happy.
That is pretty much it, the 7 things you need to do to step your life up in 2011. Please, Please, PLEASE! Call, text, bbm, IM a couple people and just say thank you for being there and I appreciate you in my life. That is all I ask this will be a stepping stone year for everyone I hope you enjoy it. HAPPY NEW YEAR!!
Live, Laugh, Love
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