Today’s topic refers to respect and how in this day and age no one really has it anymore. Respect has many definitions such as to show regard or consideration for, to refrain from intruding upon or interfering with or respects a formal expression or gesture of greeting, esteem, or friendship.
Now the first thing I will talk about is respect between kids and parents. You know growing up you always listened to your parents, every time you wanted something bad you tried to cry and they would make that face at you and you would just stop crying. Our parents would just strike fear in us that we would have so much respect for them. The kids growing up in this new generation are a trip though. For example, Mom and son around 6 years old walk into the toy store to get him one thing for his birthday, but as a kid you always want more, so he starts to scream and holler for more toys.
Mom: “Jack we can only get you one toy at the moment
Jack: “But mom I want this one too!!”
Mom: “I’m sorry only one for now”
Jack: “I WANT IT NOW NOW NOW!!”
*Screams and Runs around all hyper*
Mom: “Okay pick whatever else you want."
You don’t ever let your child take control – I know my mom would have backed hand me if I got any louder than her or scream and brought attention to us for a dam toy. Don’t ever spoil your child because they will believe that they can get ANYTHING from you at anytime.
Being of Haitian descent you are taught about “wants” and “needs” and wants NEVER outweigh the needs. Some people can relate to seeing that one child in the supermarket running around and acting a fool and that one lady chasing after them like “stop running Bobby come back over here.” This is a NO BUENO . . .you would be like my mom would not have tolerated this and would have caught you by the ear and turned it so much that you would know you made a mistake by running around. That just shows the respect the child has for you which are NONE, parents you need to get it together. Respect as it pertains to everyone else; this is something that has to go both ways.
Respect for women from guys is something that comes naturally and is taught (Hopefully) as you are growing up. Women should have the same respect as men have for them this is really a two way streak. Being disrespectful to someone shows that you don’t care about the other individuals feelings and don’t consider that you might affect them in the long run. Being respectful to your elders or just anyone shows that you are a person of good quality and character.
RESPECT find out what it means to me....and you know the rest. At the end of the day, it comes down to communication. Remember that actions speak louder than words. When you blow smoke, make sure it's both ways and not one.
(Edited by Jamel V.)
Tuesday, June 29, 2010
Monday, June 28, 2010
Mind Your Own Business
Good Morning everyone well . . . . Today’s topic is about minding your own business. We all have the tendencies of wanting to know what is going on with people we know especially if it some type of big issue. Sometimes we have to realize that people keep us out of certain things for a reason. Us as human beings love to be curious and always want to be in the “loop” of what’s going on. Why do people feel that they need to be told about EVERYTHING that is going on in your life?
Some people feel that they need to be told about EVERYTHING because they feel that they thought they are part of your life and feel as though if they tell you everything you should be able to tell them everything as well. That’s really what it boils down to. They were able to trust you with information so they hope in turn you can do the same. The keyword here is “TRUST” you cannot trust everyone with information pertaining to certain things. There are those who you may consider your best friends but they still blabb your information to the world. Then there are those who you aren’t really cool with that won’t tell a soul. This is where you decided who to share your business with and why you want to share it with them.
Some people as your friends like to be told about some of your business especially if you are going through something. For example, if one of my female friends is going through something with a dude and informs me about it, I expect her to continue telling me things so I can support her through the whole situation. (Such as when he hits you up, what does he say, what you say back to him etc.) I really don’t want you to just tell me one day just because you want to tell someone and then you don’t tell me anything and I catch you crying in a corner at the club because he sent you a random text about you being worth nothing to no one. I would feel some type of way because I could have done more but I didn’t.
Minding your own business refers to a lot of things but sometimes as a friend you have the right to ask those random questions. (“Oh you are going on a date?” “With who?” “Who was that person you where talking to for 2 hours?” “ You and bob chilled the other day?why?”)
In conclusion let's sum up the four main words of this blog:
Mind- the mind is a terrible thing to waste. Don't waste time and efforts with my life and concerns if you're not allowed into the circle of trust. If you're not paying my bills or having sex with me, let your mind wander somewhere else until I decide to reel you in.
Your-not mine, not his, hers, ours, or theirs-the owness comes up on YOU and you alone.
Own- what's possessed and propertied by you
Business- has many definitions, especially when it comes to personal lives and what's important to us.
It's important to make sure that life's actions are appropriate for us to deal with and share for the good and the bad. If you've got a rat, snitch, or an untrustworthy person in the circle you created, get them out before the bubonic plague known as your business starts spreading to areas you don't want.
(Edited by Jamel V.)
Some people feel that they need to be told about EVERYTHING because they feel that they thought they are part of your life and feel as though if they tell you everything you should be able to tell them everything as well. That’s really what it boils down to. They were able to trust you with information so they hope in turn you can do the same. The keyword here is “TRUST” you cannot trust everyone with information pertaining to certain things. There are those who you may consider your best friends but they still blabb your information to the world. Then there are those who you aren’t really cool with that won’t tell a soul. This is where you decided who to share your business with and why you want to share it with them.
Some people as your friends like to be told about some of your business especially if you are going through something. For example, if one of my female friends is going through something with a dude and informs me about it, I expect her to continue telling me things so I can support her through the whole situation. (Such as when he hits you up, what does he say, what you say back to him etc.) I really don’t want you to just tell me one day just because you want to tell someone and then you don’t tell me anything and I catch you crying in a corner at the club because he sent you a random text about you being worth nothing to no one. I would feel some type of way because I could have done more but I didn’t.
Minding your own business refers to a lot of things but sometimes as a friend you have the right to ask those random questions. (“Oh you are going on a date?” “With who?” “Who was that person you where talking to for 2 hours?” “ You and bob chilled the other day?why?”)
In conclusion let's sum up the four main words of this blog:
Mind- the mind is a terrible thing to waste. Don't waste time and efforts with my life and concerns if you're not allowed into the circle of trust. If you're not paying my bills or having sex with me, let your mind wander somewhere else until I decide to reel you in.
Your-not mine, not his, hers, ours, or theirs-the owness comes up on YOU and you alone.
Own- what's possessed and propertied by you
Business- has many definitions, especially when it comes to personal lives and what's important to us.
It's important to make sure that life's actions are appropriate for us to deal with and share for the good and the bad. If you've got a rat, snitch, or an untrustworthy person in the circle you created, get them out before the bubonic plague known as your business starts spreading to areas you don't want.
(Edited by Jamel V.)
Thursday, June 24, 2010
Standards in Relationships
As we continue our topic on having standards . . .today's topic refers to standards in relationships. So i got some friends to express there thoughts on standards in relationships.
Kevin Pierre
I believe that when it comes to standards you "MUST" think about them before you venture off into the world. Especially when it comes to relationships, people complain about being hurt and this and that but that just means you have to up your standards a bit more just to get that right thing that fits you. It's like when you're making Cherry koolaid, it taste okay at first and then after it gets a little bitter and it stops having that buzz that you like. So you update your taste buds to some Grape koolaid, then this has you good for awhile and then loses its appeal to you, so you update to something else. Standards is having something that fits you, that appeals to you and meets your requirements not just "SETTLING" for anything. I was told by my friend "Never just settle for anything" if you just settle that means you don't care what you let in your life and if that happens you just get hurt.You can't just "PICK" someone just because there 5'5, brown eyes, thick thighs and a beautiful smile. It has to go deeper then the norm of outer appearance and certain things the person can do for you.
Of course once in a blue I'll have my friends give there opinions on my topics there opinions i trust and pretty much feel the same way so why repeat the samething twice? lol so . . . .
Munchy Today, people are getting into relationships without setting any standards or boundaries. Although, one may ask,"What are some standards in a relationship?" Personally I think that those standards reflect on the ones you look for in a man/woman.
1.)Respect
(My theory)I'm a very observant kind of gal and I believe that If date a man who is completely disrespectful to his mother, nine times out of ten he will not have any respect for you.
2.) Double-Standard
Don't implement any rules that you know you WILL NOT follow. *pet peave* Fellas/ladies-- If you know you are a flirt don't tell your partner not to if you are not willing to change and abide by YOUR own rule.
3.) Education
I value education, so it's extremely important to me! A man that can speak for himself and teach YOU something is a beautiful thing ladies (without insulting your intelligence, of course). In life you are constantly learning, so why not learn more about the opposite sex?
4.)Loyalty
We all need someone who will be faithful to commitments and obligations. I want to know that the person I'm dating always has my back whether it is a with small helpful deed or to be there for me emotionally (e.g. advise, tot lend a ear, shoulder to cry on,etc). They are not just focused on YOU, but also on the GROWTH of the relationship itself.
Andre F.There are a few things that I hold dear when it comes to someone that I date. It has changed as I have gotten older and value women much more so now.
I value intellect. There is nothing more appealing to me than a woman who can go punch for punch with me on any and every issue that we talk about. When a woman possess this quality, i feel we always have something to talk about and if we always have something to talk about we in turn are willing to tell each other everything. Communication is key!
I value self-respect. Any girl that has self-respect for herself can surely be a potential wifey for me. Its a lot of whores running around today and I don't like that.
I value women who understand traditional roles but wont succumb to them just because a man tells them to do so. Girls who can cook, clean, do it all. Your 5-star chick basically. These women are become more and more rare.
I value looks. I am not shallow but I like for my shorty to compliment me in the looks department.
I also value a women who is god-fearing! For she and I to have a good relationship, we both have to have a strong relationship with GOD.
Those are the main ingredients. These are are things I value when I get serious with a chick.
Kevin Pierre
I believe that when it comes to standards you "MUST" think about them before you venture off into the world. Especially when it comes to relationships, people complain about being hurt and this and that but that just means you have to up your standards a bit more just to get that right thing that fits you. It's like when you're making Cherry koolaid, it taste okay at first and then after it gets a little bitter and it stops having that buzz that you like. So you update your taste buds to some Grape koolaid, then this has you good for awhile and then loses its appeal to you, so you update to something else. Standards is having something that fits you, that appeals to you and meets your requirements not just "SETTLING" for anything. I was told by my friend "Never just settle for anything" if you just settle that means you don't care what you let in your life and if that happens you just get hurt.You can't just "PICK" someone just because there 5'5, brown eyes, thick thighs and a beautiful smile. It has to go deeper then the norm of outer appearance and certain things the person can do for you.
Of course once in a blue I'll have my friends give there opinions on my topics there opinions i trust and pretty much feel the same way so why repeat the samething twice? lol so . . . .
Munchy Today, people are getting into relationships without setting any standards or boundaries. Although, one may ask,"What are some standards in a relationship?" Personally I think that those standards reflect on the ones you look for in a man/woman.
1.)Respect
(My theory)I'm a very observant kind of gal and I believe that If date a man who is completely disrespectful to his mother, nine times out of ten he will not have any respect for you.
2.) Double-Standard
Don't implement any rules that you know you WILL NOT follow. *pet peave* Fellas/ladies-- If you know you are a flirt don't tell your partner not to if you are not willing to change and abide by YOUR own rule.
3.) Education
I value education, so it's extremely important to me! A man that can speak for himself and teach YOU something is a beautiful thing ladies (without insulting your intelligence, of course). In life you are constantly learning, so why not learn more about the opposite sex?
4.)Loyalty
We all need someone who will be faithful to commitments and obligations. I want to know that the person I'm dating always has my back whether it is a with small helpful deed or to be there for me emotionally (e.g. advise, tot lend a ear, shoulder to cry on,etc). They are not just focused on YOU, but also on the GROWTH of the relationship itself.
Andre F.There are a few things that I hold dear when it comes to someone that I date. It has changed as I have gotten older and value women much more so now.
I value intellect. There is nothing more appealing to me than a woman who can go punch for punch with me on any and every issue that we talk about. When a woman possess this quality, i feel we always have something to talk about and if we always have something to talk about we in turn are willing to tell each other everything. Communication is key!
I value self-respect. Any girl that has self-respect for herself can surely be a potential wifey for me. Its a lot of whores running around today and I don't like that.
I value women who understand traditional roles but wont succumb to them just because a man tells them to do so. Girls who can cook, clean, do it all. Your 5-star chick basically. These women are become more and more rare.
I value looks. I am not shallow but I like for my shorty to compliment me in the looks department.
I also value a women who is god-fearing! For she and I to have a good relationship, we both have to have a strong relationship with GOD.
Those are the main ingredients. These are are things I value when I get serious with a chick.
Tuesday, June 22, 2010
Having Standards in 2010
Hey Everyone! Today’s topic is having standards in 2010. This basically refers to the people you surround yourself with everyday of the week.
Standards is defined a rule or principle that is used as a basis for judgment or an average or normal requirement, quality, quantity, level, grade, etc. (dictionary.com)
Now that we KNOW what standards are we have to sit there and ask ourselves “Do I have standards?” You will know immediately by the type of people you surround yourself with. “Do I have friendship standards?” Do you just let anybody into your friendship circle? If you do then you have no standards in my opinion. This always depends though especially if you have a good group of friends that you trust and one of them wants to bring someone into the loop. If you trust this persons “standards” then you should be fine and nothing will happen, BUT if the person that is brought in is just the SCUM of the earth I think there should be some type of intervention for this case. Me personally I don’t let everyone into my friend circle . . . I break it down into 4 categories:
Acquaintances – People who are not of friend caliber yet and I talk to here and there on some random stuff (Once in a blue)
People – Those who have earned a little bit of my trust and that might have a little potential of being hit up on a regular
Friends – Those who you can have actual conversations with and sometimes don’t give you the greatest advice but are still there
Best Friends – Are those who are always around no matter what, you can call them at 3am and they will pick up the phone pissed as hell but still be there for you to listen. They are pretty much your cheering section and always want to see you do better
When it comes to friends you have to have standards because if you surround yourself with “ain’t shit people” you start to become one of them. Standards when it comes to friend’s lets you know who you CAN rely on and who you CAN’T rely on.
Now standards as it pertains to relationships, this is something you build up as you go in and out of them.
TO BE CONTINUED . . . . Standards and Relationships . . . .
Standards is defined a rule or principle that is used as a basis for judgment or an average or normal requirement, quality, quantity, level, grade, etc. (dictionary.com)
Now that we KNOW what standards are we have to sit there and ask ourselves “Do I have standards?” You will know immediately by the type of people you surround yourself with. “Do I have friendship standards?” Do you just let anybody into your friendship circle? If you do then you have no standards in my opinion. This always depends though especially if you have a good group of friends that you trust and one of them wants to bring someone into the loop. If you trust this persons “standards” then you should be fine and nothing will happen, BUT if the person that is brought in is just the SCUM of the earth I think there should be some type of intervention for this case. Me personally I don’t let everyone into my friend circle . . . I break it down into 4 categories:
Acquaintances – People who are not of friend caliber yet and I talk to here and there on some random stuff (Once in a blue)
People – Those who have earned a little bit of my trust and that might have a little potential of being hit up on a regular
Friends – Those who you can have actual conversations with and sometimes don’t give you the greatest advice but are still there
Best Friends – Are those who are always around no matter what, you can call them at 3am and they will pick up the phone pissed as hell but still be there for you to listen. They are pretty much your cheering section and always want to see you do better
When it comes to friends you have to have standards because if you surround yourself with “ain’t shit people” you start to become one of them. Standards when it comes to friend’s lets you know who you CAN rely on and who you CAN’T rely on.
Now standards as it pertains to relationships, this is something you build up as you go in and out of them.
TO BE CONTINUED . . . . Standards and Relationships . . . .
Monday, June 21, 2010
The Other Guy (Topic Chosen By JamJam)
Good Morning Readers! Hopefully everyone had a good weekend and enjoyed it! WELL today's topic is about "The Other Guy." The other guy I am referring to is the one that females refer to as the one that f**ks them over so they say F all dudes.
It always starts off boy meets girl, they start to talk about themselves and then it gets down to talking about past relationships or people who we talked to before them. (It always good to know about the last person because you can learn things not to do that will piss off the person you trying to talk to now.) When I'm talking to a female first thing they ALWAYS say is the dude fucked her over for another girl or he took her for granted. (Now that we know what the other dude did we try not to make the same mistake) Sometimes when I am talking to my female friend’s conversations usually go like this:
Kevin: So why aren’t you with anyone your mad chill, relaxed and great to talk too.
Female: Well, I’m over dudes at the moment the last guy I was talking to he fucked me over and I am just over dudes, there all the same
Kevin: PAUSE! . . . all dudes are not the same, sorry the ones that you messed with where a different breed. I apologize for them.
Female: Dudes really aren’t shit though they all want the same thing! I hate them all
Kevin: You should rephrase that because the dudes YOU FUCKED with aren’t shit so get it together
That’s how most conversations end . . . . with them saying “Dudes ain’t shit” just say “Dudes I’ve fucked with ain’t shit” then we wouldn’t be so mad. Now that we know your situation, which is very common among females, what is the next step?
Most times when females say they aren’t into talking to people at the moment it’s only because they are still feeling some type of way about the other dude. This other dude messes it up for the rest of the male population because most females are self conscious about this stuff. Some think “okay I don’t want to get hurt again I will play it safe now”, “I don’t want to waste time on another person again” or “I’m not cute enough for anyone else” (YES I’ve heard females say this one). All you can do as a guy is just be there and be supportive , try to prove them wrong that all guys aren’t the same. Females have to remember though they need to stop messing with little boys and start messing with men who won’t treat them like that. Live, learn and move the hell on . . . you can’t let your past troubles define what you do in the future with someone else. If you let your past rule your life then you’ll live in your past forever.
It always starts off boy meets girl, they start to talk about themselves and then it gets down to talking about past relationships or people who we talked to before them. (It always good to know about the last person because you can learn things not to do that will piss off the person you trying to talk to now.) When I'm talking to a female first thing they ALWAYS say is the dude fucked her over for another girl or he took her for granted. (Now that we know what the other dude did we try not to make the same mistake) Sometimes when I am talking to my female friend’s conversations usually go like this:
Kevin: So why aren’t you with anyone your mad chill, relaxed and great to talk too.
Female: Well, I’m over dudes at the moment the last guy I was talking to he fucked me over and I am just over dudes, there all the same
Kevin: PAUSE! . . . all dudes are not the same, sorry the ones that you messed with where a different breed. I apologize for them.
Female: Dudes really aren’t shit though they all want the same thing! I hate them all
Kevin: You should rephrase that because the dudes YOU FUCKED with aren’t shit so get it together
That’s how most conversations end . . . . with them saying “Dudes ain’t shit” just say “Dudes I’ve fucked with ain’t shit” then we wouldn’t be so mad. Now that we know your situation, which is very common among females, what is the next step?
Most times when females say they aren’t into talking to people at the moment it’s only because they are still feeling some type of way about the other dude. This other dude messes it up for the rest of the male population because most females are self conscious about this stuff. Some think “okay I don’t want to get hurt again I will play it safe now”, “I don’t want to waste time on another person again” or “I’m not cute enough for anyone else” (YES I’ve heard females say this one). All you can do as a guy is just be there and be supportive , try to prove them wrong that all guys aren’t the same. Females have to remember though they need to stop messing with little boys and start messing with men who won’t treat them like that. Live, learn and move the hell on . . . you can’t let your past troubles define what you do in the future with someone else. If you let your past rule your life then you’ll live in your past forever.
Friday, June 18, 2010
Why Do People Cheat In Relationships? (Topic Chosen By Crystaline R.)
Today’s topic is something that is becoming common among a lot of people today in relationships. I am talking about those who are in relationships and cheat on the other person they are with. What is so wrong in your relationship that you have to cheat on the other person? Why can’t you just break up with the person you are with first then get with whoever you want? Why stay in the relationship and hurt the other person just because you still have feelings for them?
There are a million questions you can ask these people but most likely there answer will be “I don’t know.” Some might not have a clear definite answer to this question, so once again “WHY DO PEOPLE CHEAT IN RELATIONSHIPS?!”
Top 4 reasons people cheat in relationships:
1. Boredom: They ‘re tired of being with the same person after so long they want something new
2. The Rush: They like the RUSH of keeping secrets and the risk of almost getting caught it gets there adrenaline pumping
3. Revenge: They cheated on you so you cheat on them
4. You allow them to: The person forgives you . . .this just shows that your allowing them to get away with it so they’re going to keep doing it
For those who cheat instead of messing with the persons head why don’t you just break up? Seriously . . . that’s my question for you “WHY DON’T YOU JUST BREAK UP WITH THEM?” Instead of keeping the relationship going just break up, end it and go with the next person that you wanted? Just remember that you get what you ask for. As Tyler Perry applied in his movie “Why Did I Get Married?” this is when the 80/20 rule comes into effect
“The 80/20 Rule is simple. In a healthy relationship, you get about 80 per cent of what you need/want from your partner. They are caring, respectful and share a lot of the same interests as you, but then you meet someone who catches your attention for an unknown reason. It may well be because they fulfill the missing 20 per cent in your relationship – namely the sexual component. Because that 20 per cent has been missing for so long, you quickly conclude, “Hey, this person has everything I am looking for in a partner.” This can be a relationship killer. Since you jump genitals-first for this new interest, you may have given up your 80 per cent loving partner for a 20 per cent fling. The regret automatically sets in.”
In long relationships people assume that they’re not getting enough from the relationship and always jump on the next ship that comes into port but why do that when you may have the BEST thing that ever happened to you? People cheat for the dumbest reason’s all we can do is live and learn from the experience. No matter what it seems like, everyone will get cheated on at one point in life and what you do from there is up to you.
References:
http://travismagazine.wordpress.com/2009/02/10/why-we-cheat-the-8020-rule/
Tyler Perry “Why Did I get Married?”
There are a million questions you can ask these people but most likely there answer will be “I don’t know.” Some might not have a clear definite answer to this question, so once again “WHY DO PEOPLE CHEAT IN RELATIONSHIPS?!”
Top 4 reasons people cheat in relationships:
1. Boredom: They ‘re tired of being with the same person after so long they want something new
2. The Rush: They like the RUSH of keeping secrets and the risk of almost getting caught it gets there adrenaline pumping
3. Revenge: They cheated on you so you cheat on them
4. You allow them to: The person forgives you . . .this just shows that your allowing them to get away with it so they’re going to keep doing it
For those who cheat instead of messing with the persons head why don’t you just break up? Seriously . . . that’s my question for you “WHY DON’T YOU JUST BREAK UP WITH THEM?” Instead of keeping the relationship going just break up, end it and go with the next person that you wanted? Just remember that you get what you ask for. As Tyler Perry applied in his movie “Why Did I Get Married?” this is when the 80/20 rule comes into effect
“The 80/20 Rule is simple. In a healthy relationship, you get about 80 per cent of what you need/want from your partner. They are caring, respectful and share a lot of the same interests as you, but then you meet someone who catches your attention for an unknown reason. It may well be because they fulfill the missing 20 per cent in your relationship – namely the sexual component. Because that 20 per cent has been missing for so long, you quickly conclude, “Hey, this person has everything I am looking for in a partner.” This can be a relationship killer. Since you jump genitals-first for this new interest, you may have given up your 80 per cent loving partner for a 20 per cent fling. The regret automatically sets in.”
In long relationships people assume that they’re not getting enough from the relationship and always jump on the next ship that comes into port but why do that when you may have the BEST thing that ever happened to you? People cheat for the dumbest reason’s all we can do is live and learn from the experience. No matter what it seems like, everyone will get cheated on at one point in life and what you do from there is up to you.
References:
http://travismagazine.wordpress.com/2009/02/10/why-we-cheat-the-8020-rule/
Tyler Perry “Why Did I get Married?”
Thursday, June 17, 2010
Real People Vs Fake People
Today's topic is Real people Vs Fake people
A fake person is the type of person who is all happy happy joy joy in front of your face one minute and the next minute there talking about you behind your back with someone else. For example, say you work with five people and you have that one person who is a complete bitch in the work environment. You think that she is cool with you and some of the other co-workers but she puts on a front so she can get closer to you, and then pushes you into the bottom of a well. I am a very observant and I tend to notice little things such as, when you are talking with someone and your all cool with them and their helping you out and then you turn around and come to me like "I don't know why so and so acts this way and that way . . . Ima go tell management." Are you serious? You’re a good actor but this isn’t movie so I definitely know who not to talk to about anything because you’re just a dishonest & disloyal person.
Fact: Fake people cannot be trusted with important information
A real person you can say is a person who is honest and you would kind of consider your ride or die person. Not saying that real people are not fake sometimes but there just not going to stab you in your back and keep hacking away so you have no more feeling in your back. Real people are usually straight forward, blunt and keep it how it is. Why lie when you can just say what’s on your mind about what needs to be said? An example of this would be you with your peoples, you guys just finished eating something amazing and okay your breathe is a little funky like you say "hi" to someone and they will pass out and real person would have said politely," Yo your breathe is kind of funky I'm just informing you so you don't get played by someone or hurt." That's a good friend and a real person. A fake person would have literally just let your breathe stink up the whole place and texted their friends like "Yo Kevin breathe is ROCCCKIN right now and this shit is funny watching him walk up to girls and them giving him the mean face."
Fact: There are no 100 percent real people (I've come to realize that now)
A fake person is the type of person who is all happy happy joy joy in front of your face one minute and the next minute there talking about you behind your back with someone else. For example, say you work with five people and you have that one person who is a complete bitch in the work environment. You think that she is cool with you and some of the other co-workers but she puts on a front so she can get closer to you, and then pushes you into the bottom of a well. I am a very observant and I tend to notice little things such as, when you are talking with someone and your all cool with them and their helping you out and then you turn around and come to me like "I don't know why so and so acts this way and that way . . . Ima go tell management." Are you serious? You’re a good actor but this isn’t movie so I definitely know who not to talk to about anything because you’re just a dishonest & disloyal person.
Fact: Fake people cannot be trusted with important information
A real person you can say is a person who is honest and you would kind of consider your ride or die person. Not saying that real people are not fake sometimes but there just not going to stab you in your back and keep hacking away so you have no more feeling in your back. Real people are usually straight forward, blunt and keep it how it is. Why lie when you can just say what’s on your mind about what needs to be said? An example of this would be you with your peoples, you guys just finished eating something amazing and okay your breathe is a little funky like you say "hi" to someone and they will pass out and real person would have said politely," Yo your breathe is kind of funky I'm just informing you so you don't get played by someone or hurt." That's a good friend and a real person. A fake person would have literally just let your breathe stink up the whole place and texted their friends like "Yo Kevin breathe is ROCCCKIN right now and this shit is funny watching him walk up to girls and them giving him the mean face."
Fact: There are no 100 percent real people (I've come to realize that now)
Tuesday, June 15, 2010
Facebook Stalker (Topic Chosen by Jeremiah M.)
Today's topic is about the typical facebook stalker. First let’s define what a stalker is 1.To pursue by tracking stealthily. 2. To follow or observe (a person) persistently, especially out of obsession or derangement. (dictionary.com)
NOW that we know what is stalking lets continue with this topic. . . .stalkers tend to stay in the shadows until they want to be noticed. Facebook stalkers are a different breed though, they are those people SOOOOON as you turn on your fb chat you get that message "HEY HOW YOU DOIN!?" "HOW WAS YOUR DAY?" "YOU SHOULD CALL ME SO WE CAN TALK SINCE I STILL DON'T HAVE YOUR NUMBER" . . . .PAUSE . . .step back and let me look at my notifications first before you ask me 21 questions like we married or something.
Sometimes STALKERS come off very nonchalant or casual until you let them in. These people are the ones who hit you up way to much or comment on all your pictures, LITERALLY ALL you pictures, and don't ever get the message that "back the hell up and give me space" type deal. Sometimes when you don't even turn on FB chat they already know your routine, meaning they know when you come on, who your friends, where you be at. They will hit you wit a couple FB comments on your page such as "Why aren't you on FB chat I know you're off school" or "I understand you have a bf but I REALLY want to be friends with you so give me your number and we can chill somewhere" or "Why haven't you hit me back I messaged you 3 days ago at exactly 3:45pm and I seent that you commented your friend LaQuana just 5 mins ago why you avoiding me?" Just little things like that might consider someone a little bit stalkerish.
How to get rid of a FB stalker:
Step 1: Identify the Stalker
Step 2: Tell them to fall back politely
Step 3: If they don't fall back BLOCK THEY ASS!!
. . . .that is all . . .
NOW that we know what is stalking lets continue with this topic. . . .stalkers tend to stay in the shadows until they want to be noticed. Facebook stalkers are a different breed though, they are those people SOOOOON as you turn on your fb chat you get that message "HEY HOW YOU DOIN!?" "HOW WAS YOUR DAY?" "YOU SHOULD CALL ME SO WE CAN TALK SINCE I STILL DON'T HAVE YOUR NUMBER" . . . .PAUSE . . .step back and let me look at my notifications first before you ask me 21 questions like we married or something.
Sometimes STALKERS come off very nonchalant or casual until you let them in. These people are the ones who hit you up way to much or comment on all your pictures, LITERALLY ALL you pictures, and don't ever get the message that "back the hell up and give me space" type deal. Sometimes when you don't even turn on FB chat they already know your routine, meaning they know when you come on, who your friends, where you be at. They will hit you wit a couple FB comments on your page such as "Why aren't you on FB chat I know you're off school" or "I understand you have a bf but I REALLY want to be friends with you so give me your number and we can chill somewhere" or "Why haven't you hit me back I messaged you 3 days ago at exactly 3:45pm and I seent that you commented your friend LaQuana just 5 mins ago why you avoiding me?" Just little things like that might consider someone a little bit stalkerish.
How to get rid of a FB stalker:
Step 1: Identify the Stalker
Step 2: Tell them to fall back politely
Step 3: If they don't fall back BLOCK THEY ASS!!
. . . .that is all . . .
Monday, June 14, 2010
Communication Goes 2 Ways(Topic Chosen By Mario W.)
Topic today is about communication and how people only assume it works one way instead of two.
Every time we are out and about its a habit for us to check our phones or our social networks to see who has sent us a message, but it gets frustrating when you send messages and the only time anyone ever responds or gets in contact with you is when you get in contact with them first.
For example, you always hit someone up maybe everyday and they never hit you up but one day you just don't want to hit no one up and you get the message "so why you ain't hit me up yet?" well maybe cause i shouldn't feel obligated to hit you up all the time. People have to understand that communication is the key to success and that it goes both ways not just one way.
Another example of failed communication is that you always hit someone up via text, phone call or message and they never get back to you. They get mad at you though when you'reout with one of their friends and "supposedly" they weren't invited. Well . . ..if you would have got back to me when i was contacting you like a stalker maybe you would have known. I feel that these type of people if you contact them 3-4 times and they don't get back to you within a month(just because they might be busy) there numbers should be deleted and that takes up less space in your phone.
Word of advice to those who need it before getting mad at someone for not contacting you figure out how much they contacted you and how many times you never contacted them.
Every time we are out and about its a habit for us to check our phones or our social networks to see who has sent us a message, but it gets frustrating when you send messages and the only time anyone ever responds or gets in contact with you is when you get in contact with them first.
For example, you always hit someone up maybe everyday and they never hit you up but one day you just don't want to hit no one up and you get the message "so why you ain't hit me up yet?" well maybe cause i shouldn't feel obligated to hit you up all the time. People have to understand that communication is the key to success and that it goes both ways not just one way.
Another example of failed communication is that you always hit someone up via text, phone call or message and they never get back to you. They get mad at you though when you'reout with one of their friends and "supposedly" they weren't invited. Well . . ..if you would have got back to me when i was contacting you like a stalker maybe you would have known. I feel that these type of people if you contact them 3-4 times and they don't get back to you within a month(just because they might be busy) there numbers should be deleted and that takes up less space in your phone.
Word of advice to those who need it before getting mad at someone for not contacting you figure out how much they contacted you and how many times you never contacted them.
Thursday, June 10, 2010
My Co-Workers are Kooler then Yours
So my birthday weekend was officially the dopest thing ever. Got so much love from everyone thanks again for the support and all those who celebrated with me.
Today's topic is about co-workers and how they make your work experience 10x more fun then it already is. Most people hate there jobs or are just not to enthusiastic of it but this is where having good co-workers come in. People who are just as relaxed as you, do there work and actually have fun while doing it. Good co-workers usually have your back and usually cover for you when you are later. For example, Monday and Tuesday my co-workers bought me some cupcakes, pizza and a card for my birthday. They also knew I was going to have a party so they said if I came in late they would act like I was here the whole time. Those are great co-workers, we laugh and joke about the stupidest random shit ever but these guys are really really dope.
Bad co-workers are the ones always trying to throw you under the bus, they make the work environment very tense and try to make you look bad all the time. You sit there and think "Why are you such a bitch for?" That's just in there nature they never want to help anyone but themselves so what can you do? Don't be like them, you have to find reasons why you like to work and why you love your job.
Sooooo that's why i definitely say out of all the 4 jobs I've had so far my co-workers at my current one are definitely kooler then yours.
SHOUT OUT TO MY COWORKERS!!! MARIO, NICOLE AND JOSE aka SHREK!
Today's topic is about co-workers and how they make your work experience 10x more fun then it already is. Most people hate there jobs or are just not to enthusiastic of it but this is where having good co-workers come in. People who are just as relaxed as you, do there work and actually have fun while doing it. Good co-workers usually have your back and usually cover for you when you are later. For example, Monday and Tuesday my co-workers bought me some cupcakes, pizza and a card for my birthday. They also knew I was going to have a party so they said if I came in late they would act like I was here the whole time. Those are great co-workers, we laugh and joke about the stupidest random shit ever but these guys are really really dope.
Bad co-workers are the ones always trying to throw you under the bus, they make the work environment very tense and try to make you look bad all the time. You sit there and think "Why are you such a bitch for?" That's just in there nature they never want to help anyone but themselves so what can you do? Don't be like them, you have to find reasons why you like to work and why you love your job.
Sooooo that's why i definitely say out of all the 4 jobs I've had so far my co-workers at my current one are definitely kooler then yours.
SHOUT OUT TO MY COWORKERS!!! MARIO, NICOLE AND JOSE aka SHREK!
Friday, June 4, 2010
OH EMM GEE BDAY WEEKEND !!
Sorry guys really not in the mood to share my thoughts =) thinking bout the BDAY WEEEEEKEND soooo ill keep you posted on the next blog that goes up ENJOY YOUR WEEEEEKEND
Thursday, June 3, 2010
Taking Risks:Crushing 101
When it comes to crushing on someone best thing to do is just TELL THEM! no matter the consequences. Taking risks when crushing on someone has to be the best and most healthiest thing you can do for yourself. Who cares if they don't like you or if they blow you off, at least you told them and are finally able to move on with life with out that extra weight on your shoulder.
Crushing is similar to liking someone sooooo if your willing to take the risk just do a "Jersey Fist Pump" and walk up to the person and say whats on your chest. Holding back and being shy will not get you anywhere. You always meet those people that always say "I had a crush on you back in the day but was scared to tell you" or "I got something to tell you but your with somebody right now so ill tell you at another time." Seriously? C'mon son we gotta live in the "NOW" because tomorrow is never promised, you only live once. You might get turned down by 7 or 10 people but there is that 1 person waiting out there for you to just tell them how they feel.
Follow these steps and you will be successful in passing this class:
1. Drink some soda to calm your nerves
2. Find a fist pump song and get at least 3-4 fist pumps out to get hype
3. Just be upfront with the person(don't spill your soul out but be direct)
If you get shot down . . .more fish in the sea maybe it wasn't meant to be. If you don't get shot down, I have 2 dollars for you to go out on a nice date and buy some chips and juice YOUR A WINNER!!
Crushing is similar to liking someone sooooo if your willing to take the risk just do a "Jersey Fist Pump" and walk up to the person and say whats on your chest. Holding back and being shy will not get you anywhere. You always meet those people that always say "I had a crush on you back in the day but was scared to tell you" or "I got something to tell you but your with somebody right now so ill tell you at another time." Seriously? C'mon son we gotta live in the "NOW" because tomorrow is never promised, you only live once. You might get turned down by 7 or 10 people but there is that 1 person waiting out there for you to just tell them how they feel.
Follow these steps and you will be successful in passing this class:
1. Drink some soda to calm your nerves
2. Find a fist pump song and get at least 3-4 fist pumps out to get hype
3. Just be upfront with the person(don't spill your soul out but be direct)
If you get shot down . . .more fish in the sea maybe it wasn't meant to be. If you don't get shot down, I have 2 dollars for you to go out on a nice date and buy some chips and juice YOUR A WINNER!!
Wednesday, June 2, 2010
"I like you. Oh thats kool I like you as a friend too" WTF?!
Why is it bad to have a crush/like someone?
Have you ever been in one of those situations when you are feeling someone and your just telling yourself "I'm going to tell them how i feel" but when you do the whole thing blows up in your face? It happens to everyone don't act like it doesn't, you tell someone you like them and you get one of these responses:
1.I like you as a friend too
2.Awkward Silence
3.I'm not looking for anything serious right now
4.I'm not interested
5.Thanks for telling me
6.They completely change the subject
When you have a crush/like someone you'll just start thinking bout them at random times of the day and when you see them sometimes you get tongue tied or just don't know the right words to say to them (i know that happens to me). Bad thing about having a crush/liking someone is that sometimes they only see you as a friend and nothing more. 9 times out of 10 your the one getting hurt from telling them how you feel. 9 times out of 10 not telling them is just saving you from being burned by someone who may not deserve you at all.
You build up a crush for someone when your getting to know them. I'm not going to front I've gotten attached to people "I KNEW" where going to be like "Kevin your the best guy friend I have" or " I'm not looking for anything serious right now." This is where the "FRIENDCARD" gets thrown in ALLLLLLL the time. Especially if your crushing hard on someone and they notice and say something like :
1. I think your one of my coolest guy/girl Friend
2. I look at you like my little brother/little sister
Why is it bad to have a crush/like someone? Well . . .cause you usually never win and if you do win your that 1 out of 10 that does, I'm happy for you congratulations. Here is free complementary cookie =) have a nice day
Tomorrow's Topic: "Taking Risks:Crushing 101"
Have you ever been in one of those situations when you are feeling someone and your just telling yourself "I'm going to tell them how i feel" but when you do the whole thing blows up in your face? It happens to everyone don't act like it doesn't, you tell someone you like them and you get one of these responses:
1.I like you as a friend too
2.Awkward Silence
3.I'm not looking for anything serious right now
4.I'm not interested
5.Thanks for telling me
6.They completely change the subject
When you have a crush/like someone you'll just start thinking bout them at random times of the day and when you see them sometimes you get tongue tied or just don't know the right words to say to them (i know that happens to me). Bad thing about having a crush/liking someone is that sometimes they only see you as a friend and nothing more. 9 times out of 10 your the one getting hurt from telling them how you feel. 9 times out of 10 not telling them is just saving you from being burned by someone who may not deserve you at all.
You build up a crush for someone when your getting to know them. I'm not going to front I've gotten attached to people "I KNEW" where going to be like "Kevin your the best guy friend I have" or " I'm not looking for anything serious right now." This is where the "FRIENDCARD" gets thrown in ALLLLLLL the time. Especially if your crushing hard on someone and they notice and say something like :
1. I think your one of my coolest guy/girl Friend
2. I look at you like my little brother/little sister
Why is it bad to have a crush/like someone? Well . . .cause you usually never win and if you do win your that 1 out of 10 that does, I'm happy for you congratulations. Here is free complementary cookie =) have a nice day
Tomorrow's Topic: "Taking Risks:Crushing 101"
Tuesday, June 1, 2010
Good Guy Vs Bad Guy Vs Good Girl Vs Bad Girl Part#4
The final topic of this serious Part#4 "What is a Bad Girl?"
Nicole SieversThere are many reasons a girl could be considered “bad”, but to me the ultimate bad girl is a girl who creates drama and problems for no reason. Bad girls are usually the first ones to stab other people in the back, and create situations when they feel all eyes aren't on them. She is manipulative and conniving, and usually quite the bitch. The “bad girl” usually preys on using a guy for everything he has, whether it be his money or kindness. They will use anything and everything they can to manipulate guys into giving them exactly what they want. They are constantly jealous of every little thing, when its usually them cheating/flirting/talking to other guys. If said bad girl is single, there is a good chance she is trying to steal your boyfriend, just to see if she can. Bad girls will do everything and anything to be number one.
Mario Williams
Bad girls...in my opinion bad girls are those girls who have no good intentions at all, they just pretend to. Bad girls have a tendency to leave scars inside the men they've dealt with, especially those men who really cared for them. The bad girls I've seen always turn out to be wolves in sheep's clothing. They play like they're really sold out for you and within a moment's time, they mysteriously have a change of heart. Bad girls like this make it hard for good men out there to really trust a woman. That's why there are a lot of men who dog females. Not to excuse that behavior, but it's true for a lot of men. Because the fact that men don't want to feel played, they won't open up to females and it's because of the "bad girls" out there.
Jose ChanquinA girl you don't want to be in a relationship with ...... a girl who can't hold her own like is dependant of someone else and seems like she has no future ahead of her doesn't work or doesn't go to school ...she has to be mature right from the beginning if she likes to argue for no random reason, a girl who is confident about what she got and won't be doubting you and questioning you with every phone call and every text message, she has to know you don't only have guyfriends there are also female friends and she understands that, she knows that you both have lives so it means she can go out with her friends and you hang out with your friends no discussion.
Remember these are just opinions and thoughts of others so don't feel some type of way about "other" peoples opinions. Everyone has there own definitions of what they think a bad girl is because we all have experienced something different. Whenever you are faced with "Good Guy, Good Girl,Bad Guy or Good Girl" just relax take a deep breathe and do what you feel is right.
Tomorrow's Topic: "I like you. Oh thats kool I like you as a friend too" WTF?! (Why is it bad to have a crush/like someone)
Nicole SieversThere are many reasons a girl could be considered “bad”, but to me the ultimate bad girl is a girl who creates drama and problems for no reason. Bad girls are usually the first ones to stab other people in the back, and create situations when they feel all eyes aren't on them. She is manipulative and conniving, and usually quite the bitch. The “bad girl” usually preys on using a guy for everything he has, whether it be his money or kindness. They will use anything and everything they can to manipulate guys into giving them exactly what they want. They are constantly jealous of every little thing, when its usually them cheating/flirting/talking to other guys. If said bad girl is single, there is a good chance she is trying to steal your boyfriend, just to see if she can. Bad girls will do everything and anything to be number one.
Mario Williams
Bad girls...in my opinion bad girls are those girls who have no good intentions at all, they just pretend to. Bad girls have a tendency to leave scars inside the men they've dealt with, especially those men who really cared for them. The bad girls I've seen always turn out to be wolves in sheep's clothing. They play like they're really sold out for you and within a moment's time, they mysteriously have a change of heart. Bad girls like this make it hard for good men out there to really trust a woman. That's why there are a lot of men who dog females. Not to excuse that behavior, but it's true for a lot of men. Because the fact that men don't want to feel played, they won't open up to females and it's because of the "bad girls" out there.
Jose ChanquinA girl you don't want to be in a relationship with ...... a girl who can't hold her own like is dependant of someone else and seems like she has no future ahead of her doesn't work or doesn't go to school ...she has to be mature right from the beginning if she likes to argue for no random reason, a girl who is confident about what she got and won't be doubting you and questioning you with every phone call and every text message, she has to know you don't only have guyfriends there are also female friends and she understands that, she knows that you both have lives so it means she can go out with her friends and you hang out with your friends no discussion.
Remember these are just opinions and thoughts of others so don't feel some type of way about "other" peoples opinions. Everyone has there own definitions of what they think a bad girl is because we all have experienced something different. Whenever you are faced with "Good Guy, Good Girl,Bad Guy or Good Girl" just relax take a deep breathe and do what you feel is right.
Tomorrow's Topic: "I like you. Oh thats kool I like you as a friend too" WTF?! (Why is it bad to have a crush/like someone)
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