10 Years Later

            Sometimes I think it’s good to reflect on the past just to look at where you’ve been and where you plan to go. It’s coming up to 10 years since I graduated from high school and I took the time to go thru my HS yearbook. This is what I discovered:

• I am old as shit
• I was ugly
• If these people tried to get buddy-buddy with me now I’d tell them to fuck off
• All these people got kids and families
• I’m working on my 2nd passport
• I got 2 degrees and a non-profit

 

            I would have to say I came a long way from being ugly since 1988, graduating from ACHS in 2006 and being the great person I am today. Would I go back and re-do anything in my life? No, why would I? The things I did in my past made me the great person I am today. If someone ever tells you they would re-do certain situations in their life that made them who they are today, then smack them one good time. I feel certain situations good or bad lead us on a particular path to greatness. Not saying that you don’t want to live a particular moment over again it’s the fact that some people want to change that moment. That moment could have made you who you are today, if you change it you may not know where that new path will lead you.

            I always get people who say “oh you changed,” of course I changed. I don’t stay the same; I just grow and evolve as a person. Every day is a new day to be better then the person you use to be. The person from 10 years ago shouldn’t be the same person you see today. When I look back at this very moment 10 years from now I want to be in a better place then I am now. I want to be doing something different, married, kids, taking more trips around the world and just being genuinely happy. It’s all about setting your life goals and pushing yourself to meet them. The person that I was 10 years ago made me who I am today but I am not the same person from 10 years ago. I have become a better version of me and have not let my past define who I am. It’s good to reflect on your past just to make sure you’re not still doing the things you use to do that don't benefit your growth. Upgrade your life and your next 10 years will be the greatest time of your life.

“Your past never defines your future”

*DISCLAIMER: I'm aware its not exactly 10 years yet but this blog is in reference to going ON 10 years from graduating from HS

Chasing The Queen

On one of my daily commutes to work I was talking to an elderly couple who had been married for 52 years and they where revisiting the site where he proposed to her. He proposed to her in Time Square and just wanted to spend the day with her in that area. My conversation with him went as followed:

Kevin: What was the key thing that kept you guys together for so long?

Elder Man: Everyday I treat her like it’s a brand new love, the love I met for the first time. I do everything I did in the beginning to try and win her heart so no one else would take it from me.

Kevin:  What did you do?

Elder Man: Back then we didn’t have phones or the internet so I would walk to her house everyday or write her letters. I would tell her exactly how I felt and try to impress her. Take her out to dinners, picnics and bring her flowers. What we did back then was try and court young women back and stick with the one we had an eye for.

Kevin: Do you feel that people have lost that aspect of courting?

Elder Man: Yes because my grand daughter told me a guy liked her but he didn’t even take her out yet. They would hang out at his house because he had his own place. I’m assuming they are just having getting it on but I told her if he isn’t trying to open your mind to new experiences he isn’t for you. A man that truly wants to be with you will go out of his way to treat you different. He will fall in love with the person you are and not just what he sees on the outside. He will continue chasing you even when he has already won your heart, just to make sure you are forever his.

To cut this story short this had to be one of my many conversations I’ve had with someone older that told me that “courting” someone was an essential part of getting the person you wanted. The thing is does courting in 2015 still exist?  Courtship is defined the act, period, or art of seeking the love of someone with the intent to marry.  I feel once you get past a certain age the games and BS need to stop because the clock is ticking. You don’t want to be 40 and alone with a number of animals named after people you dated, that could have been “the” one. Does courting only apply to men? Women are extremely aggressive now and won’t wait around forever for a man to make up his mind. She will either quickly move on or ask him what is up. Some cases women actually propose to men but that’s a different topic and never in my life do I want to see a woman get on one knee to propose to a man.

Being from this generation I get the difficulties of social media, rumors being spread and things not being serious. The thing is we shouldn’t stop striving to be with someone great and doing great things. Seeing one of my friends get married and seeing him have his Drake moments inspired me to take a more serious look at life. As you get older and wiser things change so you have to change with them.  

 "Chasing the Queen
That inspires me to be a better man
The better man that isn't like your last
. . .but plans to be your last" - Kevin Pierre