#SummerBoo

As the summer draws to a close lets start to thank our summer boo’s for the roles they have played in making sure we had an enjoyable summer. Lets be real, if you are single you had a “Summer Boo”. Someone that you could take places with you, if you didn’t want to go alone. You didn’t consider them a summer boo, you probably just considered them a real good friend. Some people got out relationships right before the summer just so they could have fun for the summer. People don’t get that they are just the summer boo, the temporary fling that people want for the summer. The summer is when people have the most time to do anything and are free, so why not have a summer boo right?

I classify the summer boo as just a temporary person that is around for the summer that you don’t really see yourself with. Sometimes you can under certain circumstances but that is very slim. You already know who you want before you have a summer boo but you get one just because everyone is doing there own thing for the summer. Yes a summer boo can turn into a potential but during the summer people don’t want to be tied down. Why be tied down when you can just have fun? As humans we don’t like doing things alone and when we see couples we are just like “I wish I could have someone to do things with to.” It doesn’t have to be anything physical more so like adventures. Lets go on vacation together or try something new that we have never tried. Don’t forget people catch feelings sometimes. You have to be clear with people so they don’t hurt. Sometimes we don’t care about people’s feelings but you can’t damage friendships for a summer of fun.

As long as you keep a boundary and make it clear what is going on, you won’t lose people. If you don’t someone always gets hurt. As the summer ends don’t forget to come back to reality and remember that it is only for a season. A seasonal lover is never good to have but just someone to experience a good time with isn’t that bad. As long as you are happy that’s all that matters.

“Life is a game. You have to play it your way or people will make you follow their ways”

The Girl with the THOT Tattoo

This is not a generalization, this in reference to both male and female.

This word THOT has literally come out of nowhere and I really hate it but I use it. I really hate the word but it is so catchy and its get the point across.  People really don’t take offense to this word. If I was to call you a HO you would be so upset but if I called you a THOT you would kind of giggle and say, “ No I am not”.  Lets rewind and go back to what the word THOT means.

THOT = That Hoe Over There

This word makes me so angry sometimes because people really use this in a full sentence. The abbreviations make sense but when you really think about it, you just tell yourself you sound so stupid. For example, “Hey bruh why are you being such a THOT for?”  Now in proper English,” Hey brother why are you such a “that hoe over there” for?” Instead of just using the word hoe we just use the word thot so it won’t be as harmful? It confuses me. When a word becomes mainstream and shared on social media networks it becomes a “real” word that is recycled repeatedly. I actually did an experiment of calling people thot’s and honestly they didn’t get mad. They just looked at me and started laughing. People really don’t consider it a harmless word at all.

Words shouldn’t really harm you but it’s just the words that our generation is creating, no real thought goes into them. I understand it may have come from a rapper or something but still, we don’t have to repeat words that we hear. The thing with humans is that once we hear a catchy word it is stuck in our heads. It’s literally like a tattoo that we can’t get off. 

The Single/Co-Parent Situation

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I just want to take the time out to s/o those individuals who are parents just because it is not an easy job at all. Your life revolves around your kid(s) and if they are not happy, you’re not happy. I know a lot of great people that are single parents and honestly think they are doing a wonderful job. As I get older I realize that once you have a new responsibility added to your life, you do your best to adjust. Sometimes it isn’t easy and you always hit bumps in the road, but you push yourself through them. Most of the things I write about I have experienced or know people who have experienced them.

My friends know that I attract single moms, I don’t mind it but it’s like why are there so many single parents? Lets face the facts; some people are not ready for new responsibilities. Yes, having a child is a new responsibility that you accepted once you decided to have unprotected sex. Sometimes people make mistakes but having a child is not a mistake. I was having a talk with one of my friends and the other person said the child was a mistake. They did not want to be involved in the child’s life at all. Nothing is ever a mistake, things happen for a reason. Some things in life you aren’t ready for but you try to make the best of it. People think that most single parents are females but no there are guys that are single parents as well. Odd? I know someone who is a great parent. He raises his daughter like a queen, teaches her about life, what to expect from men and encourages her to be great. Overall I let him know that he is a great father and he inspires me to be like him.

The co-parent situation to me is kind of confusing. It’s like both parents are around but one isn’t around as often, just available on the weekends or special occasions. Under certain circumstances I understand that it happens because of many factors but still certain situations I am just like “cut this person off please”. The only reason I say that is because the other person seems like they don’t want that much involvement in the child(s) life at all. For example, say you had a one-night stand with someone, you have a kid and now you’re a parent. You both come to an agreement you will co-parent and be around. The child is mostly with you and the other parent has the child every other week. The other parent starts a family and has a new kid and doesn’t want to be involved as much. Now what? I commend those people who are able to handle situations like this. As long as you are setting a positive example for your child, I don’t see a big deal with it. Things happen in life that we can’t control we just need to push forward and be great.

No matter if you are a single parent, co-parent or parent new responsibilities arise everyday. You have to be willing to grow and change as a person to encounter them. You may not hear this all the time but I think you are doing a great job. Continue being great and encouraging your child to be great.

“Nothing is ever wrong. We learn from every step we take. Whatever you did today was the way it was meant to be. Be proud of you.”