Are You Using Me?

As the title suggests, “Are you using me?” is a question that needs to be asked sometimes.  We should already be analyzing the situation and figuring out if someone is using us. Sometimes we try to see the good in people when realistically not everyone has good intentions.

You can easily pickup on stuff if people are not consistent with you. Consistency (click on the word to be sent to my blog about it) is one of those things that can’t go unnoticed. If someone has a routine that they do for you, you will pick up on it. If they don’t do it one or two times you will think to yourself, “what's going on?” When you do one or two good deeds for someone they always want to keep you around because they know you are dependable. Sometimes it gets to the point where they constantly ask you to do stuff for them just because that’s the type of person you are. Have you have ever just asked someone “are you using me?” If you feel like things are not being reciprocated or in the sense being returned in the same way maybe you should.

We all have that gut feeling where we are treating someone good but the things we are doing for him/her are not appreciated. People sometimes fail to appreciate the good things you do for them and if they continue to use you without appreciating your greatness, maybe they are using you. People can still appreciate you and still use you at the same time but you have to be able to have a cut off point. Ask yourself before you do anything else, “Is this person using me?”

(Poem) The Hopeless Romantic

Stuck in an endless loop of confusion

Wondering why I’m considered a hopeless romantic

They say there is no hope for a romantic like me

Hopelessly wondering if cupid is shooting the wrong arrows

Or maybe he’s just missing his primary target

Being disappointed so many times,

You start to realize that cupid isn’t for you.

Being the hopeless romantic that I am,

I hope he would just leave me alone and let me do me.

Attracted to these mindless puppets,

Who accept the things society throws at them.

Is there a place for a hopeless romantic like me?

A person who invest time in getting to know you

A person who calls you beautiful instead of sexy

A person who does things for you just because.

. . .but really, is there a place for me?

You know what . . .

I’m still stuck in this endless loop of confusion

But I understand why I’m considered a hopeless romantic

It’s cause I appreciate your flaws, which make you different from the crowd

Your personality, which attracts me to your style

Your smile that can take all my cares away

Your strength, that drives me to be a better me

Maybe I am a hopeless romantic,

That believes genuine people still exist

Maybe I am a hopeless romantic,

Just because I appreciate you for being you

And not another one of those mindless puppets

. . .but is there a place for a hopeless romantic like me?

~Kevin Pierre

Genuine

This topic will be referencing a little bit of what I talked about in three of my other topics  (“ Appreciate”, “Friends with no filter” and “Sabotage Part 1”)<--click name to read other topics

We tend to forget the genuine people who really go out of their way for us. Sometimes people complain about individuals who aren’t always straight with them or who don’t treat them right. Instead of opening your eyes and looking at the people closest to you, you shut the right people out. You feel they aren’t good for you because you don’t know what good really feels like.

Sometimes genuine people are thrown into our lives without us even knowing but we tend to think that if we are being treated “good” that it’s a lie. Society has us believing that if you are being treated well that it’s a fairytale and that it’s not real. They sometimes say “genuine people don’t really exist” or that “People don’t really care or do things for you without expecting some form of payment.” Is it possible for anyone to just genuinely want to get to know you and be that good thing in your life?

Genuine people would rather see you smile and make sure you’re okay before checking on themselves. We sometimes give to much value to irrelevant people in our lives without first checking who genuinely cares. People can ask you how life is going but do they genuinely care? If you really know me I’m the type of person that can be so hurt but still look at you and smile. Who will try his hardest to brighten your day, even if I can’t brighten my own. Genuine people are really selfless and before you think everyone is out to swindle you maybe you should evaluate everyone in your life. Think open who is “actually” there and tries there hardest to make sure your okay.

Appreciate

As each day goes by we tend to look past the people who are in our lives. Sometimes we just don’t appreciate how much someone does for us or how little others appreciate us. Do you ever just tell people how much you appreciate them in your life? Think about at least 5 people whom you can honestly say has made a difference in your life and not once have you thanked them for it. Also, think about the people that you go out your way for but they still treat you like you do nothing at all for them.

They say you never truly appreciate something until it’s gone and when its gone, it’s gone for good. We all have those one or two people in our lives that no matter what is going on they will drop what they are doing just to help us. They never expect anything back from it; they just want to make sure everything is okay with you. These genuine people are part of a rare breed that are selfless and just care. 

Sometimes just saying “I appreciate you in my life” goes farther then you know for the people you care about. When someone greatly influences your life (in a positive way) it’s never good to push them away, you should be pushing them closer to you. People tend to regret the individuals they push out of their lives but the only way some people truly appreciate things is when they completely disappear out of their lives.

Appreciate the people who appreciate you and never let something good slip out of reach.

“Make it a habit to tell people thank you. To express your appreciation, sincerely and without the expectation of anything in return. Truly appreciate those around you, and you'll soon find many others around you. Truly appreciate life, and you'll find that you have more of it. “ ~Ralph Marston