Sunday, December 23, 2012

What If. . .(Part 2)

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It has been almost 2 years since my first blog (What If –Click here to read it) and I feel that I have evolved as an individual. I am still Kevin but I have learned so much from life. I don’t think about “what if” situations anymore because I feel those are really negative. It’s all about making “what if” situations a reality instead about wondering hopelessly.  

We can say we don’t like taking a risk but we can’t let our lives be defined by fears and “what if” situations. I feel that I have been the biggest risk taker, just because I like to live life. I take risks no matter the consequence, just to say, “yeah I did it.” The worst that could happen is that you hit a bump in the road and have to take a different route. Sometimes we get stuck in our heads wondering,” what if this doesn’t work out, what if this doesn’t go the way I want it to or what if I say something wrong” instead of just going with the flow and saying/doing what we want. When we start thinking “what if” then things fall apart and you start to question your actions whether good or bad.

Sometimes we look back on things we should have done instead of just moving forward, learning from them and creating a better version of ourselves. If we constantly look back at “what if” we can’t look forward and see “what will be.” Live life, take risks and don’t let “what if” situations define you.

"Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things you didn't do than by the things you did" ~ Mark Twain

Sunday, December 16, 2012

Do You Think About Me? / Reciprocation (Topic Chosen By Munchy)

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I’ve heard this question a lot as of late. To be honest I feel that you would know if someone was thinking about you at all, right? My thing is I only communicate with people who communicate with me or that cross my mind. A couple of my female friends feel that they have to ask the guy in there life, “do you think about me?” If you have to ask that question then there must be a real problem. I feel that actions speak louder then words and if someone thinks about you then most likely they will stay in contact with you or perform actions where you don’t have to ask that question.

If they are your boyfriend/girlfriend I would assume that it is normal to tell them that you think about him/her a lot. If you are just talking/getting to know each other it could be the same deal depending on how far a long you guys are in your relationship. Just know if you are “talking/getting to know” someone that actions will show you if they are really thinking about you.

Think about this though, are actions always reciprocated?

For some of you that don’t know what reciprocation means, it’s defined as a mutual giving and receiving; a mutual exchange; a return in kind or of like value.  Basically are the actions that are performed reciprocated in a manor where you understand what direction the person wants to go with you? Based on communication, consistency and reciprocated things you should be able to figure out if you have to ask yourself this question. Instead of asking someone “do you think about me?” you should be asking yourself “has this person been consistent with me? Have they communicated with me clearly? Are things reciprocated?” 

Then you will be able to answer your own question.


Saturday, November 24, 2012

Too Much Pride (Topic Suggested by Kie)

Pride is one of those things that everyone has no matter what. People take pride in things they do or what they put effort into, but sometimes pride can be damaging. When I’m referring to pride I’m referring to the pride you have with other individuals.  Too much pride to take the first step or make the necessary moves that you need to, to get something done.

Sometimes we have those situations where we made a mistake and we know we are wrong but don’t want to own up to it. That’s when our pride kicks in. Our pride is just saying to us “I am not the type of person to apologize or admit when I am wrong.” If it’s going to hurt your friendship/relationship with someone wouldn’t you put your pride to the side for a moment? Having too much pride is just like saying “Oh I will wait for them to hit me up first because I don’t contact people first.” This usually results in both parties not hitting each other up and everyone getting mad because they have too much pride. When you are dealing with two people with too much pride, things don’t get resolved unless one person just puts it to the side and fixes it.

Pride is a good and bad thing but we have to know when it’s okay to be prideful and when it’s not okay. If it comes to the point of losing someone great in your life don’t do it. Just take the L and resolve the issue. Wake up and don’t let having too much pride bring you down. You are not always right, things can’t always go your way and your opinions are not law. People have feelings and should be heard. Too much pride will cause you to lose a lot of great people in your life and will inevitably make you the worse person to be around. Think before you act, and never let too much pride hold you back from seeing greatness enter your life.

Monday, November 19, 2012

Seasonal Friends

You ever meet those people that just want to be in your life “sometimes” or just temporarily want you around? Lets just call these people “Seasonal Friends.” Just like the seasons they don’t stay very long. In the beginning everything is great but eventually you guys just drift apart. Sometimes it may be a lack of communication or just people moving on and didn’t want to take you with them (vice versa).
We all get that random call\text from someone we haven’t spoken to in a minute that’s like, “we use to chill\talk all the time, what happened?” Sometimes life happens and there was nothing to keep us together. Sometimes though it comes down to the effort people want to put into the friendships. It always comes back to investing time in something for it to grow and it has to be done by both parties never just one. If you want a temporary person in your life then go for it but I feel that it’s a waste of time to have a “seasonal” person in your life. We all deal with seasonal people in our lives till we actually find the people who are there to stay. We tend to forget people always judge us on the people we surround ourselves with.
            If you feel that someone just wants to be around for a season it’s always good to let them go now instead of later.  We are quick to call people we have a good time with “friends” but do they really deserve that title?

Saturday, November 10, 2012

Communication

So as you may have already noticed a lot of my blogs go with each other in a sense. A lot of them usually just reference one part of a larger topic. This topic will be referencing a topic I talked about awhile. (“Communication Goes 2 Ways” <-->Click to read this blog)

Communication is one of those things that a lot of people lack and fail to realize how important it is in everyday life. Things may go wrong if the right things aren’t communicated or made clear. I know I am not the only one that get the text messages or phone calls of people just saying “Hey why we don’t talk any more?” Why are you asking me this? I feel like if I am going to put effort into communicating with you, you should do the same.  

The reason I think we stop communicating with people is because we hate putting all the effort into something that should be shared 50/50. Communication goes 2 ways and should be treated as such. You communicate with whom you want to communicate with but next time you try to put a value on someone, check how much they communicate with you. Someone’s value greatly increases in my opinion when you factor in there communication ability.