Is It Real Love?

When we think about love we think about many different things like the love you have for your parents, family, friends, food, shirt, sneakers, phone etc. The love I will be talking about is the love that people say they have for each other such as the love of a friend, the love for a significant other, etc. We, as humans, tend to throw the word love around sometimes not even understanding what it means or “WHY” we have love for each other.

To have love for a friend is to say that you trust them in a sense and you have their back no matter what the situation. To have love for a friend is something that is as deep as calling someone your BEST FRIEND, it’s like they are your extended family and you trust them. I have people that I love as an extended family because I grew up with them and I trust them with a lot of things. These people I feel as though whenever I am going through something they are always there to pick me up no matter what. I won’t hit them up for 2-3 days and they will call me like “You better have a reason for not checking in with me.” You will fight with these people toe to toe and be mad about random issues but at the end of the day you laugh it off and still have love for them.

To have love for a significant other is a very tricky subject because some people throw the world love around when they want to keep someone, make someone feel special or just want to use it because it sounds good. Before having love for a significant other ask yourself these questions,

1. When you’re with them do you feel as if you are on another planet with just them on your mind and in your heart?
2. Does the world seem brighter and more beautiful than usual?
3. Do you wake up and go to sleep feeling completed?
4. When you are away from them for a long period of time do you only think about them?
5. Are you able to ignore the negative/imperfect things about them?
6. Can you be 100 percent yourself with them and feel comfortable?
7. Do they make you feel good about yourself?

For me it is a million more questions, but these are the simple key questions that if they can’t fully be answered then sometimes the word love has no meaning. Love is a feeling that comes from inside of you, you necessarily DON’T have to ask yourself these questions to prove that you are in love with somebody but something has to be fueling why you are in love with someone. You can’t be talking to someone for two weeks and feel that they are getting less interested and drop the L bomb on them like it’s the right thing to do, NO IT IS NOT. The other person usually sits there either thinking 1.Is It Real Love? 2.You can't be serious. or 3.Why? Everything takes time you can't rush love or defining why you love someone. With time comes better opportunity for more doors to open with this person and for you to understand more of why you love them and define to yourself and them that it is REAL LOVE.

Live, Laugh and Love that’s all you can do.