So Much Things To Say

You ever have so much to say but really didn’t know how to say them? (Based the title off of a Lauryn Hill song)You just wish someone would just figure out the thoughts you were thinking and just be like “okay I understand what you’re saying.” People always have regrets of not saying what’s on their minds; instead they let those moments pass them by. Life is filled with mistakes and challenges, we have to be able to just stand firm on our two feet and say what’s on our minds.

People constantly bite there tongue on what they truly want to say to others because they fear the consequences. Why fear the consequences when everything in life is all about taking risks and taking chances? Nothing you do will ever be right, but the wrong decisions could always lead you to making the right ones later. Personally I always use to bite my tongue and never say what was on my mind, which never got me anywhere. Now though, I say how I actually feel. It’s all about saying what you mean and meaning what you say. Once you get something off your chest you feel as though a weight has been lifted off your shoulder. Whether saying something idiotic or speaking your mind, it’s better to get it out then hold it in. You have to experience the random things in life, if you don’t then are you really living? You have so much things to say . . .just say them.

“Half of life is fucking up - the other half is dealing with it.”

B.E.A.U.T.I.F.U.L.

Lately I’ve been confused on what is considered beautiful to a lot of people and why do people kill themselves to look better to impress others.

According to dictionary.com, beautiful is defined “having beauty; having qualities that give great pleasure or satisfaction to see, hear, think about, etc; delighting the sense or mind.”

If “having qualities that give great pleasure or satisfaction to see, hear, think about, etc” isn’t a straight forward answer I don’t know what is. To me this means you have to consider many factors instead of just one. They say beauty is in the eye of beholder but is it really? You can only look at something for so long before it is no longer beautiful and if you are basing beauty off of looks then there are a million things wrong with that. It may be 1 factor but should not be the only factor you consider. What brings out a person’s true beauty is really what’s in thier heart and how they come off. Like Kanye West said “The prettiest people do the ugliest things.”

When you start to let others determine if YOU ARE beautiful then that’s a big problem. One example of this is when one person says something about someone else. A lot of people are becoming more self-concise of their appearance and looking for people’s approval. The only approval you need is from yourself to know that you are a very beautiful person. Love yourself; stop caring what others think about you.

Beauty is how you feel inside and it reflects in your eyes. It is not something physical. ~ Sophia Loren

The Option (Part 2)

The 2nd part of this blog is basically going to touch on being the option to somebody.


Sometimes we never realize when we are the option to someone until its to late and they have used us up and thrown us to the side. Sometimes we fail to take all the signs into consideration that we are the option to somebody when we have made them our priority. We haven’t learned enough or experienced enough to know the signs when we are being used and being 2nd best to someone else.

What do you do when you find out you’re the option to somebody? You can either 1. Tell them how you feel about it 2. Consider being the option or 3. Fall back from them entirely. If you know your worth then you know that you shouldn’t be someone options, or side piece. If they want to make you their option number 2 maybe its time for you to get up and reevaluate why your still around them.

"Never make someone your priority when your only there option"

The Option (Part 1)

I know that everyone has experienced of either being an option or having options. This topic will just touch on having options in your life. 

Sometimes when people go through certain things in their lives they always want to have a backup plan. For example, Job number 1 is not providing enough money guess I am gonna go to job number 2 and see if that offers me more. This is called having an option. When it comes to relationships and people in general some people think it’s good to have options, while others hate to be considered an option. This topic basically will touch on having options while part 2 will touch on being an option.

I feel that everyone starts to develop the tendency of having options when something bad happens to them in a relationship or someone used them as an option. Better to be safe than sorry right? Why not have a bunch of options just in case option numbers 1-3 can’t meet up or do what you want them to. At least you got option number 4 right? Some people feel as though having back up plans is great but what happens when options get attached? Or start playing the “Claim Game”? (Refer to Nov 5, 2010 topic if you don’t know what the “Claim Game” is) What is the next step for you?

Most times when options get attached, first step is usually to cut them off especially if you’re not feeling the same way. Saves you from drama and problems, but what if you start getting feelings for an option then what’s the next step? Do you see where it goes and drop your other options? Do you stop playing games and get serious? Only you will know. We actually live in a day an age where people have many options and are not tied down to one person. Everyone is trying to enjoy their lives with as many experiences as possible. Think about it though, if you get attached to an option and they get attached to you, maybe it’s time to give up the games and see what might happen.

Marvins Room Syndrome

So another day another situation . . . you ever get one of those text messages or phone calls from that one person in your past and it just blows your mind? Or have you been one of those people that sent one of those crazy text messages to someone you use to talk too just because? We all have those situations where either we drink too much and just say fuck it and get in contact with them or we just lost in thought and vent. Every time I hear Drakes Marvins Room song I’m just sitting there like “You gotta be bold to do that” but everyone in some point in their life did it and always reflect on how stupid it was of them to do it.

One of those things that if you’re truly in love with someone and it ends up not working out you experienced it . . . if you haven’t you eventually will. An example of this is if you are chilling with some friends on a bus ride to go somewhere. You guys just start drinking on the bus and you put your headphones on and all you hear is just R&B music on every radio station that makes you catch feelings. Chris Brown, Alicia Keys, Avant, Marvin Gaye, Luthor Vandross, Jill Scott. You already feel nice and buzzed. You just get in a state that just like, “I miss him/her.” Then you text them “I miss you, I want to be with you right now” and this is when you have experienced that “Marvins Room Syndrome.”

Falling into the “Marvins Room Syndrome” is like walking back into your past and trying to fix whatever went wrong. 9.9 times out of 10 YOU know it won’t go back to the way it was before especially if they already moved on. It’s better to just move on and live life, then dwell in the past and try to fix a broken mirror because it will never be the same.


“ . . . let go when you’re hurting too much, give up when love isn’t enough, and move on when things aren’t like before. “