Can I Get a Text Back?

Talking to my friend about dating in your 20s and realizing that it’s so miserable is extremely funny. Your early 20s you don’t really care, your mid 20s you think you still have time and then your late 20s you try to rush things without thinking them through. All in all we are just waiting for a simple text back from someone to show us some type of interest. We send that initial message and hope for something back in a timely fashion. Then we see them tweet, post pics on Instagram/facebook and snapchat something corny without them responding back to our text message. 

When dating in your 20s the initial communication thing is something we hope would be consistent and eventually realize it doesn’t remain that way. Sometimes you have to ask someone, “can I get a text back?” Are you really worth a response back though? Yes you might be worth a response back but not at this moment. Yes we are glued to our phones but sometimes we become preoccupied with other things. That’s not an excuse but we are so confused with our 20s that everything is so undefined. Then when you hit your late 20s you are still trying to figure out life but rush things. You feel like you wasted so much time not defining things and then you hit your early 30s and are against the clock. You will never be at a point in your life where everything is defined. Sometimes getting to a better spot is actually responding back to that random text and defining if you even want to text back. If you are like me my response is normally, “ delete my number but follow me on Instagram though.” You can’t entertain every response you get but you should define where you want it to go. Building something with someone takes time but time is always moving. Risks are taken so you can learn what you should accept and what you shouldn’t.

Honestly I am one of those people who receives text messages, look at them and mentally respond. Then I think about it later like ,”why didn’t this person text me back yet” and realize I didn’t respond back. I believe that you shouldn’t hit someone back if they haven’t hit you back. It’s like a back and forth thing but when it just goes in one direction you need to stop yourself and go on about life. Yes pride gets in the way but if you become that person to always initiate the conversation people will always expect that from you. We are a generation that fails at communication but we have to get better at defining what we want with these people in our lives. Time is forever moving forward and it won’t stop for anyone.