PART#2 What is a Good Girl? this part is split in half because of a male and female perspective. Today is the male perspective
Jamel.V.Vanderburg (Male perspective)
As I'm writing this article, there are many thoughts that are going through my mind. I'm also stuck to watching "He's Just Not That Into You", a movie that breaks down the psychological aspects of the opposite sex and the relationship pieces that make or break unions. I mention this because despite the many relationships analyzed in this movie, there is no true clarity of good vs. Bad other than a few character flaws in each individual.
As I write this, I had something interesting happen to me tonight. While at an event tonight, as I sit down to have a drink with friends, on the other side of me is my ex-girlfriend, staring me straight in the face. I couldn't even describe it as a holy hell moment, but a surreal one. Allow me to give you some back story:
Ms B. is your definition of a hood girl, gangster girl, or bad girl, if you will. Up until we began dating last year, I wasn't too sure bad girls existed other than lying, cheating, manipulative girls who don't know the definition of a good man or how to be a good woman because for the most part, they're bipolar, emotionally scarred beings....that's another story for another time.
Back to the story....I made a vow years ago that I would never date anybody:
A. That didn't have a college degree
B. That I couldn't bring home to my parents
C. That smoked, drank, and seemed unstable
Needless to say, I broke this rule. Ironically, Ms. B was the opposite of EVERY girl I had ever been interested in. She was my complete opposite and that led to increased attraction between us. Since we'd known each other since hs and I'd always had this fantasy of making out hard with her, I achieved a lifelong goal on my bucket list and thought something was happening for the good.
However, our strong attraction for each other could not overpower the differences we had in family life, morals, schooling, recreational activities, and just life in general. Even though she wasn't a bad person, her "bad" vibe wasn't compatible for my political business lifestyle. Our swags went in two other directions.
I say all of this to say that we often tolerate influence by friends, the media and other factors about what defines a good girl. Girls with great asses, a nice rack, and has lips juicy enough to suck the skin off a penis could be considered traits of a good girl by some. We depend on physical characteristics rather than the emotional piece that is more important than any physical part can tell.
For me, a good girl has to be intelligent. There will be no dummies on my arm at any time. They have to be able to hold a conversation in just about anything. They must carry themselves in a proper manner. They can drink, but not be excessive. I also don't tolerate smoking EVER. Did it once before and never again will that happen. They have to be able to support me, nurture me, rub my ego every once in a while, but most important, our souls must mesh. This is why I must marry an AKA and nothing else.
I say all of this to say there is no true definition of a good girl except for the definition we give it. This is my personal feeling. I will not and never will give it standing similar to the bible, but I would say it's pretty accurate.
Right now there are 2 "good girls" I could honestly consider marrying at the drop of a dime. I just wonder what their definition of a good guy is and if I fit the mold.
Got a feeling there will be a pt 2....
What is a good girl????????? to be honest you have to make your own decision on what a good girl is but she is definitely somebody you never want to let go
Tomorrow's Topic "WHAT IS A BAD GUY?"
WOW u went IN!! lol
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