Good Guy Vs Bad Guy Vs Good Girl Vs Bad Girl Part#3

Part #3 of our topic is "What is a BAD GUY?" as we compare all of these remember these are only peoples opinions do not get offended or feel any type of way if somebody is describing you.


Kevin Pierre
A bad guy is many things

Usually a person who doesn't cherish the great people he has around him. That person who isn't there when you need him to be for support. Bad Guy is the type to be in a relationship and always playing games like he isn't in a relationship. He always wants someone else when possibly he has the best person that god could offer him. Sometimes Bad Guys are Good Guys in disguise and they say there good when your getting to know them but there WHOLE mentality changes once they know they got you hooked to them so they abuse your kindness for weakness. Most times females can't get away from the Bad Guy cause there so attracted to them just because they have that "I don't give a fuck persona" about them and some females are attracted to that no matter the consequence. I have seen it enough where Good Girls get fucked over by BAD guys and the chick still wants to be there through the pain and everything cause they like the person. Bad Guys usually cause pain and don't care bout your feelings at all, there just doing them.

Marie Hinds
Many things make up a bad guy, but a bad guy exhibits three main
qualities that make him a “bad” guy.

First: Over confidence
Confidence is like a magnet that attracts people. Yes
confidence is amazing but when you cannot see your own flaws it become
an issue. When you cannot see your own flaws, you do not work on them,
nor do you attempt to improve on them.

Second: Selfishness
A selfish guy never appreciates the things done for him.
He is selfish in love, making love and giving. He always takes from
those who are willing to give to him and sees nothing wrong of that.
All about him, all the time because well he is first and foremost a
gift [back to the over confidence], and doesn’t see why he shouldn’t
be catered to.

Third: Unapologetic
A bad guy does not apologize for the things he has done
wrong. And that is just trouble

I honestly can only think of guys who have been bad in the past and
what actions have caused me t say they are “bad.” Hope this makes sense

Lena
One attribute of "the bad guy" is that he purposely does the wrong thing- he just does not care about anyone but himself. He also boasts of his "bad ass" ways to anyone who will listen.


FINAL topic of this serious is "WHAT IS A BAD GIRL?" if you want to input on what this is email me Kevin_Pierre@hotmail.com


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Good Guy Vs Bad Guy Vs Good Girl Vs Bad Girl Part#2

PART#2 What is a Good Girl? this part is split in half because of a male and female perspective. Today is the male perspective

Jamel.V.Vanderburg (Male perspective)
As I'm writing this article, there are many thoughts that are going through my mind. I'm also stuck to watching "He's Just Not That Into You", a movie that breaks down the psychological aspects of the opposite sex and the relationship pieces that make or break unions. I mention this because despite the many relationships analyzed in this movie, there is no true clarity of good vs. Bad other than a few character flaws in each individual.

As I write this, I had something interesting happen to me tonight. While at an event tonight, as I sit down to have a drink with friends, on the other side of me is my ex-girlfriend, staring me straight in the face. I couldn't even describe it as a holy hell moment, but a surreal one. Allow me to give you some back story:
Ms B. is your definition of a hood girl, gangster girl, or bad girl, if you will. Up until we began dating last year, I wasn't too sure bad girls existed other than lying, cheating, manipulative girls who don't know the definition of a good man or how to be a good woman because for the most part, they're bipolar, emotionally scarred beings....that's another story for another time.
Back to the story....I made a vow years ago that I would never date anybody:
A. That didn't have a college degree
B. That I couldn't bring home to my parents
C. That smoked, drank, and seemed unstable

Needless to say, I broke this rule. Ironically, Ms. B was the opposite of EVERY girl I had ever been interested in. She was my complete opposite and that led to increased attraction between us. Since we'd known each other since hs and I'd always had this fantasy of making out hard with her, I achieved a lifelong goal on my bucket list and thought something was happening for the good.

However, our strong attraction for each other could not overpower the differences we had in family life, morals, schooling, recreational activities, and just life in general. Even though she wasn't a bad person, her "bad" vibe wasn't compatible for my political business lifestyle. Our swags went in two other directions.

I say all of this to say that we often tolerate influence by friends, the media and other factors about what defines a good girl. Girls with great asses, a nice rack, and has lips juicy enough to suck the skin off a penis could be considered traits of a good girl by some. We depend on physical characteristics rather than the emotional piece that is more important than any physical part can tell.

For me, a good girl has to be intelligent. There will be no dummies on my arm at any time. They have to be able to hold a conversation in just about anything. They must carry themselves in a proper manner. They can drink, but not be excessive. I also don't tolerate smoking EVER. Did it once before and never again will that happen. They have to be able to support me, nurture me, rub my ego every once in a while, but most important, our souls must mesh. This is why I must marry an AKA and nothing else.

I say all of this to say there is no true definition of a good girl except for the definition we give it. This is my personal feeling. I will not and never will give it standing similar to the bible, but I would say it's pretty accurate.

Right now there are 2 "good girls" I could honestly consider marrying at the drop of a dime. I just wonder what their definition of a good guy is and if I fit the mold.

Got a feeling there will be a pt 2....


What is a good girl????????? to be honest you have to make your own decision on what a good girl is but she is definitely somebody you never want to let go



Tomorrow's Topic "WHAT IS A BAD GUY?"

Good Guy Vs Bad Guy Vs Good Girl Vs Bad Girl Part#2

PART#2 What is a Good Girl? this part is split in half because of a male and female perspective. Tomorrow will be the male perspective


MUNCHY (Female perspective)
First and for most, a good girl should never ask a man for anything. She should always hold herself down even through the toughest day's she must keep her head up and say "yeah, I got it". Yes, I am talking about a "Ms. Independent". Some men, may be intimidated by one, but if he is, obviously, he cannot handle her.

Secondly, A good girl is a "giver" not a taker; meaning she provides for those she loves and always willing to give a helping hand to those who needs it. She has a warm heart and puts other people's needs before hers. She knows how to have fun, and make you smile.

Thirdly, a good girl is not a housewife, but must know how to cook and clean. PERIOD! (No further detail)

My next point (I think I speak for all the fellas when I say this), but a good girl is a "lil freak". Lady in the streets & a freak in the sheets. Who ALWAYS keeps her man on his toes even when she's away from home. The type to send subliminal text messages to her man every now and then. The girl who doesn't mind wining and dining her man every now and then. She gotta keep her man right?

Last and final point: A good girl is faithful, trustworthy, forgiving and REAL. Says what's on her mind and doesn't bite her tongue. Let's her man know's when she's unhappy, so he doesn't have to wonder what's wrong. (Sounds familiar ladies?) Then you wonder why he's sleeping with someone else--- Because he can't make YOU happy.

Overall, A good girl is someone you want to spend the rest of your life with. Someone who know's you like the back of her hand. The one that will be by your side through thick and thin... Your Brown Sugar ;)

Good Guy Vs Bad Guy Vs Good Girl Vs Bad Girl Part#1

What is a Good Guy?
Everyone always sits around wondering why there never able to find that right person for them. When there with a Good Guy or Good Girl they always want somebody a little bit more "bad ass" so to speak. When there with a Bad Guy or Bad Girl they always want somebody a little nicer that cares more about them. "Oh man why can't I ever get a good guy?" or " Why can't I ever find that good girl?" In these next couple post I will invite some of my friends to give me some of there thoughts on what they think each one of these are.

Kevin Pierre
A good guy I believe is a respectable person who respects women in all aspects of life. If a women is being respectful to you and being upfront with you as a gentlemen you should do the same and not treat her like she is a toy to be played with. A good guy never degrades a female and makes her feel like she is worth a billion dollars. He always makes her feel like she is the queen of the ball no matter what situation. A good guy is a person you can tell all your secrets to and he won't judge you no matter what. A good guy has standards and will never just settle for any type of chick. Good guy always carries himself well and lives up to the morals that he was taught by his parents. Good guy always goes there extra mile to impress you and always wants to see a smile on your face.

MsHumphreyI think as we grow up, our definition of a good guy changes. As the years go by we go through the shoulda, coulda, wouldas, the heartbreaks, and what we thought we wanted. I've reached a point of what I need and what I deserve. So when I think of a good guy, I think, of a man that is spiritual, not religious; there's a difference. I want a guy who Is financially stable and responsible. Knows how to have a good time that doesn't always involve, cursing, drinking and definitely not smoking. I want a man who isn't a mama's boy, but respects his mother as he would want any man to respect me. And last, but not least, someone who knows how to hold their own and be a man whether it be in public at a dinner with clients, more intimate house party with my friends, or just one on one with me. Know something, talk about something, and don't just fade to black.

MrSmoovA good guy is a gentlemen that respects women for who they are and what they are destine to become. Being a good guys is developed by learning what it takes to become a man that set forth goals and acts on his beliefs. A good guy will treat all women nothing less than him self, learn to accept that person as they are, keep his pride and provide pride and motivation to any female, and also be the man he was brought up to be.

MsHernandez
A good guy in my opinion is a genuine man. A guy who tips extra at restaurants just because. Someone who you can bring home and puts a smile on your moms face. A good guy is honest about who he is and stands by his word.

Everyone defines a good guy as something different, but when your looking for something maybe you should stop talking bout it and actually go for it . . .




Tomorrows Topic: Good Guy Vs Bad Guy Vs Good Girl Vs Bad Girl Part#2: What is a Good Girl?


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Ugly _ "in between" _Attractive Part#2

How do we define a Ugly person from an "in-between" person and an Attractive person? Part#2 Looks

This will really be a rough topic especially when we talking about peoples looks. This may be a sensitive issue but I will be 100 percent with you.
A UGLY person in "my opinion" would be a person who is physically unattractive. You would be walking with your boys and there just like " Yo go put your dog back on a leash" ugly. The group of pretty, gorgeous, delicious looking girls and that ONE ugly looking troll that they walk around with to make themselves stand out more. I'm not going to front I literally ask the chicks "Why are you with her?" and there just like "Oh that's our friend" BULLLLSHIT and you guys let her come out the house looking like that? ONE she forgot to shave that mustache of hers TWO she forgot lotion for them ashy ass knees of hers and THREE that dress don't even look cute on her. In the words of Ed Lover "C'MON SON!" Then we have the UGLY chick who thinks she is SOOOOO fly just because she is hanging out with hot chicks. OH NO you better PUMP them breaks, reverse your car back into the garage and get that FULL SERVICE FACE LIFT from AAMCO or MIDAS. (REMEMBER THIS GOES FOR EITHER GUYS OR GIRLS) Then the UGLY person who rejects someone just because they feel that they are to cute for them. Really? Your going to just sit there and let that person reject you? HELL TO THE NO, this might be mean but you gotta keep it real here and tell them straight up "Excuse me? Seriously I only asked you cause I felt sorry for you but you ain't cute at all boo boo so Ima need you to turn your face the other way from now on when speaking to me and that face of yours, please keep it in your purse when you come out the house. Thank You" Do this with a smile =) makes them feel OH so important.

My definition of an attractive person is a person with a nice smile, beautiful eyes, I don't care bout there size because beauty definitely comes in any shape and size. Being independent and able to hold your own. A person who is well kept(meaning they brushed there teeth, there cloths are iron and fit them, they don't smell like rotten garbage) very attractive person but if your hands are rough as shit like you don't put lotion on your hands or never heard of COCO butter don't hold my hand. If you can hold someones hand knowing that you used some Johnson and Johnson this morning on your hands then that is attractive. I female that doesn't have to put make up on, who wears sweats and a t-shirt on and still looks like a million dollars is attractive. An attractive person is a person who catches you with there eyes and MAKE SURE that both yours eyes never disconnect from each other.


FINALLY the "in-between" person, I feel as if a lot of people are this because there neither ugly or attractive but they could be either ugly or attractive by the things they do. These people usually don't care what people say and work on there look however they see fit. One day they may be the most flyest person walking down the street with they little swag walk, then next day there looking like beetlejuice thinking that its halloween in July. The look of this type of person tends to fluctuate because there on there own thing and dress based on there mood. When there feeling fresh they put on fresh stuff or things that make them look fly that boosts there appearance. Walk out the house with the theme song "Everyday I'm Hustlin", trying to walk all slow so EVERYONE sees them. Then there is the "I don't give a f*ck" mood, females will wrap there hair, put some sweats on, a t-shirt, chinese slippers and there "i don't give a f*ck" face on,do there daily business and DARE someone to say something reckless. Guys will put on a tee, some basketball shorts or sweats, some flop flops and keep it moving.

How do we define a Ugly person from an "in-between" person and an Attractive person? You define these people however YOU see fit either by looks or personality. Remember it is your decision and whatever you decide just know that somebody is making the same decision about you.


(Next Blog: Good Guy Vs Bad Guy Vs Good Girl Vs Bad Girl)

Ugly _ "in between" _Attractive Part#1

How do we define a Ugly person from an "in-between" person and an Attractive person? Part#1 Personality

Every one's viewpoint is different but these are my thoughts, so my first viewpoint would be personality wise to describe all of these different people. We will look at appearance tomorrow but looks can only get you so far, and those people with the greatest looks usually never have the greatest personalities and aren't that great to talk to.

As in my previous post an Ugly person has been defined as a person who cares only bout themselves and no one else. They are quick to turn on you and watch you fall when they should be helping you rise to your full potential. They are not a real person with you and tend to lie a lot. This person just brings you down and acts like they are to good to communicate with you. Most of the time the people that fall into this category are the SUPER conceited people who think they look way to good for anyone "normal." These are the people who have had there seats raised up in to the clouds,by whom? I have no idea, so now they think they are perfect and are better then everyone so now they think they can look down on everyone else. Just think back to that one person who thought they could just get anybody or do anything they want without consequence. Then analyze there tendencies and you will realize how ugly they are.

An attractive person is a low key type of person and also one of those people you have to define on your own because that attractive person could have 1 or 2 tendencies of an ugly person but still be so attractive. An attractive person in my opinion is one of those people who has a welcoming atmosphere about them, there always willing to help you. There easy and comfortable to talk to, and are just honest and real about a lot of things. Instead of trying to bring you down they try and build up on what you already have to lift you up. They are very supportive and rarely get acknowledged because the joy of helping there friends or people around them is a better reward. This person is usually low key and consider themselves a "weirdo" "abnormal" "strange" or "different" because they do stuff that is not normal of there gender

"In-between" you can say are those people that are stuck in the stage where they are a little bit of both 50% ugly and 50% attractive. This person at times shows tendencies of an ugly person by thinking there better then someone or stabbing someone in the back, but other times they might be that person who communicates with you all the time or who doesn't try to manipulate the group into doing something they don't want to do. Think back to the person who is sometimes a complete jerk all time, but is still there to support you no matter what your going through then you will figure out who that "in-between" person is.

Personality should really outweigh the look of the person but as human beings we have to weigh in both factors,but remember the best and most attractive person could be the person standing right next to you who has been there through thick and thin to support you through the heartache and the pain. Don't be afraid to embrace the RIGHT person.


Next Blog: Ugly _ "in between" _Attractive Part#2
How do we define a Ugly person from an "in-between" person and an Attractive person? Part#2 Looks

The Ugly Friend (Topic Chosen by Munchy)

Why do girls have the ONE ugly friend?

Not ugly in the sense of beauty just ugly in the sense of there personality,how they come off , there attitude towards things.

The ONE ugly friend who stabs you in the back and acts like you guys are suppose to stay friends no matter what
The ONE ugly friend who tells you something isn't cute on you and then turns around and buys it for themselves
The ONE ugly friend who deceive and lie to you right in front of your face and still want you to be there friends no matter what they say
The ONE ugly friend who manipulates the whole group so she can get her way
The ONE ugly friend who never wants to see anybody happy unless she is happy
The ONE ugly friend who thinks about herself and ONLY herself when it comes to any type of situation
The ONE ugly friend who see's that your trying to get with a dude that she likes and she will make sure that it never happens.

So Why do you have that ONE ugly friend?

Is it cause she has always been there for you? Bullshit
Is it cause she helps you with different situations? Bullshit
Is it cause she gives you honest opinions about things? Bullshit
Is it cause she tells you the truth about EVERYTHING cause your homegirls? Bullshit
Is it cause she makes you feel better about who you are as a person? BULLLLSHIIITT!

There is no clear cut answer to why females have that ONE ugly friend maybe its because they feel insecure bout something or they just like having that one deceitful person close to them. Just one solution is that they need to get rid of them immediately or it could drastically hurt them in the long run.

Side Effects of Keeping that ONE ugly friend:
Guys approach you less often, Back pains, Constant Headaches, Irregular bleeding from your back, Avoidance by the General Public , Picking up the same Bad Habits and maybe in some cases loss of life


Remember these are just my thoughts on different topics but please ladies lose the Ugly friend ASAP



(Next Blog: Ugly _ "in between" _Attractive)

Why Can't We Just Be Friends?

Networking,

We all do it, its all part of life and how we meet new people.
But, why do people think just because we are talking to them and trying to get there information we are trying to "GET WITH THEM?" Why can't we just get your information just because we find you intriguing and a good person to talk to.

We don't necessarily have to be trying to get with you when we ask for your phone number, we are just trying to connect with people who have a similar thought process as us or people who peak our interest.

Guys Point of View: (My Opinion)
Okay as a guy sometimes we do just try and get your numbers to see if we can get your numbers and see what comes out of it but other times we just like having a female friend to just talk to about random things and/or for advice so why can't we just be friends? Sometimes females already assume just because we are guys we can't be looking for female friends and thats clearly wrong.

Girl Point of View: (My Opinion)
Straight to the point females think all guys think a like and only want one thing from them no matter how they come off. If a dude walks up to a chick on some friendship type stuff females will look at you like "are you gay?" or "I'm not looking for another male friend." Females are on there toes for anyway a dude tries to get at them because they don't want to get played, be somebodies side chick or just dont want to be taken on a ride and left out on the side.

Why can't I just walk up to you, introduce myself, get your information and just be friends? Why does it have to be more then that everytime I approach you? As I sit here and look at my friends I realize I lost a couple decent ones just because they "assumed" I was trying to get with them but they need to ask themselves "Why Can't We Just Be Friends?"



(Next Blog: The Ugly Friend)

What If. . . .

As we grow and go through life we always have those "What If" situations and then we wonder to ourselves "What if" i would have made this decision or "What if" i would have done this differently . . .this is just my thoughts on my "What If" situation . . .

I wake up everyday thinking "Wow this is going to be a beautiful day"
I go through my daily motions and always come across a crush or female friend and just stand there in a daze of lost thoughts . . . .

"What if i would have told you what was on my mind?"
"What if i told you that you where a great person to talk to?"
"What if i could have just stopped you and just taken you away from all your problems"
"What if i would have told you that you meant the world to me?"
"What if i told you your smile stops me dead in my tracks?"
"What if i would have hugged you tighter then I usually did?"
"What if i told you how much I liked being around you and how much you made me smile?"
"What if i told you I daydream about you all the time?"
"What if i told you that my feelings for you are out of this world?"
"What if i would have just spoken up and just said what i was thinking? Would that have made a difference at all?"

I then continue my daily routine as usual just keeping that "What If" statement in the back of my mind hoping that one day, maybe, i have the strength to tell you with out anything holding me back how i feel about you.



(Next Blog: Why Can't We Just Be Friends?)