The Selfish Thought . . .

DISCLAIMER: My random thoughts are not about anyone so please don’t come at me asking if this is about you. If you have a guilty concise maybe you should go do something about it :) that is all.


So occasionally I text a couple of my friends early morning and ask them random questions. One question that was brought up is “Are women more selfish then men when it comes to keeping people in their lives after something has changed in their relationship?” Out of the 10 people I have asked, they said that they feel that women are. Let me tell you the facts before you feel some type of way. 

Say you are chilling with one of your friends, you guys have been cool forever and then out of nowhere they do something or say something that hurts/disturbs your friendship with them. Some people immediately cut you off just because they feel as though they can’t value you as a friend anymore. Its certain things that you do to people that will piss them off and they will just entirely fallback from you. Guys are more likely to literally cut you off and won’t think twice about it. Girls on the other hand will still want you around because they feel as though nothing has changed but they are 100% wrong. It’s just like leading someone on to the point of no return and then just abruptly saying,” We can’t do this anymore, let’s just be friends.”

After 6+ months of putting work in for something and hearing that (let’s just be friends), guys really will THINK “WTF?! REALLY THOUGH?!” but say “okay I understand.” We immediately back off and keep it moving, we do get hurt and the only way to get over it is to get away from you. Sometimes though, girls move in closer thinking that things will stay the same and we can still do all the things we did before. NOOO. Once you put us on the sidelines best believe all the things we did to try and impress you will stop and we will treat you like any regular person. You have to understand we hate feeling like you just want us there to make you happy because we actually aren’t now that things are different.

“You never know how great something is until it isn’t around anymore, don’t take anything for granted”

Women Are Not To Be Compared

One of the worst things a guy can do is compare a woman to another. No matter if it is his friend, sister, mom, girlfriend or wife. This is like an automatic death sentence for guys but we still do it anyway, even though we know the repercussions. 

I promise you women remember EVERYTHING you say, so don’t be quick to blurt out something without thinking about it. For example, “Dam baby, your macaroni & cheese is slamming but it’s not as good as my ex-girlfriends but you up there though.” This just means you want your spine ripped out and the rest of your body buried in the backyard somewhere. Women HATE when you compare them to another girl especially an ex that they don’t EVER EVER want to hear about. Ninety-Seven percent of them will keep their composure and tell you what it is, in a nice way, but that other three percent you better hope there not a Caribbean/African female because you will not hear the end of it till your either 1. Broken up or 2. Dead. Women are very vengeful even though they act like they are not; they are VERY vengeful and will make you pay.

A lot of the conversations usually pan out the same way

Guy: You remind me of Sarodj Bertin, very beautiful and elegant

Girl: Don’t compare me to that (bitch, whore, skank, slut, tramp, etc.) you choose the word that best fits in there. Even if she don't really know the chick, it will be ON and POPPIN

9 times out of 10 a lot of females don’t care who you’re comparing them to, they rather NOT be compared no matter how beautiful the person is.

The “Chameleon” (Topic Suggested By Teresa)

In regards to this topic let me explain my definition of the “chameleon.” When I am talking about a chameleon I am not talking about the lizard I am talking about, “a changeable, fickle, or inconstant person.”(Webster’s Dictionary) We all know those types of people in our lives where they wear a mask and let something else define them besides being a first rate version of themselves. You know those people who join a group or get a title and let that specific thing DEFINE who they are. So they change who they once were to be part of this group and obtain this title but not sticking to their beliefs that they once had in the beginning. It is like saying,” Hi I am Susan, the regular citizen that believes that everyone should be treated equally no matter if there male or female.” Then you wanting to join group XYZ that can elevate your level in society and open a whole network of possibilities but they only believe women not men should be running the world. Then you say “Hi I am Susan, part of group XYZ and I think women should be treated differently just because we bare children.” Just because you join a group you shouldn’t allow their views to change who you are.

One of those many great examples I got from one of my readers was that people who think that a group can up their status in society and make them a completely new person. Say John wanted to join this prominent group of business men, who make money, get the girls and are always in the limelight. Although John is not a ladies’ man, he doesn’t make a lot of money and is usually a loner, he thinks that being in this group he will change from John the Loner Loser into John the Business Man. NO John you will stay the same but will be known as John the Loner Loser Business Man.


“It is not worth an intelligent man’s time to be in the majority. By definition, there are already enough people to do that.”