Waiting is something we commonly do for things that we want
but is all waiting good? It depends on how you view it and what situations
present themselves. Why are you waiting? Do you really have to wait? Will it
benefit you if you wait? Apply this thought process to when you are dating
someone. We all have waited for something to happen or waited for someone. You
just have to remind yourself, “Is this person worth waiting for” or “Is my time
being wasted.”
I always find myself in weird situations or I know of
someone in an odd situation. I have waited for people in relationships to get
better, change their habits or for them to be ready to actually date me. All in
all people say waiting for any of these situations is just stupid. I personally
think you learn more about what type of person you are by waiting. Waiting for
someone to be ready to date you, even though they have all the BS in the world
going on and you wait. You wait for them to put you on the roster and show them
what they are missing. Yes you could have dated someone else but something
about this person keeps you interested and intrigued. So you continue to wait. The
moment you are in a relationship and notice that someone has a really bad habit
you don’t like but you say, “oh they will grow out of it” and they don’t. So
now you are stuck. The habit doesn’t bother you as much but it’s either an
extremely annoying or bad habit. The one girl I dated smoked weed like every
day but didn’t have money for anything else. Spent all of her money on weed.
Initially when we started talking she didn’t smoke that much but once she got
comfortable it turned into an everyday type of thing. I waited for her to
change her habit but of course that didn’t do anything. Another person I dated
was literally the parent to her parents which was very saddening (both parents
had some type of cancer). I didn’t date her for that long because she didn’t want
me to wait for her to get her situation together. She stopped me before I could
fully invest in us growing together and I appreciated that.
People say waiting for someone is one of the joys of life.
Sometimes people may be at their lowest or have a plan in the works that you
know nothing about. Is all waiting good though? I have a couple of friends who
are in relationships and they’ve been in them for at least 6+ years. Some
people are saying they should have been married already. What’s the rush? The
best things come to those who wait. Yes they’ve established the conversations
about marriage but the moment you rush somebody into something is the moment
they take a step back. Feeling forced to do something is something you never
want.
Certain situations in life put you in a bad place and you
don’t intentionally try to make people wait but it happens. I think the worst
thing I’ve heard was, “I can’t wait for you to get better.” That is someone who
has reached the limit and just wants to move on with life without you. It doesn’t
matter the situation but for someone to say, “I can’t wait” and you try to
understand why, it’s already too late. Things won’t be the same and it’s time
to let go. All in all waiting is what you make it. Is the person worth the
wait? Is the person just wasting your time? You are the only one that can
answer this question.
