Marvins Room Syndrome

So another day another situation . . . you ever get one of those text messages or phone calls from that one person in your past and it just blows your mind? Or have you been one of those people that sent one of those crazy text messages to someone you use to talk too just because? We all have those situations where either we drink too much and just say fuck it and get in contact with them or we just lost in thought and vent. Every time I hear Drakes Marvins Room song I’m just sitting there like “You gotta be bold to do that” but everyone in some point in their life did it and always reflect on how stupid it was of them to do it.

One of those things that if you’re truly in love with someone and it ends up not working out you experienced it . . . if you haven’t you eventually will. An example of this is if you are chilling with some friends on a bus ride to go somewhere. You guys just start drinking on the bus and you put your headphones on and all you hear is just R&B music on every radio station that makes you catch feelings. Chris Brown, Alicia Keys, Avant, Marvin Gaye, Luthor Vandross, Jill Scott. You already feel nice and buzzed. You just get in a state that just like, “I miss him/her.” Then you text them “I miss you, I want to be with you right now” and this is when you have experienced that “Marvins Room Syndrome.”

Falling into the “Marvins Room Syndrome” is like walking back into your past and trying to fix whatever went wrong. 9.9 times out of 10 YOU know it won’t go back to the way it was before especially if they already moved on. It’s better to just move on and live life, then dwell in the past and try to fix a broken mirror because it will never be the same.


“ . . . let go when you’re hurting too much, give up when love isn’t enough, and move on when things aren’t like before. “

Are You Happy?

Sometimes we find ourselves at particular crossroads in our lives where we feel as though nothing is going right. Sometimes we converse with friends or family members to help us through these situations. Sometimes we allow others to break us down so we are never happy again, when we are suppose to define our own happiness. Is it human nature to allow others to break us or make us feel discouraged? Do we allow ourselves to be unhappy and take it out on the people around us?

I know a couple people that have let other people define their happiness. Like if they aren’t talking to someone, have a boyfriend/girlfriend or have someone that is always around to support them they feel as though there not happy at all. It’s like they need that cushion there just to know “Hey I will be alright, I have John here for me.” When in reality, you shouldn’t be allowing people to control how happy you are or happy you should be. I understand we do get happier when we have some people around but this shouldn’t have a general affect on how you feel and what you do in life. In most cases people who realize that they are letting others define their own happiness will push the people who care for them the most away. They push them away so they can work on being happy by themselves, but is that a good thing? People who constantly make time for you, that make you happy and are constantly there for you shouldn’t really be pushed away but in most cases they are. Sometimes they get the message and literally just fall all the way back from you never returning, and things never being the same again.

Point of the story is you define your own happiness, waiting for people to make you happy or rule how you feel shouldn’t be allowed.


“No one is in control of your happiness but you; therefore, you have the power to change anything about yourself or your life that you want to change.“ - Barbara de Angeli