So as I talk to a lot of my friends lately I like to just txt, bbm or call people and see how everything is going just to catch up. Sometimes you have to make that push to actually see how people are doing. There are times when you are just sitting there and just think to yourself “I wonder how Allyson is doing?” So you pick up your phone and just hit that person up to find out “WHATSUP!?” Sometimes you have to take the initiative to show people “hey I care, I am here if you need me,” but sometimes there is those people who know you care a whole lot and just try to push you away. No matter what situation you are going through, they will sit there and talk to you about it, and then try to push you away. This is when you just stop, think about this and say to yourself “they don’t need my help with this” and keep doing you. Eventually they will realize you have reached your limit and don’t care anymore about what they are going through.
To notice when someone has reached their limit about caring what’s going on in your life, is all in their actions. Sometimes you get those over-caring people (I know a couple of these) that no matter HOW HARD you push them away they will continue to be there no matter what. They will call, txt, bbm, fb message you, or show up at your door to make sure everything is going good and that no one is messing with you. Me personally at times if I see one of my friends down and out and tell them straight up ,” who am I gonna have to cut?” just cause sometimes you have to say those things. As long as people know you are there they will never try and push you away.
If it gets to the point though when you give advice after advice after advice to the same person about the same issue and they keep doing the same thing no matter WHAT, then you have reached your limit. You always hear that voice in the back of your head that’s just like “I know you are not going to listen to me so I don’t care anymore.” Life in itself is a million different challenges, you can either face them with help or alone. Just know that people have their limits when it comes to certain things.
Live. Laugh. Love.
Wednesday, October 13, 2010
Thursday, October 7, 2010
Parents,We Gotta Love Them
It’s been a GOOOOOOD minute since I wrote something but I have been preoccupied with school and work, you know how that is. Today’s topic is about “PARENTS” point, blank, period. We gotta love them no matter what problems we are going through they are always there to support you. Through your stupidity, car accidents, a breakup, rough time with friends, school, just whatever the case maybe your parents are always there.
Within the Haitian culture some people don’t understand that our parents are very clingy to us, as we are growing up. They want us to be either doctors, nurses, lawyers, an athlete or something with computers. That is just FACT, if you are not in those fields you will not be successful. Every step of your growth your parents are there, they try to pick and choose your friends for you. They don’t want bad influences that will change the positive directions that you are going in. They always try to make sure you are eating healthy and always know when you are losing weight, I mean ALWAYS. My sister is turning out like my mom and it’s horrible to see, because last year her and my mom would tell me that all the time. “Kevin you look skinnier then usual did you eat?” or “Kevin your face is looking real thin are you okay?” You just are, “like leave me alone” but your parents just know you. When I use to bring my friends over my mom would give them all food and they would tell me all the time “Yo I love this Haitian cooking, ask your mom if she can make lunch for me for work.” At my job now I use to buy lunch from the work cafeteria, but not anymore my mom makes me food for work. That’s a Haitian parent for you; it’s not that I can’t get my own food it’s just that you have to understand it’s our culture. Parents care for their kids and always want to be there for them. I would say Haitian and African parents are the same very strict and very clingy but that just means they love you so be happy to have them. Be thankful that you have both your parents and that they are there supporting you. Haitian parents will gladly embarrass you in public and not care who is around. They will blow up your phone a million times after 11pm just because they don’t know your whereabouts and think you are dead. Just know if you are the male you are safe but the female not so much. There was a time that my car died on me on the parkway at 1 in the morning, I called 5 of my friends who lived close and they were all “busy”. So I called my dad and of course he was there at the drop of a dime. You gotta love your parents no matter what because they always love you back.
You ever just sit there and think, “How many different bills my parents pay?” No you haven’t because sometimes they are paying everything for you. You are sitting there, paying your cell phone bill living the high life, while your parents pay for everything else. Your car insurance, car payments, mortgage, cable, internet, food, utilities and whatever else they are paying for. Have you ever just said thank you or helped or just like “you guys are the greatest, thanks for the support.” You can’t take your parents for granted and the more you take them for granted the less time for you to say thank you and really mean it. Time never stops and it continues to move, your parents are there for you to learn from so take those 2 seconds whenever you are with them to give them something in return and try to benefit from there teachings.
Live. Laugh. Love.
Within the Haitian culture some people don’t understand that our parents are very clingy to us, as we are growing up. They want us to be either doctors, nurses, lawyers, an athlete or something with computers. That is just FACT, if you are not in those fields you will not be successful. Every step of your growth your parents are there, they try to pick and choose your friends for you. They don’t want bad influences that will change the positive directions that you are going in. They always try to make sure you are eating healthy and always know when you are losing weight, I mean ALWAYS. My sister is turning out like my mom and it’s horrible to see, because last year her and my mom would tell me that all the time. “Kevin you look skinnier then usual did you eat?” or “Kevin your face is looking real thin are you okay?” You just are, “like leave me alone” but your parents just know you. When I use to bring my friends over my mom would give them all food and they would tell me all the time “Yo I love this Haitian cooking, ask your mom if she can make lunch for me for work.” At my job now I use to buy lunch from the work cafeteria, but not anymore my mom makes me food for work. That’s a Haitian parent for you; it’s not that I can’t get my own food it’s just that you have to understand it’s our culture. Parents care for their kids and always want to be there for them. I would say Haitian and African parents are the same very strict and very clingy but that just means they love you so be happy to have them. Be thankful that you have both your parents and that they are there supporting you. Haitian parents will gladly embarrass you in public and not care who is around. They will blow up your phone a million times after 11pm just because they don’t know your whereabouts and think you are dead. Just know if you are the male you are safe but the female not so much. There was a time that my car died on me on the parkway at 1 in the morning, I called 5 of my friends who lived close and they were all “busy”. So I called my dad and of course he was there at the drop of a dime. You gotta love your parents no matter what because they always love you back.
You ever just sit there and think, “How many different bills my parents pay?” No you haven’t because sometimes they are paying everything for you. You are sitting there, paying your cell phone bill living the high life, while your parents pay for everything else. Your car insurance, car payments, mortgage, cable, internet, food, utilities and whatever else they are paying for. Have you ever just said thank you or helped or just like “you guys are the greatest, thanks for the support.” You can’t take your parents for granted and the more you take them for granted the less time for you to say thank you and really mean it. Time never stops and it continues to move, your parents are there for you to learn from so take those 2 seconds whenever you are with them to give them something in return and try to benefit from there teachings.
Live. Laugh. Love.
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