Instagram Stalker

                I previously did a topic about the Facebook Stalker but now that we have so many other popular social media sites, let’s talk about the Instagram Stalker. Let’s be clear though, instagram stalking and someone who just likes your pictures are different. Instagram is meant for people to like and/or comment you pictures. We have to identify when someone just likes our pictures and when someone is doing way too much.

                People have the notion of assuming if someone likes more than 3 pictures they are 1) either thirsting 2) they want the D or 3) stalking. You have to realize that Instagram is a place you post pictures, for people to “LIKE” duh. The thing to look out for though, are those people who like all your pictures from 65 weeks ago and then proceed to have a conversation with you on the 1^st picture you ever posted on instagram. WE SEE YOU!! Instagram is a place to be stalked without you even knowing you are being stalked, honestly.  You have 100+ pictures on your IG account and they like EVERYONE OF THEM, just because.  Once again some of us have been in those situations where someone likes all our pics, we shout them out and now they think they have claim to us. No . . .NO . . .and DOUBLE NOOO.  Assumptions will get you nowhere, but be aware STALKERS come off very nonchalant or casual until you let them in. They will comment on pictures they have already commented on, unlike then like pictures again, and stalk any pictures you have been tagged in. Instagram is just another way for stalkers to be great.

            First you have to stop shouting out people who like your pictures, this is a window for stalkers to like all your pictures and start a conversation from your first picture. Second thing is to know when you are doing WAYYYY too much on instagram. It’s cool to post your new socks but when you’re posting your new socks and are half naked you’re honestly just asking to be stalked. “Hey you see a pic of my new socks on IG?” . . .Looks on IG and sees you with barely any clothes on, then see the socks in the corner of the room. It’s cool, I will let you be great but at least don’t set yourself up to be stalked. There is always a limit to what can and can’t be posted on IG.

Social Media Diary

When it comes to venting our frustrations, telling someone how you feel about them or just speaking your mind about a bad situation in your life, where is the first place you go? Most people write down thoughts, some people meditate or they find someone to talk to. Others find a different median to vent and let all their frustrations out. This would be the social media networks we all have come to know and love.

Why is that we have to go to a social media site to vent our frustration? Is it that we think everyone cares? Do we think that these people will help us? Or are we only using this as a way to reach out to the real problem? Let’s be serious, no one cares about your frustrations or your problems. Some people will genuinely care but the other 98% don’t care at all. You are just pure entertainment for them, especially if you are one of those people that use social media as a diary. I know a couple people who spill all there problems on social media and I feel like I pretty much know there life because it’s laid out in front of me. If they have a problem with someone they would rather say something about the person on a social media (without disclosing their names) instead of talking to that person and resolving the issue. Has social media consumed our lives so much that we really don’t know how to communicate with people directly anymore? We would prefer to sub-tweet (via Twitter) or indirectly post a picture status (via Instagram) about them. Are we really incapable of settling things directly instead of indirectly?

With social media being a diary for some people I feel like I really know what’s going on in people’s lives. I know who hates there baby daddy, people who are no longer friends, people who use illegal substances and want to get caught by the cops, people who don’t have a jobs, what people do in their free time, who is part of the IG modeling service and the people who are ONLY twitter famous.

Even with the fact that I am very observant person, social media has really consumed our lives and I really don't care whats going on in your life EVERY SECOND of EVERY DAY. Yes its “social” media but c’mon let’s stop putting our whole lives in this social media diary. Let’s get back to human interaction and not waiting for a crowd of people to give you a million likes so you can tell someone to go fuck themselves.

Escape

You ever just wake up and just feel sometimes that you just want to escape? Just escape from work, school, responsibilities, problems, life and just disappear into your thoughts. Just sit in your thoughts and get clarity on what is really going on around you. We tend to rush or let situations guide our decisions without first sitting down and really thinking about them. Sometimes we become overwhelmed with a lot of things that we forget to take a step back and analyze. When we become overwhelmed with situations around us it is always good to just escape and evaluate “What's a priority and what isn’t a priority.”

The best decisions are made when you have a clear mind. When you escape into your thoughts and you analyze the situation. Just having an escape from reality relaxes your thoughts and lets you just evaluate everything currently on your plate. I have learned that you can’t escape everything and will always need to get back to it but it gives you a moment to breathe. Sometimes all we need is a moment or just a way to slow down everything that is going on around us. Some people find their escape in music or books. Others create their own escape from the world. I feel that everyone needs some type of escape just to gain clarity and not be bothered with the outside world. If you know me then you know my escape is my “cave”. I like to be away from the world to get my thoughts together and not deal with any problems. Your escape is a way of running away without really running away. It’s like your summer home where you can just relax, be away from your problems and determine your next move. You can’t let everything or everyone follow you wherever you go because this is YOUR escape. Everyone wants to escape sometimes.

" Everyone has a way out. . . a way to escape . . .a place to go to. . . be free from pain, stress, despair, people and just life. We all just need an escape to evaluate everything and relax."

Loyalty

The state or quality of being loyal; faithfulness to commitments or obligations.

loyalty. (n.d.). Dictionary.com Unabridged. Retrieved June 02, 2013, from Dictionary.com website: http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/loyalty

After defining our topic, lets get into what exactly loyalty is. People always bring up loyalty when you are not able to do something for them or you do something with another friend. Why is it when something doesn’t go our way we question’s someone’s loyalty? Should we already know where other people’s loyalties lie? Should we know where our loyalties already lie? I feel that loyalty goes hand in hand when creating “circles” or “friend circles”. You should be able to establish certain things and know if someone really has loyalty for you. You will never know immediately because everything takes time. Loyalty is something that takes time and is earned. People think just cause you are friends that loyalty has been established, in most cases yes, other cases no. Don’t ever think (or assume) that just because you’ve known someone for some time they have loyalty for you. As humans we are all the same, but different when it comes to loyalty for others.

One way loyalty is tested is when 2 of your friends are no longer friends and they both don’t want you to hang out with the other person. This happens a lot and in some cases it damages a lot of friendships. Even though one person thinks you should have more loyalty to them then the other person ultimately its your decision. No one should tell you where your loyalty should be placed. Other times they will hold something over your head like “oh remember that time your car broke down and I came to pick you up?” When people start to hold things over your head like this, is when you really have to take a step back and think about your friendship\relationship with that individual. If you have to hold something over my head to make me pick sides, I won’t and I’ll question your friendship for bringing things up from the past.

What sets some people apart is the loyalty they have for others. People that know that no matter what they can depend on you because of your loyalty. You always have to appreciate those people who have loyalty for you. Never take loyalty for granted and cherish those people who drop whatever they are doing to be a good person for you.

“One of the things that makes me who I am is the loyalty I have to people I hold close to my heart”

The Bully Effect (Part 2)

Hey everyone just putting together my thoughts and I feel this is something everyone should be aware of. Bullying is something that everyone goes through but bullying deaths people really don't pay that much attention too. This is something I am very passionate about and that is just making people aware of things that they fail to realize is a big deal. Even though we may not be able to stop bullying we can always find a way to not let it get to us. Once we start to let things like this get to us then we let it define us as a person. At least once a week I check for articles about bullying deaths in 2013 that have not become mainstream because lets be honest people don't care. We should care when people are allowing social media (facebook, twitter, instagram . . .etc.) to dictate what type of person they are. We allow social media to run our lives so much that we forget that we need to define ourselves and not let these outlets define us. As we submerge ourselves farther into technology we forget that reality is whatever we see and not what others dictate for us on social media. If you have not read part 1 please click the link provided and check it out ---> The Bully Effect

Jadin Bell, died at the age of 15 after being taken off of life support because he hung himself. Jadin was bullied because he was gay.

For more information regarding Jadin Bell's story click on the two links --> Queerty & Huffington Post

Ashley Riggitano, died at the age of 22 after jumping off the George Washington Bridge. Ashley was being cyberbullied (via facebook)

For More information on Ashely Riggitano's story please click on the two links -->New York Post & Hollywood Life

Just make yourself aware of what is going on in the world. No matter how small something is, it is always good to share it with other people. As I said before, bullying will never go away but we can always find a way to not let it get to us. Bullying has no age limit so if you think just because you are older you are safe, you really aren't. Just never let anyone dictate your happiness and make you feel that you are worth nothing.


"There are going to be lots of hard times in your life, but those hard times only make you stronger in the end"