Do It For The Likes

We are in the age of the “likes.” Doing things to please people we barely even know, so we can feel some type of importance. Social media sites have us just walking around liking things or putting comments on the things people share. We all share things but do we share too much? Do we do things just to please the people around us? Not saying having to many likes is bad but what are we getting out of it?

Our lives revolve around social media. We are all plugged in somewhere, viewing people’s pictures or videos. Do you think some people are taking it to far? My thing is if you are getting more then 1000 likes on something and are only doing it for the likes, please get paid from it. If you are just seeking attention, just sit down and re-evaluate your life. Since vine and instagram have been out people have been cashing in. People with intricate 6 sec – 15 sec videos for likes are becoming famous. I am just saying I’ve seen a lot of videos on instagram and vine that are extremely thought out. Good quality video and a cast of people. How long can you do it for the likes though? If this is your brand and you make money from it, great. For those others that are trying to jump on the bandwagon, I feel like you need to relax. People are doing the most on these social media sites. Just stop it and be yourself, stop searching for approval from others. When you post some hot shit on instagram and you can still see the names, how do you feel? Most people just delete it and wait till later to post something better. If you can still see the names and not numbers people get highly upset about that. I notice that a lot on my timeline, where people just delete the picture after 15 minutes of getting no likes. It really isn’t that serious. Just because you haven’t received a like on the picture doesn’t mean it hasn’t been viewed, right? People are just not feeling it at the moment and are letting you be great.

What are you trying to do for likes? Are you posting half naked pictures? Are you trying to create a funny video for people? Are you just posting your life on social media? Remember that everything you do on social media is a reflection of yourself and how people see you. No one is saying not to do it for the likes but review what you post before posting it. No one becomes famous over night and you shouldn’t search for validation from people you barely know.

“A truly strong person does not need the approval of others any more than a lion needs the approval of sheep” – Vernon Howard

Change Me

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You ever been in a situation where someone tries to change who you are as person? For instance if you have an addiction to gummy bears they try to make you get a new addiction just because they don’t like them? Yeah that kind of change, where they try to adjust something about you that makes you unique because they don’t like it. We have all been in those situations where we don’t really like something about someone and we wished we could change it. Why? Its human nature we want people to conform to what we want and what we like.

Some people will do that sometimes especially if its something for your career or to keep a friendship. If it means that much to you and it annoys the other person so much you will change. Why do you have to change though? Why can’t you just be you with all of your flaws, issues and addictions? Lets just say not everything is a good fit. I was talking to this chick way back when, who had a great personality. Everything about her was great but she smoked so much weed. I don’t know if I was blinded by how great she was or that she would bribe me with snacks but like massive amounts of weed daily. It was like she couldn’t live without it. I have no problems with people and what they like but when they try to force what they like on me, it definitely won’t work. That is like a super turn off. You try to change me to like what you like, I will tell you to go kick rocks. We always get asked by people, “ what would you change about me?” your response should always be “nothing.”

When you want to change something about someone and can’t accept him or her for whatever flaws they have tells you about yourself. Having someone fit your mold doesn’t always work out. We distance our self further from creative minds and those individuals who set themselves apart. Why change me? Why not let me just be me? If you don’t like something about me, you can tell me but does it mean that I will change that thing about myself? Sometimes we change for the better, other times we change for the worse. It’s up to us to determine if everything about ourselves is worth changing for someone else.

If you don't like something, change it. If you can't change it, change your attitude. ~Maya Angelou

Draking and Driving (Part 2)

You ever just be in your feelings and can’t explain it? Then you realize you playing some soft ass shit and that you are deeper in your feelings then you expected. Yes you are draking. As discussed in Part 1, draking is as an emotion that overcomes every other feeling you have. It makes you do things that you know dam well you shouldn’t be doing. Like driving to your exes spot when you guys haven’t spoke in months or trying to facebook stalk that girl that gave you some of her fruit snacks in middle school. This is really an epidemic that is growing.

Have you ever listened to Sam Smith’s album straight through? Like his songs are amazing and literally will have you draking. Everyone should know his song “Stay With Me” . . .that song is just the definition of someone’s life at a particular moment. You ever just want to text lyrics to someone just to tell them how you feel or just tell them to pay attention to you? That is Sam Smith’s life to me, with all of his songs. He talks about potentials and people who he wants but that don’t really notice him.  Other people just letting him down or just wanting someone to leave the person they are with for him or just him not being the only one in someone’s life. Like I seriously be draking and driving to Sam Smith. No fucks given at all, windows rolled down and singing my lungs out. Then you look at your phone for those couple people so you can call them and just sing off key or just send them a bunch of emoji’s.

Every one has a draking moment and there is really nothing you can do about it. You just got to go with the flow and throw your phone at the wall. This will prevent you from texting/calling any unnecessary people.  You can be draking to a lot of different artist but Drake will still get you to that level of going hard as shit, then bring you back to your feelings and remind you of some person who held your hand for 5 minutes back in high school. When you start having that draking feeling, just put your phone to the side and stop yourself.

Guess it's true, I'm not good at a one-night stand
But I still need love 'cause I'm just a man
These nights never seem to go to plan
I don't want you to leave, will you hold my hand?
~Sam Smith - Stay With Me

Take One For The Team

So you are out with your crew and you are all having a great time. Then another group pops up of the opposite gender and you both have about the same number of people in the crew. They looking good, you guys are looking good, so the team makes a move. Everyone picks up on somebody but then you realize the one you got isn’t as pleasing to look at as the other ones. So what do you do? Take one for the team or quickly step away? You know if you step away the team might lose but if you take one for the team you might lose. What do you do?

We have all been in those situations where we literally had to “take one for the team” and it wasn’t the best thing ever. A situation I was put into is when I was with my boys in Miami, having a wonderful time. We was on the beach, had the music bumping, everyone trying to be around us. Three girls walked up on us and my boys pounced like lions trying to find they mate. I was left with the friend they just wanted to bring along. You know how I know she was the friend they really didn’t care about? It’s because she was wearing a 2 piece with a huge c-section scar and had the worst edges I have ever seen in my life. I had to make a life changing decision on if I would “take one for the team” or walk away from this situation. I raised my hands up, said “nope” and walked away. I would not be a victim of this “take one for the team” situation in Miami of all places. I am not the best looking dude in the world but I am acceptable to look at. Sadly she was not and I would not force myself to just sit there and entertain her. I used my “pass” for the year and I was fine with that.

What is the “pass” you ask . . . well it’s something me and a couple of my friends do. We are allowed only 1 pass for the year. Meaning if there are a group of girls and we don’t want to kick it to the one friend we just say “pass” and walk away. Not the best system but it works for us. If you have an understanding with your friends then you guys would have created a system that fits you when you need to be saved or you just want to walk away from a situation. Don’t act like you don’t. I’ve saved a couple of my female friends from dudes who were harassing them. They gave me that one look and I’d smooth walk over, grab her hand and walk off with her while the dude was looking. 

Remember to set some guidelines when it comes to “taking one for the team” because if this isn’t set then we all losing. Sometimes people don’t like being put in these situations but all you can do is live and learn.

Regret

As we look back at the people we've met and the things that we've done, why do we tend to regret? No reason to regret anything at all. It's something that we wanted to do and the people we wanted to meet. Maybe things go bad but it's an experience that we chose to move forward with. We can't say we have never learned anything from the experience, right? I feel like everything is placed in front of you for a reason, to either test how strong you are as a person or make you stronger as person. Nothing is ever easy in life and the experiences that we have in life we should never regret.

I was in a situation where I fell in love with my best friend. Not that I wasn't in love with her before but it was more then just a friendship love now. You would think that is the best person to fall in love with but when you are both just getting out of horrible relationships, it definitely isn't good. You both are just lost in your feelings trying to share them with anyone that comes around. Why not share them with the person closest to you? To make a long story short, her guy came back in the picture and I was left out on the corner. Did I regret that we fell for each other? Not at all. It was a great feeling. It just taught me, don't rush anything. Even with the people you trust the most. Life has a way of kicking you to the ground and bringing you back up later, by offering you some gummy bears then knocking them out of your hand. It's always a bumpy road but once you start regretting things then you will never learn.

You are always put in situations that you want to regret the people you met or the situations you are put in. Just live your life, move forward and enjoy every moment. Just create memories that you can look back and say " oh yeah I remember when I did that" and not " I wish I could have done that." You will never know what will happen and how happy you will be later. It's all about the experiences.

"Life is too short to worry about stupid things. Fall madly in love, live to the limit, laugh until it hurts and have no regrets because everything happens for a reason."