Draking and Driving (Part 2)

You ever just be in your feelings and can’t explain it? Then you realize you playing some soft ass shit and that you are deeper in your feelings then you expected. Yes you are draking. As discussed in Part 1, draking is as an emotion that overcomes every other feeling you have. It makes you do things that you know dam well you shouldn’t be doing. Like driving to your exes spot when you guys haven’t spoke in months or trying to facebook stalk that girl that gave you some of her fruit snacks in middle school. This is really an epidemic that is growing.

Have you ever listened to Sam Smith’s album straight through? Like his songs are amazing and literally will have you draking. Everyone should know his song “Stay With Me” . . .that song is just the definition of someone’s life at a particular moment. You ever just want to text lyrics to someone just to tell them how you feel or just tell them to pay attention to you? That is Sam Smith’s life to me, with all of his songs. He talks about potentials and people who he wants but that don’t really notice him.  Other people just letting him down or just wanting someone to leave the person they are with for him or just him not being the only one in someone’s life. Like I seriously be draking and driving to Sam Smith. No fucks given at all, windows rolled down and singing my lungs out. Then you look at your phone for those couple people so you can call them and just sing off key or just send them a bunch of emoji’s.

Every one has a draking moment and there is really nothing you can do about it. You just got to go with the flow and throw your phone at the wall. This will prevent you from texting/calling any unnecessary people.  You can be draking to a lot of different artist but Drake will still get you to that level of going hard as shit, then bring you back to your feelings and remind you of some person who held your hand for 5 minutes back in high school. When you start having that draking feeling, just put your phone to the side and stop yourself.

Guess it's true, I'm not good at a one-night stand
But I still need love 'cause I'm just a man
These nights never seem to go to plan
I don't want you to leave, will you hold my hand?
~Sam Smith - Stay With Me

Take One For The Team

So you are out with your crew and you are all having a great time. Then another group pops up of the opposite gender and you both have about the same number of people in the crew. They looking good, you guys are looking good, so the team makes a move. Everyone picks up on somebody but then you realize the one you got isn’t as pleasing to look at as the other ones. So what do you do? Take one for the team or quickly step away? You know if you step away the team might lose but if you take one for the team you might lose. What do you do?

We have all been in those situations where we literally had to “take one for the team” and it wasn’t the best thing ever. A situation I was put into is when I was with my boys in Miami, having a wonderful time. We was on the beach, had the music bumping, everyone trying to be around us. Three girls walked up on us and my boys pounced like lions trying to find they mate. I was left with the friend they just wanted to bring along. You know how I know she was the friend they really didn’t care about? It’s because she was wearing a 2 piece with a huge c-section scar and had the worst edges I have ever seen in my life. I had to make a life changing decision on if I would “take one for the team” or walk away from this situation. I raised my hands up, said “nope” and walked away. I would not be a victim of this “take one for the team” situation in Miami of all places. I am not the best looking dude in the world but I am acceptable to look at. Sadly she was not and I would not force myself to just sit there and entertain her. I used my “pass” for the year and I was fine with that.

What is the “pass” you ask . . . well it’s something me and a couple of my friends do. We are allowed only 1 pass for the year. Meaning if there are a group of girls and we don’t want to kick it to the one friend we just say “pass” and walk away. Not the best system but it works for us. If you have an understanding with your friends then you guys would have created a system that fits you when you need to be saved or you just want to walk away from a situation. Don’t act like you don’t. I’ve saved a couple of my female friends from dudes who were harassing them. They gave me that one look and I’d smooth walk over, grab her hand and walk off with her while the dude was looking. 

Remember to set some guidelines when it comes to “taking one for the team” because if this isn’t set then we all losing. Sometimes people don’t like being put in these situations but all you can do is live and learn.

Regret

As we look back at the people we've met and the things that we've done, why do we tend to regret? No reason to regret anything at all. It's something that we wanted to do and the people we wanted to meet. Maybe things go bad but it's an experience that we chose to move forward with. We can't say we have never learned anything from the experience, right? I feel like everything is placed in front of you for a reason, to either test how strong you are as a person or make you stronger as person. Nothing is ever easy in life and the experiences that we have in life we should never regret.

I was in a situation where I fell in love with my best friend. Not that I wasn't in love with her before but it was more then just a friendship love now. You would think that is the best person to fall in love with but when you are both just getting out of horrible relationships, it definitely isn't good. You both are just lost in your feelings trying to share them with anyone that comes around. Why not share them with the person closest to you? To make a long story short, her guy came back in the picture and I was left out on the corner. Did I regret that we fell for each other? Not at all. It was a great feeling. It just taught me, don't rush anything. Even with the people you trust the most. Life has a way of kicking you to the ground and bringing you back up later, by offering you some gummy bears then knocking them out of your hand. It's always a bumpy road but once you start regretting things then you will never learn.

You are always put in situations that you want to regret the people you met or the situations you are put in. Just live your life, move forward and enjoy every moment. Just create memories that you can look back and say " oh yeah I remember when I did that" and not " I wish I could have done that." You will never know what will happen and how happy you will be later. It's all about the experiences.

"Life is too short to worry about stupid things. Fall madly in love, live to the limit, laugh until it hurts and have no regrets because everything happens for a reason."

#SummerBoo

As the summer draws to a close lets start to thank our summer boo’s for the roles they have played in making sure we had an enjoyable summer. Lets be real, if you are single you had a “Summer Boo”. Someone that you could take places with you, if you didn’t want to go alone. You didn’t consider them a summer boo, you probably just considered them a real good friend. Some people got out relationships right before the summer just so they could have fun for the summer. People don’t get that they are just the summer boo, the temporary fling that people want for the summer. The summer is when people have the most time to do anything and are free, so why not have a summer boo right?

I classify the summer boo as just a temporary person that is around for the summer that you don’t really see yourself with. Sometimes you can under certain circumstances but that is very slim. You already know who you want before you have a summer boo but you get one just because everyone is doing there own thing for the summer. Yes a summer boo can turn into a potential but during the summer people don’t want to be tied down. Why be tied down when you can just have fun? As humans we don’t like doing things alone and when we see couples we are just like “I wish I could have someone to do things with to.” It doesn’t have to be anything physical more so like adventures. Lets go on vacation together or try something new that we have never tried. Don’t forget people catch feelings sometimes. You have to be clear with people so they don’t hurt. Sometimes we don’t care about people’s feelings but you can’t damage friendships for a summer of fun.

As long as you keep a boundary and make it clear what is going on, you won’t lose people. If you don’t someone always gets hurt. As the summer ends don’t forget to come back to reality and remember that it is only for a season. A seasonal lover is never good to have but just someone to experience a good time with isn’t that bad. As long as you are happy that’s all that matters.

“Life is a game. You have to play it your way or people will make you follow their ways”

The Girl with the THOT Tattoo

This is not a generalization, this in reference to both male and female.

This word THOT has literally come out of nowhere and I really hate it but I use it. I really hate the word but it is so catchy and its get the point across.  People really don’t take offense to this word. If I was to call you a HO you would be so upset but if I called you a THOT you would kind of giggle and say, “ No I am not”.  Lets rewind and go back to what the word THOT means.

THOT = That Hoe Over There

This word makes me so angry sometimes because people really use this in a full sentence. The abbreviations make sense but when you really think about it, you just tell yourself you sound so stupid. For example, “Hey bruh why are you being such a THOT for?”  Now in proper English,” Hey brother why are you such a “that hoe over there” for?” Instead of just using the word hoe we just use the word thot so it won’t be as harmful? It confuses me. When a word becomes mainstream and shared on social media networks it becomes a “real” word that is recycled repeatedly. I actually did an experiment of calling people thot’s and honestly they didn’t get mad. They just looked at me and started laughing. People really don’t consider it a harmless word at all.

Words shouldn’t really harm you but it’s just the words that our generation is creating, no real thought goes into them. I understand it may have come from a rapper or something but still, we don’t have to repeat words that we hear. The thing with humans is that once we hear a catchy word it is stuck in our heads. It’s literally like a tattoo that we can’t get off.