Communication Chasing

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I honestly hate talking about communication because it seems to be the biggest problem that our society/generation has at the moment. We can say that we don’t have a problem but we honestly do. With all the forms of communication we have we tend to fail at communication. We feel that if someone tweets something, post a picture on instagram or likes a comment on facebook that they are okay and everything is fine. In a sense we let these things trigger if we contact them directly or not.

            If you have to chase someone for communication then I feel you just need to take a step back and decide if they are worth the chase. The way that we are constantly wired into the world and the first excuse you hear is “oh I didn’t see your message,” always throws me for a loop. Granted you may be sleeping or you are just in your own world, no matter what EVERYONE checks there phone at least 5-10 times an hour. I am sorry but I will be honest with you, I have my phone with me all the time and if I don’t want to reply to you I just won’t. I don’t need to make an excuse about why I didn’t hit you up I will just tell you directly, I really didn’t feel like responding to you at all.

            Making up an excuse to avoid someone has become the norm for some of us but we gotta do what we gotta do. Communication chasing should not exist but it does because with more ways being created to communicate with people we continue to communicate less and less with each other. Look at the people that are getting “catfished” and ask yourself “why didn’t they skype, facetime or use tango?” We have so many ways to communicate with people but we choose not to. The next question is “do they really want to communicate with you?” If you feel someone is lacking in communication, maybe they just really don’t want to communicate with you. 

Never chase people for communication, take a step back and just remember that not everyone values communication as a way of keeping friendship/relationships alive.

(Poem) Black Heart

 

Heading back into my cave

Detoxing from my feelings

Keeping my thoughts to myself

I’ve become heartless

That heartless monster I said I’d never become

With not one ounce of care

My heart is black

Sitting in my cave

Rewinding back

Back to where my heart was black

They say listen to your heart

But my heart is black

Building my walls back up

Letting go of the feelings I once had

It’s not you, its me

I am darker then usual

Leaving everything behind

Trying this new wave

Hoping that I stop losing and finally win one

Realizing that no one is ever ready

Ima take a step back

            And let my heart become black

They brought me up

            To the point where I was the happiest

Then let me go

            Like I was a seasonal fixture

No longer in my feelings

I rather my heart be black

Black without a care in the world

I’m done chasing “what ifs”

            And I’m letting go of “what could be”

I’m done appreciating those

            Who don’t appreciate me

I’m done caring too much

            And being the old me

I’m overdosing on this “ I don’t give a fuck” mentality”

Losing friends along the way but

            I’m on this new wave

Gone with the wind

            I’ve become this heartless monster

Letting go of the old me

            And embracing the new

I’ve allowed my heart to become black

With not once ounce of care

I’ve become this black-hearted monster

~Kevin Pierre

(Poem) Her

 

I told her, thank you

For just being her

The her of my dreams

The her I can feel comfortable with

The her that’s in my thinking thoughts

Not the her that’s an object

But the her that’s whole presence makes me smile

The her that is perfectly imperfect

The her that gave me the chance to be me

Cupid finally listened to this hopeless romantic

Letting me do me, and finally find her

You know her . . . the her of my dreams

Not the her that’s only here for a season

But the her that wants to go the distance

The her that accepts my flaws and my addictions

The her that I appreciate more then the stars in the sky

No longer stuck in an endless loop of confusion

Because her actions give me reason not to

Trusting her with all of me

Because her hands wont let me go.

If I had a her

I would tell her, thank you

For just being her

The her of my dreams

~Kevin Pierre

Are We Really Friends?

Sometimes I feel that we have to ask this question for the people around us. “Are we really friends?” We have to remember the people that we surround ourselves with, are the people who somewhat reflect what type of person we are. When you surround yourself with a bunch of nobodies, people will consider you a nobody. Lets be honest we judge people on the crowd they surround themselves with, its just human nature

I feel like if I am calling you my friend; that comes with a lot of responsibility. It’s a title I don’t take lightly and I hope no one else does. If you are a friend I feel like you should be able to be direct and talk to me about whatever.  If your “friend” prefers to go on a social network to “subtweet” and/or “write a status about you with out saying your name” they are clearly not your friend. If they rather get the worlds opinion instead of talking to you direct, then that’s a problem.  If we are friends we should be able to discuss anything upfront and resolve any issues we have immediately.

“Are we really friends” if you are easily able to discuss things with people who you just met before talking to me?  “Are we really friends” if you talk about me behind my back instead of directing your issues with me? “Are we really friends” if you prefer using social media as an outlet then coming to me.

We just need to reevaluate “who” we call friends sometimes and people that are in our friend circle. It’s always good to keep your friendships healthy and if someone is holding on by a thread, see what you can do to fix it or just end it. No matter how long you’ve known someone you still have to ask yourself “are we really friends?” Not everyone is for you and those that aren’t need to be removed from your life to make room for personal growth. Those that hang around only want to bring you down and always make you feel negative. So move on with life and always ask yourself, “are we really friends?”

Text/Call Me, Don’t Tweet Me!

We all do it, I’ve caught myself ignoring texts and I continue to tweet. We text someone and they sit there and tweet, before ever responding to us. We sit there like “wtf, did I do something wrong?” or “sooo this person is going to tweet before responding to me?” I think its because we have become comfortable with what society has accepted as the normal forms of communication.

I am guilty of this but I am really trying to do better when responding to people. When someone texts us or calls us we are quick to respond to them via twitter instead of contacting them back the way they contacted us.  Honestly twitter (or any social media) is not a legit form of communication, especially if you have the persons phone number. If you don’t have there contact information, that’s understandable. This generation will see that you text/call them and either send you a DM (direct message) or just tweet you, “Sup u called me?”

Does this make us less personal with the people around us? In a sense yes, especially if its people that you are close to. They may feel some type of way. You will tweet before responding to their text/call, that just shows where your priorities are. This generation is stuck on social media communication but don’t realize it is less personal and it is somewhat of a barrier. Think about this before you ignore a text/call and/or decide to tweet instead of text/call someone back. People may feel like you are ignoring them or have a problem with them if you decide to tweet (or do anything social media related) before contacting them. Everyone is free to do there own thing but see how it feels when it is done to you. Being ignored is not fun.