Escape

You ever just wake up and just feel sometimes that you just want to escape? Just escape from work, school, responsibilities, problems, life and just disappear into your thoughts. Just sit in your thoughts and get clarity on what is really going on around you. We tend to rush or let situations guide our decisions without first sitting down and really thinking about them. Sometimes we become overwhelmed with a lot of things that we forget to take a step back and analyze. When we become overwhelmed with situations around us it is always good to just escape and evaluate “What's a priority and what isn’t a priority.”

The best decisions are made when you have a clear mind. When you escape into your thoughts and you analyze the situation. Just having an escape from reality relaxes your thoughts and lets you just evaluate everything currently on your plate. I have learned that you can’t escape everything and will always need to get back to it but it gives you a moment to breathe. Sometimes all we need is a moment or just a way to slow down everything that is going on around us. Some people find their escape in music or books. Others create their own escape from the world. I feel that everyone needs some type of escape just to gain clarity and not be bothered with the outside world. If you know me then you know my escape is my “cave”. I like to be away from the world to get my thoughts together and not deal with any problems. Your escape is a way of running away without really running away. It’s like your summer home where you can just relax, be away from your problems and determine your next move. You can’t let everything or everyone follow you wherever you go because this is YOUR escape. Everyone wants to escape sometimes.

" Everyone has a way out. . . a way to escape . . .a place to go to. . . be free from pain, stress, despair, people and just life. We all just need an escape to evaluate everything and relax."

Loyalty

The state or quality of being loyal; faithfulness to commitments or obligations.

loyalty. (n.d.). Dictionary.com Unabridged. Retrieved June 02, 2013, from Dictionary.com website: http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/loyalty

After defining our topic, lets get into what exactly loyalty is. People always bring up loyalty when you are not able to do something for them or you do something with another friend. Why is it when something doesn’t go our way we question’s someone’s loyalty? Should we already know where other people’s loyalties lie? Should we know where our loyalties already lie? I feel that loyalty goes hand in hand when creating “circles” or “friend circles”. You should be able to establish certain things and know if someone really has loyalty for you. You will never know immediately because everything takes time. Loyalty is something that takes time and is earned. People think just cause you are friends that loyalty has been established, in most cases yes, other cases no. Don’t ever think (or assume) that just because you’ve known someone for some time they have loyalty for you. As humans we are all the same, but different when it comes to loyalty for others.

One way loyalty is tested is when 2 of your friends are no longer friends and they both don’t want you to hang out with the other person. This happens a lot and in some cases it damages a lot of friendships. Even though one person thinks you should have more loyalty to them then the other person ultimately its your decision. No one should tell you where your loyalty should be placed. Other times they will hold something over your head like “oh remember that time your car broke down and I came to pick you up?” When people start to hold things over your head like this, is when you really have to take a step back and think about your friendship\relationship with that individual. If you have to hold something over my head to make me pick sides, I won’t and I’ll question your friendship for bringing things up from the past.

What sets some people apart is the loyalty they have for others. People that know that no matter what they can depend on you because of your loyalty. You always have to appreciate those people who have loyalty for you. Never take loyalty for granted and cherish those people who drop whatever they are doing to be a good person for you.

“One of the things that makes me who I am is the loyalty I have to people I hold close to my heart”

The Bully Effect (Part 2)

Hey everyone just putting together my thoughts and I feel this is something everyone should be aware of. Bullying is something that everyone goes through but bullying deaths people really don't pay that much attention too. This is something I am very passionate about and that is just making people aware of things that they fail to realize is a big deal. Even though we may not be able to stop bullying we can always find a way to not let it get to us. Once we start to let things like this get to us then we let it define us as a person. At least once a week I check for articles about bullying deaths in 2013 that have not become mainstream because lets be honest people don't care. We should care when people are allowing social media (facebook, twitter, instagram . . .etc.) to dictate what type of person they are. We allow social media to run our lives so much that we forget that we need to define ourselves and not let these outlets define us. As we submerge ourselves farther into technology we forget that reality is whatever we see and not what others dictate for us on social media. If you have not read part 1 please click the link provided and check it out ---> The Bully Effect

Jadin Bell, died at the age of 15 after being taken off of life support because he hung himself. Jadin was bullied because he was gay.

For more information regarding Jadin Bell's story click on the two links --> Queerty & Huffington Post

Ashley Riggitano, died at the age of 22 after jumping off the George Washington Bridge. Ashley was being cyberbullied (via facebook)

For More information on Ashely Riggitano's story please click on the two links -->New York Post & Hollywood Life

Just make yourself aware of what is going on in the world. No matter how small something is, it is always good to share it with other people. As I said before, bullying will never go away but we can always find a way to not let it get to us. Bullying has no age limit so if you think just because you are older you are safe, you really aren't. Just never let anyone dictate your happiness and make you feel that you are worth nothing.


"There are going to be lots of hard times in your life, but those hard times only make you stronger in the end"

Friend Circles

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I feel that “friend circles” is not addressed enough. People just have one big group of friends and just let them mix and mingle. Let us be real though, not everyone is your friend and not everyone can mix. So we create friend circles in the hope to separate the good, the bad and the ugly. “Friend circles” is another way of knowing who you can go to for certain things and who can’t you go to. Who is down for a trip and who will flake out at the last minute. “Friend circles” does not mean everyone is your friend, it just means that you just need to separate the relevant people from the irrelevant. People like to keep irrelevant people in their lives, the people that are available sometimes but bring you down and still want something in the end. These people are still around, so you keep them in a separate circle.

            I actually have a couple circles and they are: reliable friends, only party with friends, broke friends, cheap friends, successful friends, nosey friends and the “user” friends.  Its good to have these circles because you can distinguish who your real friends are. You cant trust everyone, so to set up “friend circles” will save you the time of knowing who to avoid and who to keep around. Why not just remove the irrelevant people from your life? Well sometimes you have to deal with those people on a regular and they say “keep your friends close and your enemies closer.” If your not dealing with them on a regular tell them to keep it pushing.

            You can’t make everyone happy and not everyone is your friend but separating your groups will make life so much better. We tend to group people together just because we find it easy to manage this one large group. You should distinguish your “friends” from others because one person may belong in one group but not in another.

“A good friend is a connection to life, a tie to the past, a road to the future, the key to sanity in a totally insane world”

Undeserving

So I’ve been talking to a couple people as of late and they all seem to say the same thing. They feel as though they are “undeserving” of what is given to them. They just feel that if they are treated “good” that it is too much and they don’t deserve it at the moment. When did this mentality of feeling “undeserving” start? Is it because we allow ourselves to be treated like crap all the time that when we are finally treated well it’s the wrong thing? Or is it cause we feel that someone has another agenda that the only reason they are treating us this way is because they want something?

            This can go either way for guys and girls because I feel that if you are being treated a certain way for the first time its like brand new to you. If its something good, you sometimes feel that it is too good and that you are “undeserving” of it. We are never satisfied with what we have and when we finally receive what we want or more we think that we don’t deserve it. What has brought us to this way of thinking? We sometimes let our friends “talk” in our ears influencing our decisions on what we deserve and what is considered “someone running game.”

            The truth is that this generation is confused about what they want and will think that everything they receive they aren’t ready for or undeserving. No one gets to where they are by thinking they are undeserving or not ready. You always have to check yourself so that you never do things for undeserving people or it will become an endless loop of never being happy. Even though you define your own happiness sometimes we allow other people to affect how happy we really are.