Good Morning Readers! Hopefully everyone had a good weekend and enjoyed it! WELL today's topic is about "The Other Guy." The other guy I am referring to is the one that females refer to as the one that f**ks them over so they say F all dudes.
It always starts off boy meets girl, they start to talk about themselves and then it gets down to talking about past relationships or people who we talked to before them. (It always good to know about the last person because you can learn things not to do that will piss off the person you trying to talk to now.) When I'm talking to a female first thing they ALWAYS say is the dude fucked her over for another girl or he took her for granted. (Now that we know what the other dude did we try not to make the same mistake) Sometimes when I am talking to my female friend’s conversations usually go like this:
Kevin: So why aren’t you with anyone your mad chill, relaxed and great to talk too.
Female: Well, I’m over dudes at the moment the last guy I was talking to he fucked me over and I am just over dudes, there all the same
Kevin: PAUSE! . . . all dudes are not the same, sorry the ones that you messed with where a different breed. I apologize for them.
Female: Dudes really aren’t shit though they all want the same thing! I hate them all
Kevin: You should rephrase that because the dudes YOU FUCKED with aren’t shit so get it together
That’s how most conversations end . . . . with them saying “Dudes ain’t shit” just say “Dudes I’ve fucked with ain’t shit” then we wouldn’t be so mad. Now that we know your situation, which is very common among females, what is the next step?
Most times when females say they aren’t into talking to people at the moment it’s only because they are still feeling some type of way about the other dude. This other dude messes it up for the rest of the male population because most females are self conscious about this stuff. Some think “okay I don’t want to get hurt again I will play it safe now”, “I don’t want to waste time on another person again” or “I’m not cute enough for anyone else” (YES I’ve heard females say this one). All you can do as a guy is just be there and be supportive , try to prove them wrong that all guys aren’t the same. Females have to remember though they need to stop messing with little boys and start messing with men who won’t treat them like that. Live, learn and move the hell on . . . you can’t let your past troubles define what you do in the future with someone else. If you let your past rule your life then you’ll live in your past forever.
Monday, June 21, 2010
Friday, June 18, 2010
Why Do People Cheat In Relationships? (Topic Chosen By Crystaline R.)
Today’s topic is something that is becoming common among a lot of people today in relationships. I am talking about those who are in relationships and cheat on the other person they are with. What is so wrong in your relationship that you have to cheat on the other person? Why can’t you just break up with the person you are with first then get with whoever you want? Why stay in the relationship and hurt the other person just because you still have feelings for them?
There are a million questions you can ask these people but most likely there answer will be “I don’t know.” Some might not have a clear definite answer to this question, so once again “WHY DO PEOPLE CHEAT IN RELATIONSHIPS?!”
Top 4 reasons people cheat in relationships:
1. Boredom: They ‘re tired of being with the same person after so long they want something new
2. The Rush: They like the RUSH of keeping secrets and the risk of almost getting caught it gets there adrenaline pumping
3. Revenge: They cheated on you so you cheat on them
4. You allow them to: The person forgives you . . .this just shows that your allowing them to get away with it so they’re going to keep doing it
For those who cheat instead of messing with the persons head why don’t you just break up? Seriously . . . that’s my question for you “WHY DON’T YOU JUST BREAK UP WITH THEM?” Instead of keeping the relationship going just break up, end it and go with the next person that you wanted? Just remember that you get what you ask for. As Tyler Perry applied in his movie “Why Did I Get Married?” this is when the 80/20 rule comes into effect
“The 80/20 Rule is simple. In a healthy relationship, you get about 80 per cent of what you need/want from your partner. They are caring, respectful and share a lot of the same interests as you, but then you meet someone who catches your attention for an unknown reason. It may well be because they fulfill the missing 20 per cent in your relationship – namely the sexual component. Because that 20 per cent has been missing for so long, you quickly conclude, “Hey, this person has everything I am looking for in a partner.” This can be a relationship killer. Since you jump genitals-first for this new interest, you may have given up your 80 per cent loving partner for a 20 per cent fling. The regret automatically sets in.”
In long relationships people assume that they’re not getting enough from the relationship and always jump on the next ship that comes into port but why do that when you may have the BEST thing that ever happened to you? People cheat for the dumbest reason’s all we can do is live and learn from the experience. No matter what it seems like, everyone will get cheated on at one point in life and what you do from there is up to you.
References:
http://travismagazine.wordpress.com/2009/02/10/why-we-cheat-the-8020-rule/
Tyler Perry “Why Did I get Married?”
There are a million questions you can ask these people but most likely there answer will be “I don’t know.” Some might not have a clear definite answer to this question, so once again “WHY DO PEOPLE CHEAT IN RELATIONSHIPS?!”
Top 4 reasons people cheat in relationships:
1. Boredom: They ‘re tired of being with the same person after so long they want something new
2. The Rush: They like the RUSH of keeping secrets and the risk of almost getting caught it gets there adrenaline pumping
3. Revenge: They cheated on you so you cheat on them
4. You allow them to: The person forgives you . . .this just shows that your allowing them to get away with it so they’re going to keep doing it
For those who cheat instead of messing with the persons head why don’t you just break up? Seriously . . . that’s my question for you “WHY DON’T YOU JUST BREAK UP WITH THEM?” Instead of keeping the relationship going just break up, end it and go with the next person that you wanted? Just remember that you get what you ask for. As Tyler Perry applied in his movie “Why Did I Get Married?” this is when the 80/20 rule comes into effect
“The 80/20 Rule is simple. In a healthy relationship, you get about 80 per cent of what you need/want from your partner. They are caring, respectful and share a lot of the same interests as you, but then you meet someone who catches your attention for an unknown reason. It may well be because they fulfill the missing 20 per cent in your relationship – namely the sexual component. Because that 20 per cent has been missing for so long, you quickly conclude, “Hey, this person has everything I am looking for in a partner.” This can be a relationship killer. Since you jump genitals-first for this new interest, you may have given up your 80 per cent loving partner for a 20 per cent fling. The regret automatically sets in.”
In long relationships people assume that they’re not getting enough from the relationship and always jump on the next ship that comes into port but why do that when you may have the BEST thing that ever happened to you? People cheat for the dumbest reason’s all we can do is live and learn from the experience. No matter what it seems like, everyone will get cheated on at one point in life and what you do from there is up to you.
References:
http://travismagazine.wordpress.com/2009/02/10/why-we-cheat-the-8020-rule/
Tyler Perry “Why Did I get Married?”
Thursday, June 17, 2010
Real People Vs Fake People
Today's topic is Real people Vs Fake people
A fake person is the type of person who is all happy happy joy joy in front of your face one minute and the next minute there talking about you behind your back with someone else. For example, say you work with five people and you have that one person who is a complete bitch in the work environment. You think that she is cool with you and some of the other co-workers but she puts on a front so she can get closer to you, and then pushes you into the bottom of a well. I am a very observant and I tend to notice little things such as, when you are talking with someone and your all cool with them and their helping you out and then you turn around and come to me like "I don't know why so and so acts this way and that way . . . Ima go tell management." Are you serious? You’re a good actor but this isn’t movie so I definitely know who not to talk to about anything because you’re just a dishonest & disloyal person.
Fact: Fake people cannot be trusted with important information
A real person you can say is a person who is honest and you would kind of consider your ride or die person. Not saying that real people are not fake sometimes but there just not going to stab you in your back and keep hacking away so you have no more feeling in your back. Real people are usually straight forward, blunt and keep it how it is. Why lie when you can just say what’s on your mind about what needs to be said? An example of this would be you with your peoples, you guys just finished eating something amazing and okay your breathe is a little funky like you say "hi" to someone and they will pass out and real person would have said politely," Yo your breathe is kind of funky I'm just informing you so you don't get played by someone or hurt." That's a good friend and a real person. A fake person would have literally just let your breathe stink up the whole place and texted their friends like "Yo Kevin breathe is ROCCCKIN right now and this shit is funny watching him walk up to girls and them giving him the mean face."
Fact: There are no 100 percent real people (I've come to realize that now)
A fake person is the type of person who is all happy happy joy joy in front of your face one minute and the next minute there talking about you behind your back with someone else. For example, say you work with five people and you have that one person who is a complete bitch in the work environment. You think that she is cool with you and some of the other co-workers but she puts on a front so she can get closer to you, and then pushes you into the bottom of a well. I am a very observant and I tend to notice little things such as, when you are talking with someone and your all cool with them and their helping you out and then you turn around and come to me like "I don't know why so and so acts this way and that way . . . Ima go tell management." Are you serious? You’re a good actor but this isn’t movie so I definitely know who not to talk to about anything because you’re just a dishonest & disloyal person.
Fact: Fake people cannot be trusted with important information
A real person you can say is a person who is honest and you would kind of consider your ride or die person. Not saying that real people are not fake sometimes but there just not going to stab you in your back and keep hacking away so you have no more feeling in your back. Real people are usually straight forward, blunt and keep it how it is. Why lie when you can just say what’s on your mind about what needs to be said? An example of this would be you with your peoples, you guys just finished eating something amazing and okay your breathe is a little funky like you say "hi" to someone and they will pass out and real person would have said politely," Yo your breathe is kind of funky I'm just informing you so you don't get played by someone or hurt." That's a good friend and a real person. A fake person would have literally just let your breathe stink up the whole place and texted their friends like "Yo Kevin breathe is ROCCCKIN right now and this shit is funny watching him walk up to girls and them giving him the mean face."
Fact: There are no 100 percent real people (I've come to realize that now)
Tuesday, June 15, 2010
Facebook Stalker (Topic Chosen by Jeremiah M.)
Today's topic is about the typical facebook stalker. First let’s define what a stalker is 1.To pursue by tracking stealthily. 2. To follow or observe (a person) persistently, especially out of obsession or derangement. (dictionary.com)
NOW that we know what is stalking lets continue with this topic. . . .stalkers tend to stay in the shadows until they want to be noticed. Facebook stalkers are a different breed though, they are those people SOOOOON as you turn on your fb chat you get that message "HEY HOW YOU DOIN!?" "HOW WAS YOUR DAY?" "YOU SHOULD CALL ME SO WE CAN TALK SINCE I STILL DON'T HAVE YOUR NUMBER" . . . .PAUSE . . .step back and let me look at my notifications first before you ask me 21 questions like we married or something.
Sometimes STALKERS come off very nonchalant or casual until you let them in. These people are the ones who hit you up way to much or comment on all your pictures, LITERALLY ALL you pictures, and don't ever get the message that "back the hell up and give me space" type deal. Sometimes when you don't even turn on FB chat they already know your routine, meaning they know when you come on, who your friends, where you be at. They will hit you wit a couple FB comments on your page such as "Why aren't you on FB chat I know you're off school" or "I understand you have a bf but I REALLY want to be friends with you so give me your number and we can chill somewhere" or "Why haven't you hit me back I messaged you 3 days ago at exactly 3:45pm and I seent that you commented your friend LaQuana just 5 mins ago why you avoiding me?" Just little things like that might consider someone a little bit stalkerish.
How to get rid of a FB stalker:
Step 1: Identify the Stalker
Step 2: Tell them to fall back politely
Step 3: If they don't fall back BLOCK THEY ASS!!
. . . .that is all . . .
NOW that we know what is stalking lets continue with this topic. . . .stalkers tend to stay in the shadows until they want to be noticed. Facebook stalkers are a different breed though, they are those people SOOOOON as you turn on your fb chat you get that message "HEY HOW YOU DOIN!?" "HOW WAS YOUR DAY?" "YOU SHOULD CALL ME SO WE CAN TALK SINCE I STILL DON'T HAVE YOUR NUMBER" . . . .PAUSE . . .step back and let me look at my notifications first before you ask me 21 questions like we married or something.
Sometimes STALKERS come off very nonchalant or casual until you let them in. These people are the ones who hit you up way to much or comment on all your pictures, LITERALLY ALL you pictures, and don't ever get the message that "back the hell up and give me space" type deal. Sometimes when you don't even turn on FB chat they already know your routine, meaning they know when you come on, who your friends, where you be at. They will hit you wit a couple FB comments on your page such as "Why aren't you on FB chat I know you're off school" or "I understand you have a bf but I REALLY want to be friends with you so give me your number and we can chill somewhere" or "Why haven't you hit me back I messaged you 3 days ago at exactly 3:45pm and I seent that you commented your friend LaQuana just 5 mins ago why you avoiding me?" Just little things like that might consider someone a little bit stalkerish.
How to get rid of a FB stalker:
Step 1: Identify the Stalker
Step 2: Tell them to fall back politely
Step 3: If they don't fall back BLOCK THEY ASS!!
. . . .that is all . . .
Monday, June 14, 2010
Communication Goes 2 Ways(Topic Chosen By Mario W.)
Topic today is about communication and how people only assume it works one way instead of two.
Every time we are out and about its a habit for us to check our phones or our social networks to see who has sent us a message, but it gets frustrating when you send messages and the only time anyone ever responds or gets in contact with you is when you get in contact with them first.
For example, you always hit someone up maybe everyday and they never hit you up but one day you just don't want to hit no one up and you get the message "so why you ain't hit me up yet?" well maybe cause i shouldn't feel obligated to hit you up all the time. People have to understand that communication is the key to success and that it goes both ways not just one way.
Another example of failed communication is that you always hit someone up via text, phone call or message and they never get back to you. They get mad at you though when you'reout with one of their friends and "supposedly" they weren't invited. Well . . ..if you would have got back to me when i was contacting you like a stalker maybe you would have known. I feel that these type of people if you contact them 3-4 times and they don't get back to you within a month(just because they might be busy) there numbers should be deleted and that takes up less space in your phone.
Word of advice to those who need it before getting mad at someone for not contacting you figure out how much they contacted you and how many times you never contacted them.
Every time we are out and about its a habit for us to check our phones or our social networks to see who has sent us a message, but it gets frustrating when you send messages and the only time anyone ever responds or gets in contact with you is when you get in contact with them first.
For example, you always hit someone up maybe everyday and they never hit you up but one day you just don't want to hit no one up and you get the message "so why you ain't hit me up yet?" well maybe cause i shouldn't feel obligated to hit you up all the time. People have to understand that communication is the key to success and that it goes both ways not just one way.
Another example of failed communication is that you always hit someone up via text, phone call or message and they never get back to you. They get mad at you though when you'reout with one of their friends and "supposedly" they weren't invited. Well . . ..if you would have got back to me when i was contacting you like a stalker maybe you would have known. I feel that these type of people if you contact them 3-4 times and they don't get back to you within a month(just because they might be busy) there numbers should be deleted and that takes up less space in your phone.
Word of advice to those who need it before getting mad at someone for not contacting you figure out how much they contacted you and how many times you never contacted them.
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